The Sensible Split

35. Family and Friends in Divorce: Balancing Advice, Support, and Boundaries

Family members rushing in with opinions during divorce creates a perfect storm of love and chaos. The fierce loyalty of those closest to us often translates into advice-giving that, while well-intentioned, can derail the resolution process and leave divorcing individuals feeling more confused than supported. This dynamic is very common, creating additional layers of conflict that weren't there before. I recently joined Tracy Callahan on the Divorce Coaches Academy podcast to discuss this delicate balance between emotional support and strategic clarity during divorce. Through this episode, you'll discover specific techniques for setting boundaries with well-meaning relatives, understanding when outside opinions are creating more harm than good, and learning how to request the type of support you actually need. Get full show notes, transcript, and more info here: https://www.laurenfaircoaching.com/35 [https://www.laurenfaircoaching.com/35]

34. Dividing Retirement Accounts in Divorce: QDRO Mistakes to Avoid

Retirement accounts are often among the most valuable assets in a divorce, but dividing them the wrong way can trigger serious tax consequences or even result in lost benefits. In this episode, I break down the basics of QDROs—Qualified Domestic Relations Orders—including when they're needed, how they function, and what makes them different from other types of retirement account divisions. I also walk you through five common QDRO-related mistakes people make, from delaying the process to using vague settlement language, and explain how to avoid each one. Whether you're in the middle of your divorce or think you're done once the paperwork is filed, this episode will help you make sure your retirement assets are properly protected. Get full show notes, transcript, and more info here: https://www.laurenfaircoaching.com/34 [https://www.laurenfaircoaching.com/34]

33. How To Afford Your Divorce: 10 Payment Options

The cost of divorce can feel overwhelming, especially when you're already dealing with the emotional and practical challenges of separation. In this episode, I'm breaking down practical solutions for affording the legal process, including both traditional and lesser-known options that can help make divorce more financially manageable. I explore ten specific methods to fund your divorce, from straightforward options like personal savings to more creative solutions such as legal fee financing companies and family law attorney property liens. While focusing on attorney fees, these payment strategies can also apply to other divorce professionals like mediators, coaches, and financial advisors. Get full show notes, transcript, and more info here: https://www.laurenfaircoaching.com/33 [https://www.laurenfaircoaching.com/33]

32. Co-parenting Apps: Tools for More Peaceful Post-divorce Communication

Are you struggling with co-parenting communication? The constant back-and-forth texts, missed appointments, and disagreements about expenses can make an already difficult situation even more stressful. What if there were a digital solution designed specifically to address these challenges? In this episode, I break down the most popular co-parenting apps on the market, explaining their unique features and benefits. You'll discover how these digital tools can reduce direct conflict, create accountability, provide clear documentation for legal purposes, and ultimately create a more peaceful environment for both parents and children Get full show notes, transcript, and more info here: https://www.laurenfaircoaching.com/32 [https://www.laurenfaircoaching.com/32]

31. Resolving "My Money vs. Our Money" Conflicts in Divorce

Have you ever felt like your spouse treats the money they earn as exclusively theirs, not yours as a couple? This "it's my money" mindset can create major challenges, especially when navigating a divorce. As the sole breadwinner, they may feel entitled to control the finances and make unilateral decisions without considering your contributions or needs. In this episode, I dive into the problems that arise when one spouse believes they alone have the right to manage the money in the marriage and divorce. Tune in to learn how to navigate this challenging situation and advocate for your financial rights in divorce. Get full show notes, transcript, and more info here: https://www.laurenfaircoaching.com/31 [https://www.laurenfaircoaching.com/31]