The Purple Passion Project-Intimacy & Sex Podcast for Midlife & Beyond

48. The Marriage Pause Button-Why Desire Dies & How to Turn it Back On

00:00 Introduction 02:15 What Is the Marriage Pause Button? 13:36 The Three Levels of Connection 31:46 How One Person Can Change a Marriage 41:53 The Unpause App & Practical Tools to ReconnectMost marriages don’t end with a blowup. They quietly pause —and that pause is where desire goes to die. In this episode of The Purple Passion Project, Clinical Sexologist and Sex Coach Dr. Stacy Friedman sits down with marriage coach Lee Baucom — PhD-level therapist, author of seven books, and creator of the Save the Marriage System — to break down why long-term relationships stall, how desire quietly disappears, and what it actually takes to turn it back on. This is not your average couples therapy advice. This is asexologist talk that gets into the real mechanics of long-term desire, emotional disconnection, and the one thing most couples get completely wrong about communication. In this episode you will learn: • Why marriages pause long before they actually break — and the warning signs most people miss • How daily habits and relationship systems shape intimacy and sexual desire • Lee’s three levels of connection — and which level is quietly killing your desire right now • Why communication is NOT the core problem in marriage (andwhat actually is) • How one person can create real change — even when theirpartner refuses to try If your relationship feels “fine” but not alive — this conversation is going to hit. Dr. Stacy and Lee give you the tools, the mindset, and the permission slip to stop waiting and start showing updifferently. 👤 About Lee Baucom: Lee Baucom is a Ph.D.-level trained therapist turned marriage coach with over 35 years of experience helping individuals transform struggling marriages — even when only one partner is willing to take action. He is the creator of the Save the Marriage System, author of seven books including Save the Marriage and How to Save Your Marriage in 3 Simple Steps, and the founder of the Unpause App — a daily reconnection tool designed to help couples rebuild connection, desire, and intimacy through intentional systems and habits. Lee is also the host of relationship-focused podcasts with millions of downloads worldwide and is happily married with two adult children. 👤 About Dr. Stacy Friedman: Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple PassionProject — on a mission to make midlife the hottest chapter of your sex life yet. With over 26 years in the medical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, Dr. Stacy helps men and women break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy — without apology. She specializes in the unique desire challenges that come with midlife — hormonal shifts, erectile changes, mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel empowering, entertaining, and long overdue. 💥 Links & Resources: 🔗 Lee Baucom — Save the Marriage: https://savethemarriage.store [https://savethemarriage.store] 🔗 Unpause App: http://UnPauseYourMarriage.com [http://UnPauseYourMarriage.com] 📖 Pleasure Playbooks (16+ step-by-step intimacy guides, $27 each): drstacyfriedman.com [https://drstacyfriedman.com] 🔥 Vibe Tribe (Dr. Stacy’s private midlife community— live sessions, courses): drstacyfriedman.com → click Vibe Tribe 📅 Free 15-min intimacy consult: drstacyfriedman.com [https://drstacyfriedman.com]→ click Free Consultation 🎁 Free PDF — “10 Things They Really Want in Bed (ButWon’t Say Out Loud)”: drstacyfriedman.com 👉 All links: linktr.ee/drstacyfriedman [ linktr.ee/drstacyfriedman] 📌 Follow Dr. Stacy: Instagram | TikTok | Facebook | YouTube | LinkedIn:@drstacyfriedman

47. Purity Culture Lied to You - How to Unfuck Yourself & Reclaim Your Pleasure

00:00 — Introduction: Meet Lacey Bond 02:04 — What Is Purity Culture? A Crash Course 22:04 — How Religious Trauma Shows Up in Your Sex Life 34:01 — How to Unfuck Yourself: The Healing Process 43:58 — Second Adolescence, BDSM & Reclaiming Your Identity What did the church teach you about sex? If your answer involves shame, silence, and a long list of rules about what you were not allowed to do with your own body — this episode is for you. Dr. Stacy Friedman — clinical sexologist and certified sex coach — sits down with Lacey Bond (IntimacyLacey), a Certified Sex, Relationship, and Intimacy Coach and purity culture survivor, for a bold, no-shame sexologist talk about how religious trauma shapes our sexuality and what healing actually looks like on the other side. In this episode you will learn: • What purity culture actually is — and the messages it sends about sex, desire, and your body • Why female desire was erased from religious education entirely — and what that silence costs women • How religious trauma and sexual repression show up as freeze responses, shame spirals, and dysfunction in adult relationships • What “second adolescence” means and why it’s a real, necessary part of the deconstruction journey • How BDSM — built on consent, communication, and self-knowledge — can be a powerful path to healing for purity culture survivors 🎁 FREE OFFER FOR LISTENERS: Book a free 30-minute education call with Lacey at www.IntimacyLacey.com Guest Bio — Lacey Bond (IntimacyLacey)🔥 Lacey Bond (IntimacyLacey) is a Certified Sex, Relationship, and Intimacy Coach and an adult sex, consent, and BDSM educator based in Los Angeles. She’s dedicated to helping people heal — or as she likes to say, unfuck themselves — from Purity Culture, building healthy relationships with other people and developing awesome, shame-free sexuality. ✨ Lacey lived the quintessential Purity Culture experience: raised in the Evangelical church through youth group, Bible study, and Christian school, she graduated from Biola University and was even featured in the 2015 documentary Give Me Sex Jesus. She’s here to tell you that every single one of us can heal — and unfuck ourselves — from it. 📲 Instagram & TikTok: @intimacylacey 🌐 Website: www.IntimacyLacey.com 📧 Email: lacey@intimacylacey.com Host Bio — Dr. Stacy Friedman Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project — on a mission to make midlife the hottest chapter of your sex life yet. With over 26 years in the medical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, Dr. Stacy helps men and women break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy — without apology. She specializes in the unique desire challenges that come with midlife — hormonal shifts, erectile changes, mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel empowering, entertaining, and long overdue. ✨ Everything you need is one click away: 👉 linktr.ee/drstacyfriedman 🔥 Vibe Tribe — private midlife community, live sessions, courses, try free for a week. 📖 Pleasure Playbooks — step-by-step guides for real bedroom results. 💋 Shop catalog for adult products (code PURPLE for 20% off) 📅 Free 15-min consult. 🎁 Free PDF: 10 Things They Really Want in Bed — drstacyfriedman.com 👉 linktr.ee/drstacyfriedman Follow Dr. Stacy @drstacyfriedman on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn, and all social media platforms. #PurityCulture #ReligiousTrauma #SexHealing #SexCoach #Sexologist #IntimacyCoach #PurityCultureSurvivor #Deconstruction #ShameFree #SexPositive #ThePurplePassionProject #DrStacyFriedman #FemaleDesire #BDSM #SexualLiberation #ReligiousAbuse #SecondAdolescence #SexAndReligion

46. Going Mono After Poly How to Build Lasting Passion in a Committed Relationship

In this episode, Dr. Stacy sits down with Dr. Diane Mueller—naturopathic doctor, acupuncturist, and founder of My Libido Doc—to have the conversation that millions of people are Googling in private: why has my sex drive disappeared, and can I actually get it back?  Dr. Diane shares her own deeply personal origin story (yes, itinvolves pelvic pain and self-pleasure as medicine), breaks down the real physical, emotional, and relationship causes of low libido, and gets into one of the most fascinating topics in modern relationships: how to keep passion alive in long-term monogamy—and what it’s actually like to transition from anon-monogamous lifestyle into a committed relationship.  You’ll learn: • The most common (and surprising) causes of low sex drive inwomen and men • How to create novelty and desire with a long-term partner • What it’s really like to go from poly to monogamy—and how tomake it work • Why ‘everything looks normal’ on your labs but your libidois still MIA • Practical tools to start reclaiming your desire today  Plus, Dr. Diane shares details on her book Want to Want It andfree listener resources. Guest Bio & Links 💃 Meet Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM — sexual wellnessauthority, dual-doctorate doctor, and the woman who turned her own pelvic pain journey into a global mission to help people actually want sex again.  With degrees in both Naturopathic Medicine and Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine, Dr. Diane blends cutting-edge functional medicine with a deeply human understanding of what it means to live in a body that’s lost its spark. She’s the founder of My Libido Doc, host of The Libido Lounge podcast, author of Want to Want It, and a trainer of medical professionals worldwide. Her own experience with pelvic pain in her twenties—and thevery personal, very powerful way she healed it—is at the heart of everything she does. She gets it. Which is exactly why thousands of people trust her with their most intimate struggles. 📚 Book: Want to Want It 🌐 Website: MyLibidoDoc.com 📺 YouTube: youtube.com/@mylibidodoc 📸 Instagram: @mylibidodoc | @myromancedoc 💼 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drdianemueller 🎙 TikTok: @mylibidodoc 📧 Email: podcast@mylibidodoc.com 📞 Phone: (503) 890-5856   Host Bio — Dr. Stacy Friedman Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project — on a mission to make midlife the hottest chapter of your sex life yet. With over 26 years in themedical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, Dr. Stacy helps men and women break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy — without apology. She specializes in the unique desire challenges that come with midlife — hormonal shifts, erectile changes, mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertisewith humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel empowering, entertaining, and long overdue. ✨Everything you need is one click away: 🔥Vibe Tribe — Dr.Stacy's private midlife community. Live sessions, courses, and conversations that go way beyond the surface. Try it free for a week. 📖 Pleasure Playbooks — Step-by-step guides for real bedroom results. Because great sex doesn't just happen — it's built. 💋 Shop catalog for adult products (code PURPLE for 20% off) 📅 Free 15-minute intimacy consult — let's talk about what's possible for your sex life. 🎁 Free PDF: 10 Things TheyReally Want in Bed (But Won't Say Out Loud) — grab yours at drstacyfriedman.com 👉linktr.ee/drstacyfriedman [https://linktr.ee/drstacyfriedman] Follow Dr. Stacy @drstacyfriedman on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn, and all social media platforms.

45. How Finding Her Sexy Led Her Straight Into the Industry - Where She Found Herself

In this bold and unfiltered episode of The Purple Passion Project, Dr. Stacy sexologist sits down with Miss Nicole Brooke for a raw sexologist talk conversation about sex, confidence, desire, and what happens when a woman stops performing for approval and starts choosing herself. Nicole shares how dance became the gateway to reclaiming her sensuality, how her experiences in the sex industry reshaped her understanding of power and boundaries, and why access to your body is never the same as intimacy. Together, they explore dating standards, sexual confidence, and the freedomthat comes when women stop over-giving to feel wanted. In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why sensual confidence starts in the body, not the mind• How women confuse desire with validation — and how to stop • What sex work reveals about boundaries, power, and choice • Why “being available” often kills attraction and self-respect • How to raise your dating and sexual standards without guilt or apology • What it really means to choose yourself in sex, dating, and intimacy Miss Nicole Brooke is a women’s empowerment leader, professional dancer, and coach with a background in education, psychology, and coaching. After more than a decade of dancing and dating in Spain, Nicole reclaimed her sensuality through movement, which ultimately led her into the sex industry. She has worked as an exotic dancer and as a legal courtesan at Sheri’s Ranch. Nicole is the creator of Find Your Sexy [https://www.missnicolebrooke.com/]® [https://www.missnicolebrooke.com/], now housed inside Sexy Sunday School, her modern house of wisdom focused on confidence, pleasure, dating, and self-leadership. Website: https://beacons.ai/missnicolebrooke Instagram: @missnicolebrooke Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, Certified Sex Coach & Intimacy Coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project — on a mission to make midlife the hottest chapter of your sex life yet. With over 26 years in the medical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, Dr. Stacy helps men and women break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy — without apology. She specializes in the unique desire challenges that come with midlife — hormonal shifts, erectile changes, mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel empowering, entertaining, and long overdue. ✨Everything you need is one click away: 🔥Vibe Tribe — Dr. Stacy's private midlife community. Live sessions, courses, and conversations that go way beyond the surface. Try it free for a week. 📖Pleasure Playbooks — Step-by-step guides for real bedroom results. Because great sex doesn't just happen — it's built. 💋Shop catalog for adult products (code PURPLE for 20% off) 📅Free 15-minute intimacy consult — let's talk about what's possible for your sex life. 🎁 Free PDF's: 10 Things TheyReally Want in Bed (But Won't Say Out Loud)  and many more! Grab yours at drstacyfriedman.com under FREE SEX TIPS 👉linktr.ee/drstacyfriedman [https://linktr.ee/drstacyfriedman] Follow Dr. Stacy @drstacyfriedman on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn, and all social media platforms.

44. Swinging Lifestyle Uncensored: Libido, Menopause & Keeping It Spicy

Episode Description: What does it actually look like to build a sex life that stayshot — not just for a few months, but for nearly two decades? Carol and David, hosts of The Sexy Lifestyle Podcast, have been together and active in the swinging and ethical non-monogamy lifestyle for 18 years. They didn’t stumble into a great sex life. They chose it, talked about it, planned for it, and keptchoosing it even when menopause threw a wrench into everything.  In this candid, spicy, and surprisingly relatable episode, Dr.Stacy sits down with Carol and David to talk about what it really takes to keep desire alive in a long-term relationship — inside the lifestyle and out. From navigating jealousy and communication in open relationships, to the very realchallenge of low libido after menopause, to busting the myth that sex has to be spontaneous to be good — this conversation is packed with insight, laughs, and more than a few mic drop moments. In this episode you will learn: •      Why they chose the swinging lifestyle and never lookedback •      What healthy communication in an open relationshipactually looks like •      The real truth about libido and desire after menopause •      Why planned sex might be hotter than spontaneous sex •      How to reignite the spark when it’s gone quiet   Guest Bio The Sexy Lifestyle Podcast With Carol & David 🎤🔥 Because Great Sex Matters — Listen. Learn. Live Sexy!  Are you ready to spice up your sex life and live happy,healthy, and horny? Welcome to The Sexy Lifestyle Podcast — the premier destination for those ready to trade the “status quo” for a life of electrifying intimacy and lifelong connection. Hosted by Carol and David — a real-life couple with nearly two decades of experience navigating the world of open-mindedness, swinging, and ethical non-monogamy — this is a completely uncensored look into the heart of modern relationships.  With their signature style, Carol and David make theconversation sexy, easy, and funny, normalizing the topics we are often too afraid to discuss and proving that no subject is off-limits when it comes to pleasure. Find Carol & David: Instagram:@exploringthelifestyletogether | Podcast: The Sexy Lifestyle Podcast | https://thesexylifestyle.com [https://thesexylifestyle.com]   Host Bio — Dr. Stacy Friedman Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, Certified Sex Coach & Intimacy Coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple Passion Project — on a mission to makemidlife the hottest chapter of your sex life yet. With over 26 years in the medical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, Dr. Stacy helps men and women break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy —without apology with sexologist talk. She specializes in the unique desire challenges that come with midlife — hormonal shifts, erectile changes, mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertisewith humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel empowering, entertaining, and long overdue. ✨Everything you need is one click away: 🔥Vibe Tribe — Dr.Stacy's private midlife community. Live sessions, courses, and conversationsthat go way beyond the surface. Try it free for a week. 📖Pleasure Playbooks — Step-by-step guides for real bedroom results. Ethical non-monogamy? Check this one out! https://e.drstacyfriedman.com/product-details/product/69419b9478c766392929527a 💋Shop catalog for adult products (code PURPLE for 20% off) 📅Free 15-minute intimacy consult — let's talk about what's possiblefor your sex life. 🎁 Free PDF: 10 Things TheyReally Want in Bed (But Won't Say Out Loud) — grab yours at drstacyfriedman.com 👉linktr.ee/drstacyfriedman [https://linktr.ee/drstacyfriedman] Follow Dr. Stacy @drstacyfriedman on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn, and all social media platforms.