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Ep 105, The Thieves Hiding in the Valley of Divorce

There are bandits hiding in the valley of divorce—and they're after more than your marriage.   Fear whispers that your future is over. Shame tells you you'll never recover. Guilt keeps replaying yesterday, and lies slowly begin to sound like truth.   In this episode of Redeemed Identity After Divorce, we're continuing our Valley of the Shadow of Death series by exposing the spiritual bandits that try to steal your identity while you're walking through one of life's deepest valleys. Psalm 23 reminds us that God never intended for us to build a home in the valley. We are called to walk through it—with the Good Shepherd leading every step.   Together we'll uncover: • Why divorce often feels like walking through the valley of the shadow of death • The four "bandits" that try to rob you of hope after divorce • How fear, shame, guilt, and lies work together to redefine your identity • What Scripture says about who you really are • Practical prayers to help you keep moving forward • How to stop camping in the valley and begin walking toward healing   No matter what you've lost, your identity has never been determined by your divorce. It has always been determined by Christ.   If you've been feeling trapped in the cave, discouraged by the journey, or wondering if you'll ever feel like yourself again, this episode is for you.   Scriptures Mentioned: • Psalm 23 • Psalm 27:1 • Isaiah 43:2 • Romans 8:1 • Ephesians 1   Resources Healing After Divorce: 35 Prayers Rooted in God's Word for Divorced Christians   If this episode encouraged you, would you take a moment to follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs hope today? Every share helps another hurting heart discover that healing—and identity—can be found in Christ.   We are the fragrance of Christ, Dana   If this ministry has blessed you, you can buy me coffee through Ko-Fi:   BUY ME COFFEE LINK: https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations [https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations]   LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/links/] An encouraging word article: https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/02/19/a-word-of-encouragement-for-you/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/02/19/a-word-of-encouragement-for-you/]   Embracing Christ's Design: https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/03/26/embracing-christs-design-amid-divorce/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/03/26/embracing-christs-design-amid-divorce/]   SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS: Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/ [https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/] TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity [http://www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/# [https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/]   Are you a divorced Christian needing encouragement? Do you struggle with how to see yourself since your divorce? This free ebook will encourage you and remind you who and WHOSE you are!   Amazon: Healing After Divorce Paperback: https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp [https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp]   WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW:   PODCAST: APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447]   YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce [https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce]   Guest Scheduling https://redeemed-identity.com/scheduling/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/scheduling/]   FOR MUSIC "SMILE": Music I use: Bensound.com Funny Song License code: DM5CQOZKF0EUTN1L   Hashtags: #divorcedlife, #christiandivorce, #divorce, #divorcedchristian

Episode 104: The Valley of Divorce Has Echoes

The divorce may be over, but the voices often remain. In this episode, Dana explores one of the most overlooked realities of life after divorce: the echoes that linger long after the event itself has ended. Old accusations, painful memories, labels, rejection, shame, and fear can continue to reverberate through our minds, influencing how we see ourselves and our future. Drawing from Psalm 23 and the ongoing Valley of the Shadow of Death of Divorce (VOSOD) series, you'll discover why echoes are so powerful, how they shape identity, and how to recognize the difference between the voices of the past and the voice of the Shepherd. If you've ever found yourself replaying old conversations, reliving painful moments, or struggling to silence the accusations that follow relational loss, this episode is for you. In This Episode: * Why the valley of divorce has echoes * How old wounds continue speaking into the present * The difference between an echo and the voice of truth * Recognizing the lies that shape identity * Learning to hear the Shepherd above the noise Identity Check: * What voices from your past still influence how you see yourself? * Are you listening to an echo or to truth? * What labels have you accepted that God never gave you? * Whose voice has the greatest authority in your life today? Key Scripture: Psalm 23 The valley may contain echoes, but the Shepherd's voice is still greater. Blessings, Dana   BUY ME COFFEE LINK: If this ministry has blessed you, you can buy me coffee through Ko-Fi: BUY ME COFFEE LINK: https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations [https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations]   WEBSITE: www.redeemed-identity.com [http://www.redeemed-identity.com] LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/links/]   SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS: Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/ [https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/] TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity [http://www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/# [https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/] Amazon: Healing After Divorce Paperback: https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp [https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp]   Healing After Divorce ebook https://a.co/d/etcpVyR [https://a.co/d/etcpVyR]     WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW:   PODCAST:   APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447]   YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce [https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce]

Ep 102, When the Valley of Death Becomes Home After Divorce

When the Valley of Death Becomes Home After Divorce, The danger of camping in grief and unhealed pain. Have you ever felt like you've been stuck in the same painful place for years after divorce? Maybe you've survived the crisis, signed the papers, rebuilt parts of your life, and yet something still feels heavy. The grief lingers. The joy feels distant. The darkness keeps pulling you back. In this episode, Dana shares a deeply personal story about her own struggle with depression seven years after her divorce and the surprising revelation the Holy Spirit gave her: stale grief. Drawing from Psalm 9:9-10 and Hebrews 4:15-16, we'll explore what happens when we stop walking through the Valley of the Shadow of Death and unintentionally make a home there. We'll talk about the caves we hide in—grief, bitterness, anger, unforgiveness, trauma—and how God lovingly calls us back into the healing journey. If you've ever wondered why you're still carrying pain from your divorce, this episode offers hope, practical insight, and a powerful healing exercise to help you identify areas of unprocessed grief. In This Episode: * What "stale grief" is and how it can affect your healing • Why unresolved pain often turns into depression, hopelessness, or emotional stagnation • The dangers of camping in the caves of anger, bitterness, trauma, and unforgiveness • Why real faith includes honest conversations with God • Lessons Dana learned during her own "cavern season" of healing • A practical journaling exercise to uncover hidden grief and begin processing it with the Holy Spirit • Truth Bombs for navigating the Valley of Divorce with purpose and hope Key Scriptures: 📖 Psalm 9:9-10 📖 Hebrews 4:15-16 📖 Philippians 3:13-14 Homework Challenge: Create a timeline of the significant losses, disappointments, betrayals, and painful experiences in your life. Then ask the Holy Spirit to reveal any areas where grief remains unfinished and invite Him into the healing process. Remember: Divorce is a sandstorm... and there are days it will feel like someone stole your umbrella. But Jesus has you covered. ❤️ Resources: 🌐 Website: https://redeemed-identity.com [https://redeemed-identity.com/] 📧 Email Dana: Dana@redeemed-identity.com [Dana@redeemed-identity.com] Connect With Redeemed Identity After Divorce If this episode encouraged you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may be walking through their own valley.   We are the fragrance of Christ, Dana     LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/links/] An encouraging word article: https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/02/19/a-word-of-encouragement-for-you/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/02/19/a-word-of-encouragement-for-you/] Embracing Christ's Design: https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/03/26/embracing-christs-design-amid-divorce/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/03/26/embracing-christs-design-amid-divorce/]   SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS:   Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/ [https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/] TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity [http://www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/# [https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/]   Free ebook: Who Am I After Divorce? Contact Dana@redeemed-identity.com. Are you a divorced Christian needing encouragement? Do you struggle with how to see yourself since your divorce? This free ebook will encourage you and remind you who and WHOSE you are! Amazon: Healing After Divorce Paperback: https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp [https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp]   WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW: PODCAST: APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447]   YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce [https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce]   Guest Scheduling https://redeemed-identity.com/scheduling/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/scheduling/]   FOR MUSIC "SMILE": Music I use: Bensound.com Funny Song License code: DM5CQOZKF0EUTN1L   Hashtags: #divorcedlife, #christiandivorce, #divorce, #divorcedchristian

Ep 100, What Divorce, Healing and God Taught Me

Welcome to a very special milestone episode of Redeemed Identity After Divorce! One hundred episodes ago, I started this podcast with a simple desire: to help divorced Christians find healing, hope, and their identity in Christ. What I didn't realize was that God would use this journey to transform me as well. In this episode, I'm reflecting on where I was when this ministry began, the fears I had, the lessons I've learned through divorce and healing, and the incredible ways God has shown His faithfulness along the way. You'll also hear some encouragement for your own healing journey, a few truths that changed my perspective after divorce, and a special Healing with Humor segment to celebrate episode 100. If you've ever wondered whether God can redeem your pain, restore your identity, or use your story for His glory, this episode is for you. 💜 In This Episode: • Where I was emotionally before starting the podcast • What God taught me through healing after divorce • Lessons learned from 100 episodes and countless conversations • Why your divorce does not define your identity • How God redeems pain and restores purpose • A special Healing with Humor anniversary segment 📖 Scripture Mentioned: • Romans 11:29 • Isaiah 61:3 • Psalm 34:18 🎧 Resources: Visit www. Redeemed-Identity.com for books, podcast episodes, articles, and encouragement for your healing journey.   ⭐ If this podcast has encouraged you, please consider following, rating, and reviewing the show. Your support helps more divorced Christians discover hope, healing, and their redeemed identity in Christ. Remember: Your divorce is part of your story, but it is not your identity.   Blessings,  Dana   BUY ME COFFEE LINK: If this podcast has encouraged you, you can support my work here ☕💛 It truly helps me keep creating episodes for people healing after divorce. https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations [https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations]   WEBSITE: www.redeemed-identity.com [http://www.redeemed-identity.com] LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/links/] SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS:   Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/ [https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/] TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity [http://www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/# [https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/] Amazon: Healing After Divorce Paperback: https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp [https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp]   WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW: PODCAST: APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447]   YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce [https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce]

Ep 99, Unforgiveness After Divorce, Why Your Soul Feels Exhausted

Unforgiveness doesn’t just affect your emotions — it affects your mind, body, and spirit. In this episode, we talk honestly about the hidden exhaustion that comes from carrying bitterness, replaying betrayal, and holding onto wounds from divorce, rejection, or deep hurt. Forgiveness is not pretending it didn’t happen. It’s not excusing abuse or giving someone access to hurt you again. It’s releasing the burden so your soul can finally breathe again. If you’ve been feeling emotionally drained, spiritually stuck, anxious, angry, or unable to move forward after divorce, this episode is for you. We’ll talk about: * Why unforgiveness keeps your nervous system in survival mode * The spiritual consequences of bitterness * Why forgiveness does NOT mean reconciliation * How trauma and resentment affect the body * The difference between forgiveness and trust * How the Holy Spirit helps us forgive daily * Why letting go is part of healing Scriptures referenced: * Matthew 11:28-30 * Ephesians 4:31-32 * Matthew 6:14-15 * Colossians 3:13 * Philippians 4:13 * Luke 23:34 If this episode encouraged you, please leave a review and share it with someone who may need healing and freedom today.   We are the fragrance of Christ, Dana   BUY ME COFFEE LINK:   If this podcast has encouraged you, you can support my work here ☕💛 It truly helps me keep creating episodes for people healing after divorce. https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations [https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations]   WEBSITE: www.redeemed-identity.com [http://www.redeemed-identity.com] LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/links/]   SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS:   Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/ [https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/] TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity [http://www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/# [https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/]   Amazon: Healing After Divorce Paperback: https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp [https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp]   WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW:   PODCAST: APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447]   YOUTUBE:   https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce [https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce]