The Next Step with Corrie Lo

How to Figure Out Your Values When Nothing Feels Clear

If every decision feels harder than it should - or you keep making choices that look right on paper but feel completely off - there's a good chance you don't know your personal values. Or more likely, you do know them. You've just been overriding them. This question came up during a private event Q&A while I was leading a values exercise, and it's one I hear all the time: what do you do when you can't define your values? In this episode, I'm walking you through exactly how to identify yours - and how to use them as a tool to lead, decide, and set boundaries with so much more ease. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: * Why not knowing your values leads to reduced performance, poor decision making, and lowered motivation * Why most people don't actually need to find their values - they just need to stop overriding them * Why values are the most powerful tool for alignment - in your career, your relationships, and your community * How personal values work as a decision-making filter - and why they make the hard calls so much easier * How values make it easier to set and hold boundaries with confidence * The difference between your intuition and your ego - and why it matters when selecting your values * How to use my 105-value worksheet to identify your top four personal values today * Why your values today may look completely different than they did five or ten years ago - and why that's perfectly normal * How to pressure test your values by running real decisions through them * Why you don't need to get this perfect the first time - and how to know when you've got the right ones TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — The question that sparked this episode: what do you do when you can't define your values? 00:30 — Why the real problem usually isn't that you don't know your values - it's that you're overriding them 01:00 — Why values and leadership go hand in hand 01:30 — How values help you find the right organization, community, and people to surround yourself with 02:00 — Why values are the easiest way to make difficult decisions 02:30 — Why values make setting boundaries so much easier 03:00 — My personal values: family, career, health, and travel 03:30 — How to use the 105-value worksheet to identify your top four 04:00 — Why this process can feel overwhelming - and how to take the pressure off 04:30 — Why your values shift over time - and my personal example of how mine changed after becoming a parent 05:00 — The intuition vs. ego framework: how to tell which voice to listen to when selecting your values 06:00 — How to use intuition as your filter - and why ego gets in the way 06:30 — How to pressure test your values by running decisions through them 07:30 — Recap: why values are a non-negotiable leadership skill 08:00 — How to get started today - and a reminder that you can always change your values as you grow 08:30 — How to grab The Five Overwhelm Culprits™ book + ways to work with Corrie NEXT STEP OPTIONS: ✔️ Discover Your Values Worksheet: http://www.corrielo.com/episode-63 [http://www.corrielo.com/episode-63] ✔️ Take the Overwhelm Culprit Quiz: www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit] ✔️ Connect with Me on Social: Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo] Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo] Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo] LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo [http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo] YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo [https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo] Substack:https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/ [https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/] ✔️ Visit my Website: www.corrielo.com [http://www.corrielo.com/] ✔️ Book me to Speak: www.corrielo.com/speaking [http://www.corrielo.com/speaking] ✔️ Enroll in Coaching: www.corrielo.com/coaching [http://www.corrielo.com/coaching] SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE: Don't miss future episodes where we dive deeper into topics like leadership, personal growth, and turning challenges into opportunities. Hit that subscribe button and join the journey to confident leadership! ✔️ Subscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-next-step-with-corrie-lo/id1789032982] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/4hXHnylbsuyVR1XizW6DL7] ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube Podcasts: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R]

The 5 Overwhelm Culprits™️ | What I Got Wrong the First Time

After my TEDx talk in 2020, I said something on stage that I no longer believe to be true. I said that I never felt overwhelmed. Looking back - that wasn't accurate. I just didn't recognize how it was showing up for me. And that's exactly the problem with high performers. We don't think we're overwhelmed. We think we're just pushing through. In this episode, I'm setting the record straight on what I got wrong about overwhelm and what I know now that changes everything. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: * What I said in my TEDx talk that I no longer believe - and why it matters * Why high performers are often the last to recognize they're overwhelmed * The three things I got completely wrong about overwhelm when I first built this framework * Why overwhelm doesn't always look like chaos - and what it actually looks like in high performers * Why awareness alone is not enough to fix overwhelm * Why overwhelm is not a personal problem - it's a capacity and systems problem * A full breakdown of all Five Overwhelm Culprits™ and how each one keeps you stuck * Why high performers don't slow down when overwhelmed - they push harder, and why that's where the real problem starts * Why overwhelm doesn't go away because life gets easier - it goes away when your strategy matches your reality * What actually needs to change to fix overwhelm for good TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — What I got wrong in my 2020 TEDx talk about overwhelm 01:00 — Where the Five Overwhelm Culprits™ framework came from - and the personal story behind it 02:00 — How I was experiencing overwhelm without recognizing it 03:00 — The three things I believed about overwhelm that turned out to be wrong 04:00 — Why overwhelm isn't always chaos - it can look like over-functioning and emotional numbness 05:00 — Why awareness without the right systems doesn't actually change anything 05:30 — Why overwhelm is a capacity and systems problem - not a time management problem 06:30 — A full breakdown of the Five Overwhelm Culprits™: Clarity, Confidence, Community, Conditioning and Consistency 08:00 — Why high performers push harder instead of slowing down — and why that's where it gets dangerous 08:30 — What "feeling weird" actually means - and why overwhelm doesn't always feel like stress 09:00 — How my life changed after the TEDx - and what I learned navigating it through the framework 10:00 — The real fix: changing your strategy to match your current reality 10:30 — How to grab The Five Overwhelm Culprits™ book + ways to work with Corrie NEXT STEP OPTIONS: ✔️ Order my book: http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook] ✔️ Take the Overwhelm Culprit Quiz: www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit] ✔️ Connect with Me on Social: Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo] Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo] Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo] LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo [http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo] YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo [https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo] Substack: https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/ [https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/] ✔️ Visit my Website: www.corrielo.com [http://www.corrielo.com/] ✔️ Book me to Speak: www.corrielo.com/speaking [http://www.corrielo.com/speaking] ✔️ Enroll in Coaching: www.corrielo.com/coaching [https://www.corrielo.com/coaching] SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE: Don't miss future episodes where we dive deeper into topics like leadership, personal growth, and turning challenges into opportunities. Hit that subscribe button and join the journey to confident leadership! ✔️ Subscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-next-step-with-corrie-lo/id1789032982] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/4hXHnylbsuyVR1XizW6DL7] ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube Podcasts: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R]

The Real Reason Your Habits Aren't Sticking (And What to Do Instead)

How many times have you committed to a new habit, given it everything you had - and then watched it fall apart? And then told yourself you just weren't disciplined enough? I've been there. And I want to set the record straight: it is not a discipline problem. The real reason your habits aren't sticking is because you're treating behavior change like a one-time decision instead of an ongoing experiment. In this episode, I'm breaking down what the data actually says about habit formation - and the simple framework I use to build habits that actually stick. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: * The real reason your habits aren't sticking - and why it has nothing to do with discipline * Why 40–43% of our daily behaviors run on autopilot and what that means for behavior change * The actual data on habit formation - and why the "21 days" rule is completely wrong * Why struggling with consistency isn't the exception - it's the norm, and the numbers back it up * Why you need to stop treating habit change like a one-time decision and start treating it like an experiment * How to identify the specific pattern you're trying to change * How to run a small, controlled test instead of overhauling your entire life at once * The five things to observe when your habit starts to break down: time, energy, environment, boundaries and support * My personal case study: how I finally got consistent with working out after years of experimenting * Why consistency isn't repetition - it's refinement TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — The question that sparked this episode: how do you stay consistent with deep-rooted patterns? 00:45 — Why this is so hard: 40–43% of daily behaviors run on autopilot 01:30 — The data on behavior change: why 88% of people fail to maintain new habits 02:00 — The truth about habit formation: it takes 59–100+ days, not 21 02:30 — You're not failing - you're quitting right before your brain catches up 03:00 — The real reason your habits aren't sticking: you're not experimenting enough 03:30 — How entrepreneurs approach failure - and what it teaches us about habit change 04:00 — Step 1: Identify the specific pattern you want to change 04:30 — Step 2: Run a small, controlled test 05:00 — Step 3: Observe what breaks - time, energy, environment, boundaries, support 06:30 — Step 4: Adjust the variable that failed - don't abandon the habit 07:00 — Step 5: Repeat the process until it becomes autopilot 07:30 — My personal workout habit case study: what finally worked after years of experimenting 08:00 — Recap: consistency is refinement, not repetition 08:30 — Ways to work with Corrie + pre-order The Five Overwhelm Culprits™ NEXT STEP OPTIONS: ✔️ Preorder my book: http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook] ✔️ Take the Overwhelm Culprit Quiz: www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit] ✔️ Connect with Me on Social: Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo] Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo] Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo] LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo [http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo] YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo [https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo] Substack: https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/ [https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/] ✔️ Visit my Website: www.corrielo.com [http://www.corrielo.com/] ✔️ Book me to Speak: www.corrielo.com/speaking [http://www.corrielo.com/speaking] ✔️ Enroll in Coaching: www.corrielo.com/coaching [http://www.corrielo.com/coaching] SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE: Don't miss future episodes where we dive deeper into topics like leadership, personal growth, and turning challenges into opportunities. Hit that subscribe button and join the journey to confident leadership! ✔️ Subscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-next-step-with-corrie-lo/id1789032982] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/4hXHnylbsuyVR1XizW6DL7] ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube Podcasts: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R]

How to Reset Your Life in 30 Days (My "Month of Me" Framework)

Have you ever stood somewhere beautiful - truly present for the first time in what feels like forever - and thought, why don't I have this every single day? That's exactly what happened to me at a lighthouse in Portland. I was on vacation, my son strapped to my chest, salty breeze on my face - and for the first time in years after a high-conflict divorce and what felt like one crisis after another, I was actually there. Mentally present. And it stopped me in my tracks. What I realized in that moment changed everything: every yes I had been giving to everyone else was a no to myself. To my peace. To my presence. To my health. So I went home and launched a 30-day experiment I now call the Month of Me™ - and it was one of the most transformational things I've ever done. The habits I built during that first Month of Me™? I still use them today, over eight years later. If you're constantly saying yes to everyone else and no to yourself, struggling to feel present, or just know your self-care is running on fumes - this episode is your starting point. By the end, you'll have a simple, completely customizable 30-day framework to start saying yes to you. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: * The lighthouse moment that sparked the Month of Me™ - and the realization that changed how I approach everything * Why every yes to someone else is quietly becoming a no to yourself * How to rate your mental and physical health across five key areas so you know exactly where to start * How to use the 7-step Month of Me™ framework to build a plan that's completely customized to you * How to identify your roadblocks before they derail you - and set boundaries to protect your 30 days * What to do when some things work and some things don't - and how to keep pivoting until you find what sticks * How to access the Month of Me™ AI companion tool on my website to build your own custom plan TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — The question that sparked this episode: how do you start a Month of Me™ ? 01:00 — The lighthouse moment: standing present for the first time in years 02:30 — The realization: every yes to others was a no to myself 03:30 — How the Month of Me™ was born - and the Facebook announcement that kicked it off 04:30 — Step 1: Rate your mental and physical health on a scale of 1–10 05:30 — The three areas I focused on first - and why I kept it to three 06:00 — Step 2: List out what's not working - these become your no's 07:00 — Step 3: List out what's worked before - these become your yes's 07:45 — Step 4: Map your self-care commitments onto your calendar 08:30 — Step 5: Identify your roadblocks and set boundaries around them 09:30 — Step 6: Try it for 30 days and see what changes 10:00 — Step 7: Pivot back to the framework and keep refining 11:00 — The Month of Me™ AI companion tool + ways to work with me NEXT STEP OPTIONS: ✔️ Pre-order my book: http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook] ✔️ Month of Me™ AI companion: https://corrielo.com/product/month-of-me-method-ai-companion/ [https://corrielo.com/product/month-of-me-method-ai-companion/] ✔️ Take the Overwhelm Culprit Quiz: www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit] ✔️ Connect with Me on Social: Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo] Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo] Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo] LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo [http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo] YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo [https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo] Substack: https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/ [https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/] ✔️ Visit my Website: www.corrielo.com [http://www.corrielo.com/] ✔️ Book me to Speak: www.corrielo.com/speaking [http://www.corrielo.com/speaking] ✔️ Enroll in Coaching: www.corrielo.com/coaching [http://www.corrielo.com/coaching] SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE: Don't miss future episodes where we dive deeper into topics like leadership, personal growth, and turning challenges into opportunities. Hit that subscribe button and join the journey to confident leadership! ✔️ Subscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-next-step-with-corrie-lo/id1789032982] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/4hXHnylbsuyVR1XizW6DL7] ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube Podcasts: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R]

Feeling Like You're Failing at Everything? Start This Conversation

"Currently feeling like I'm failing in all aspects of my life. I'm looking for conversation starters from my spouse." This wasn't even a question - it was a statement someone shared during a recent private event Q&A. And honestly? I felt seen just reading it. I've been there. More than once. The truth is, when you're feeling like you're failing at everything, the last thing you want to do is have a big, heavy, "we need to talk" conversation. But staying silent and carrying it alone isn't the answer either. What you actually need is a safe, low-pressure way to let someone in - so you can get the support you deserve without it turning into a defensive spiral. In this episode, I'm sharing the exact conversation scripts I wish I'd had during some of the hardest seasons of my life - from leaving an abusive marriage as a new single mom, to navigating the jump from one kid to two, to figuring out how to ask for help without feeling like a burden. These are practical, ready-to-use prompts you can bring to your partner, your family or anyone in your support system - tonight if you need to. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: * Why feeling like you're failing at everything is usually not failure at all - and what it's actually telling you * Why I felt like I was failing three separate times in my life, and what they all had in common * How to open a vulnerable conversation without triggering defensiveness or making it feel like a crisis * Scripts for naming your feelings without self-attacking or trauma dumping on the people you love * How to get clear on what kind of support you actually need - and how to ask for it directly * Why "I feel like I'm failing at everything" is too vague to be helpful - and how to make it specific * How to invite your partner or support person into the conversation as a teammate, not a fixer * The step nobody teaches: how to close the loop so the conversation doesn't end on a heavy note * How this connects to the Lack of Community Overwhelm Culprit™ from my upcoming book, The Five Overwhelm Culprits™ TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — The audience statement that sparked this episode 00:45 — Who I am and what I do 01:00 — The three times I felt like I was failing - and what they all had in common 01:45 — Why this is really a Lack of Community Overwhelm Culprit™ issue 02:15 — Don't start with a heavy conversation - start with a safe one 02:30 — Gentle openers: low-pressure scripts to start the conversation 03:30 — How to name your feelings without spiraling or self-attacking 04:30 — Creating clarity around what kind of support you need 05:00 — Scripts to direct your partner without shutting them down 05:30 — Inviting partnership: shifting from "I'm failing" to "we're a team" 06:00 — Making it specific: breaking down what's actually weighing on you 06:45 — Closing the loop so the conversation ends in connection, not heaviness 07:30 — Recap of all the scripts and steps 08:00 — My book The Five Overwhelm Culprits™ - launching May 12th, available for pre-order in the show notes NEXT STEP OPTIONS: ✔️ Preorder my book: http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook] ✔️ Take the Overwhelm Culprit Quiz: www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit [http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit] ✔️ Connect with Me on Social: Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo] Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo] Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo] LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo [http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo] YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo [http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo [https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo] Substack: https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/ [https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/] ✔️ Visit my Website: www.corrielo.com [http://www.corrielo.com/] ✔️ Book me to Speak: www.corrielo.com/speaking [http://www.corrielo.com/speaking] ✔️ Enroll in Coaching: www.corrielo.com/coaching [https://www.corrielo.com/coaching] SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE: Don't miss future episodes where we dive deeper into topics like leadership, personal growth, and turning challenges into opportunities. Hit that subscribe button and join the journey to confident leadership! ✔️ Subscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-next-step-with-corrie-lo/id1789032982] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/4hXHnylbsuyVR1XizW6DL7] ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube Podcasts: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R [https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R]