Her New Lens with Dr. Tricia Rose Stone

The Relationship You Desire Begins as a Vision

Build the Vision for Love: Naming the Old Pattern and Creating a New Felt Sense In episode six of the Empowered Vision season of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone shares how she once feared love after repeated dysfunctional relationships that left her feeling unvalued, and how a rock-bottom relationship forced her to confront the “vision” of love she had unconsciously been recreating. She explains that relationship lenses are inherited from early family dynamics and cultural narratives, shaping a self-image that repeats patterns like abandonment, drama, or unworthiness. Tricia describes her own childhood imprint with an alcoholic, unavailable father, and a later emotional breakdown that led her to stop dating and focus on healing, nervous system awareness, and deliberate creation. She outlines building a new relationship vision from the inside out—prioritizing desired feelings like safety, security, and being valued—using journaling, reminders, gratitude, creative visioning, and identity work, then letting go with trust; eight months later, she met her husband, whom she has been with for nine years. 00:00 Fear of Love 01:53 Inherited Relationship Lenses 04:26 Patterns and Self Image 06:54 My Father and Abandonment 08:27 Name the Old Vision 09:38 Rock Bottom Clarity 11:45 My Rock Bottom Story 17:09 Building a New Vision 22:23 Daily Practices to Align 26:40 Letting Go and Trust 28:48 Weekly Takeaways and Close

The Moment You Can No Longer Abandon Yourself

This episode of Her New Lens focuses on “empowered vision,” defined as seeing truthfully when old identities no longer fit, and features guest Kim Korven, who shares her recent decision to end her second marriage after 15 years due to boundarylessness and feeling like her husband’s emotional support person. Kim describes recognizing patterns rooted in childhood programming around earning love, choosing to end relationships without making the other person the enemy, and recalling earlier reinventions, including peacefully divorcing her first husband, raising children, and returning to law school with unexpected support and scholarships after “jumping off the cliff” in faith. She discusses how tension in a home harms kids, practices that build self-love (breathwork, Miracle Morning SAVERS, and alphabet-based gratitude), and her work helping families navigate divorce peacefully and strategically with resources like journal prompts, scripts, and educational modules. 00:00 Empowered Vision Intro 01:29 Meet Kim Korven 02:28 Choosing Yourself Again 04:07 Peaceful Divorce Mindset 06:27 Law School Leap of Faith 09:25 Reframing and Being Caught 11:47 Seeing Your Growth Clearly 14:14 The Guitar Boundary Wakeup 18:40 Ending Without Making Enemies 19:44 April Fourth Reveal 20:01 Trusting The Leap 20:53 Proof From Past 23:06 Morning Practices 26:27 Alphabet Gratitude 28:33 Advice For Mothers 34:13 Courage To Stay Or Go 35:42 Helping Families Divorce 38:38 New Lens Closing

The Stories Blocking Your Vision

In episode four of the Empowered Vision season of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone explores self-sabotage through Gay Hendricks’ “upper limit problem” from The Big Leap: an unconscious “internal thermostat” that pulls us back when success, love, joy, or abundance exceed what we believe we can allow. She shares two personal upper limits—fear that visible success will lead to isolation and fear she can’t balance success with wellness, relationships, travel, and interests—then describes common upper-limit behaviors like picking fights, worrying, blame and criticism, procrastination, and mindless scrolling, often appearing right after breakthroughs. She outlines Hendricks’ four underlying barriers (feeling fundamentally flawed; disloyalty/abandonment; burden; capacity) and connects the pattern to staying in the “zone of excellence” instead of the “zone of genius.” She offers steps to dismantle it: name the barrier, catch the pattern in real time, complete the vision (especially for capacity fears), and question isolation fears, including learning from “expanders,” and closes with a weekly challenge and a teaser for next week’s guest episode. 00:00 Season Recap Setup 01:05 Personal Upper Limits 02:21 Inner Thermostat Explained 06:21 Upper Limit Behaviors 13:04 Four Hidden Barriers 17:25 Zone of Genius 21:46 Dismantle The Ceiling 24:52 Weekly Challenge Wrap 25:43 Closing Next Week

The Art of Seeing It First

Tricia Rose Stone presents episode three of the Empowered Vision Series, focusing on visualization as a deliberate, trainable, science-backed skill rather than wishful thinking. Inspired by Maya Raichoora’s book Visualize and supported by ideas she cites from Joe Dispenza, she explains that the predictive brain can’t easily distinguish vividly imagined experiences from real ones, making anxiety a form of unconscious negative visualization, and that deliberate visualization can create new mental patterns. She shares personal examples of manifesting her husband after 7 months of focused visualization, and of manifesting an optometry practice in Boston after recognizing the city and finding a practice one block from a park she’d stayed near. She outlines outcome, process, and creative visualization, recommends a daily “ideal day” rehearsal, emphasizes small, consistent practice, self-belief, and writing down bold visions. 00:00 Series Setup 01:06 Why Visualization Works 02:42 Brain Prediction Patterns 05:32 Anxiety as Visualization 07:30 Athletes Proven Rehearsal 08:32 Manifesting True Love 13:25 Three Visualization Types 18:56 Boston Practice Manifestation 24:09 Daily Ideal Day Routine 27:34 Self-Belief Matters 29:53 Weekly Takeaways Outro

Into Me See: The Art of True Intimacy with Xanet Pailet

On “Her New Lens,” Tricia interviews Xanet, a sex and intimacy educator, coach, and author (and former healthcare lawyer/executive) who spent 26 years in a sexless marriage, left at 50, and then began a 15-year career helping individuals and couples rebuild connection. They discuss how emotional safety underpins desire—especially for women—and how lack of safety, trauma, shame, and disconnection from the body can shut down libido, while men may feel emotionally safe after sex, creating a common mismatch. Xanet explains what safety feels like (being heard without judgment or fixing), emphasizes that intimacy and sex are learnable skills, and highlights conflict repair as key to long-term relationships. They address menopause and libido myths, noting bad or performative sex and “obligation sex,” and describe how new relationship energy can revive desire at any age. Xanet shares guidance for singles on examining patterns and red flags, and introduces her books, “The Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit” and “Living an Orgasmic Life,” offering lenses of pleasure and vulnerability. 00:00 Welcome and Setup 00:28 Meet Xanet 02:13 Her Turning Point 06:08 Safety Drives Desire 09:03 Men vs Women Safety 11:16 What Safety Feels Like 13:28 Intimacy Skills Learned 16:38 Menopause Desire Myths 17:15 Bad Sex and Obligation 19:06 Long Term Connection 20:21 Attunement Equals Safety 21:15 Attachment Wounds Explained 22:09 Preparing for New Love 25:09 Patterns and Red Flags 27:37 Relationships as Healing 28:39 Pressure to Pick Right 30:15 Healing Takes Time 31:43 Inside the New Book 34:06 Two Lenses to Try 36:37 Final Reflections