Beyond Our DnA Podcast

Link for Love Language Couples Card game. https://amzn.to/2HXnBBu [https://amzn.to/2HXnBBu] Link for His & Her Needs Book. https://amzn.to/35XpBBJ [https://amzn.to/35XpBBJ] Link for How to Be a Godly Husband Book. [https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00CRI2TJI/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_api_glc_OaB7Fb2V00Z1C] Link for How to Be a Godly Wife Book. [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1979025312/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_api_glc_fabc_raB7FbWAR75H4] Follow us on Instagram @BeyondOurDnAPodcast [https://www.instagram.com/beyondourdnapodcast/] 1. What have we learned during this 2020 year * Highs and Lows Looking forward to 2021 * Building towards the future * Podcast growth/guests * Growing in Christ How have we grown together as a couple?  Thank you for your support Question Email us your questions or comments at BeyondOurDnA@gmail.com [BeyondOurDnA@gmail.com]

Apologies for the echo. We had some audio issues while recording that could not be fixed in time to launch on schedule. Link for Love Language Couples Card game. https://amzn.to/2HXnBBu Link for His & Her Needs Book. https://amzn.to/35XpBBJ Follow us on Instagram @BeyondOurDnAPodcast Special guest Shalena LaWatsch  How did you and Max meet?  What challenges have you and Max had?  What advice would you give those nervous about starting an interracial relationship? Questions  Email us your questions or comments at BeyondOurDnA@gmail.com

Link for Love Language Couples Card game. https://amzn.to/2HXnBBu [https://amzn.to/2HXnBBu] Link for His & Her Needs Book. https://amzn.to/35XpBBJ [https://amzn.to/35XpBBJ] Follow us on Instagram @BeyondOurDnAPodcast [https://www.instagram.com/beyondourdnapodcast/] 1. 1. Being the only white/black person there * https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.huffpost.com/entry/close-interraacial-friendships_l_5f5122c8c5b6946f3eaed704/amp [https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.huffpost.com/entry/close-interraacial-friendships_l_5f5122c8c5b6946f3eaed704/amp] * average white person has 1 black friend, and black person has 8 white friend (isolation) * Summer Soirée (hot mess) (acceptance) * Ambers Mothers party, how David felt. * Different perspectives Inappropriate comments/conversations * Saying the “N” word, or speaking negatively about a white or black person * Should certain topics be off the table? Lessons we learned * Not always projecting; not everything is about race * Davids experience: Uncomfortability can be just mean that you are unfamiliar; they ended up being amazing cool people Questions Email us your questions or comments at BeyondOurDnA@gmail.com [BeyondOurDnA@gmail.com]

Link for Love Language Couples Card game. https://amzn.to/2HXnBBu [https://amzn.to/2HXnBBu] Link for His & Her Needs Book. https://amzn.to/35XpBBJ [https://amzn.to/35XpBBJ] Follow us on Instagram @BeyondOurDnAPodcast [https://www.instagram.com/beyondourdnapodcast/] 1. Both of David and Amber’s childhood. 1. Family size, Amber being the last of eight, 2. David’s home schooled/super strict parents, divorce, and religion. 2. You must have alignment on values 1. Religion (Christmas or no Christmas) 1. “All married couples face stress during holidays. Talk about your cultural differences in how holidays were celebrated when you were kids. Realize that holidays give the two of you a chance to discuss how your family will handle both the differences and similarities in your backgrounds.3 Be proud of your cultural traditions and work together to create ways to celebrate them that will be meaningful to you both. 2. Children (Discipline, education, etc) 1. No yelling, or spankings 3. Decision making, outside influence(how much should your family & friends influence your decisions) 3. Positive, is how similar Amber and David’s values are, and our listeners should be open to everyone. 1. Premarital counseling brought up questions we had not thought about Email us your questions or comments at BeyondOurDnA@gmail.com [BeyondOurDnA@gmail.com]

Link for Love Language Couples Card game. https://amzn.to/2HXnBBu [https://amzn.to/2HXnBBu] Link for His & Her Needs Book. https://amzn.to/35XpBBJ [https://amzn.to/35XpBBJ] Follow us on Instagram @BeyondOurDnAPodcast [https://www.instagram.com/beyondourdnapodcast/] Research: Suggests that interracial couples are more likely to be dehumanized than same-race couples.. people tend to exhibit more antisocial behavior and are more likely to use aggression and even violence toward dehumanized targets. 1. 1. “Some people are still not comfortable with interracial relationships, or at least they’re a lot less comfortable than they would appear to be,” she said. 2. “Acknowledging these biases is the first step to figuring out why people feel that way and determining what can be done so they won’t.” https://www.washington.edu/news/2016/08/17/study-finds-bias-disgust-toward-mixed-race-couples/ [https://www.washington.edu/news/2016/08/17/study-finds-bias-disgust-toward-mixed-race-couples/] You're only with him for the money or with her for her body. 1. 1. Story about when a woman accused Amber of being with David because he is rich Jezebel stereotype Judgement comes from all sides (IG Comment) 1. 1. Called me a draconian reptilian and suggested that Amber would not be accepted into Heaven, all for financial stability. 60 years ago you would have been lynched 2. Comments in public- Stares, insults, jibes, slights, and whispers Does the sellout mentality only apply when you're dating a white person? 1. 1. Dating app stories: “I only prefer the same race” and why you could be missing your soulmate. How do you cope with these situations when they occur? 1. 1. Leaning on one another for solace, comfort and support even if the other person doesn’t fully understand. https://www.verywellmind.com/interracial-marriage-challenges-2303129 [https://www.verywellmind.com/interracial-marriage-challenges-2303129] 2. You must present a united front. It’s us against the world. Email us your questions or comments at BeyondOurDnA@gmail.com [BeyondOurDnA@gmail.com]