The Scarlet Edit: Infidelity, Divorce, Starting Over.

Single in Midlife: The Quiet Loneliness No One Talks About

I noticed I've been saying "what about me?" in the voice I made up for my dog for over fifteen years. And one day it hit me — I've been feeling that since I was a kid. So this episode is a reflective, vulnerable share about what that question actually means when it comes to relationships, friendships, and being single in midlife. I looked back at my four major relationships and saw something I didn't love seeing: I was the common denominator. So I talk about what I was settling for, what I was overlooking, and the question that was sitting underneath all of it. Am I worthy of being chosen the way I want to be chosen? My self-worth was lacking. That's what I keep coming back to. I also get into the loneliness piece. The quiet of midlife. A decades-long friendship that ended without my choice. Why I think envy of younger women's friendships is real and worth naming. And the promise I made myself this week to actually go try the things I've been telling myself I'd try since I moved here in October. There's no answer at the end of this one. I wasn't looking for one. Sometimes the question itself is all that's needed to be said out loud. Episodes referenced: About not marrying for a best friend [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-scarlet-edit-infidelity-divorce-starting-over/id1825172881?i=1000764681688] The tampon theory [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-scarlet-edit-infidelity-divorce-starting-over/id1825172881?i=1000758827914] 🍒 Interested in working with me? Let’s chat. [https://nikki-corbett.com/coaching] 🌱 Tired of performing fine? Get The Self-Worth Reset [https://nikkicorbett.myflodesk.com/selfworthreset] 🎧 New episodes every Thursday! 💌 Business inquiries: teamnikkicorbett@gmail.com

How to Date Again After an Affair: Your Questions Answered

I opened up Instagram last week and asked what you wanted me to talk about that I hadn't covered yet. The questions you sent in were so good I built an entire episode around five of them. In this listener Q&A, I'm answering the things you actually want to know. Is there anything I'd do differently about my five years as the other woman? When did I stop caring what people thought of my choices? How do I date now after the affair and the divorce, and what's an immediate no? What would I tell a woman who's still in an affair and still hoping it works out? And if I could tell single women in their early 30s one thing about dating, what would it be? I get into the questions I wish I'd asked during the affair, what it felt like to launch this podcast and put my whole story out into the world, why I'm not currently dating and what I'm actually looking for when I am, and the one thing I'd want the other woman to hear from someone who's lived it. I also share something I think most single women miss when they're trying to figure out if a relationship is right for them. If you've ever wondered what it's actually like to be the other woman, what comes after, or how to know what you want in your next relationship, this one's for you. 🌱 Tired of performing fine? Get The Self-Worth Reset [https://nikkicorbett.myflodesk.com/selfworthreset] 🎧 New episodes every Thursday! 💌 Business inquiries: teamnikkicorbett@gmail.com

The Other Woman With No Shame: Accountability vs. Regret

I was the other woman for five years and I don't regret it. That's the sentence that breaks people. The comments roll in every week telling me I should be ashamed, that I lack morals, that I should be performing remorse on demand. I'm not doing that. I never will. And in this episode I get into why. The expectation that we have to apologize, perform regret, and beg for forgiveness after any choice that falls outside the so-called norm has nothing to do with growth. It's theater. Real accountability is understanding the choice you made, knowing why you'd choose differently now, and taking responsibility for the impact. Shame is hating yourself forever on a schedule that makes other people comfortable. Those are two very different things, and I chose accountability. I also get into the myth that the other woman is the architect of a betrayal she had no contractual obligation to prevent. The framing that I somehow ruined a marriage I wasn't in is wild to me. I wasn't in a relationship with his wife. I wasn't strategizing against her. I was loving someone who loved me back, and his marriage was his to manage. Every affair has its own anatomy. There's no one-size-fits-all moral verdict that applies cleanly to every story, and the people loudest in my comments are usually the ones who've never lived inside one. You are not defined by one chapter of your life. That's the whole point of this show. I took everything I learned from that relationship, I let go of the sadness, and I built a life I love. I want every woman listening to know she can do the same. Missed Hope's episodes? Check them out here [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-scarlet-edit-infidelity-divorce-starting-over/id1825172881?i=1000760440245] and here [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-scarlet-edit-infidelity-divorce-starting-over/id1825172881?i=1000761790148] 🌱 Tired of performing fine? Get The Self-Worth Reset [https://nikkicorbett.myflodesk.com/selfworthreset] 🎧 New episodes every Thursday! 💌 Business inquiries: teamnikkicorbett@gmail.com pC3NoAPoOMR92IIBEuyx

What to Do When Your Husband Keeps Cheating

In January 2009, my guest Naomi Kreske went looking through her husband's phone on a hunch. What she found ended the white picket fence life she thought she had: an affair, a relationship three months in, and a husband who wanted out that same night. She told him no. She wanted to save the marriage. Over the next year, he left her two more times for two more women. Naomi was a stay-at-home mom with three kids under five — a five-year-old, a three-year-old, and a nine-month-old. She and her ex co-owned a pub. The house went into foreclosure. She kept taking him back because she didn't want to be a statistic, because her parents had a 50-year marriage, because she didn't know how to tell anyone she'd "failed." If you've ever wondered what to do when your husband keeps cheating, this is what it actually looks like in real time. She calls the years that followed her hot mess express. Ten years of survival mode. Bad decisions. Toxic people. Comfort in the misery. The turning point was a single line in a book — her aha moment about why she kept attracting the same kind of man — and the moment she finally said the thing out loud: I am the problem. Today Naomi is a Jay Shetty certified life coach, remarried to a man she dated on and off for years, about to turn 50, and unapologetically herself. This conversation is for any woman trying to figure out how to leave a cheating husband, rebuild her life after divorce with kids, or stop being the perpetual victim of the worst thing that ever happened to her. 🌱 Tired of performing fine? Get The Self-Worth Reset [https://nikkicorbett.myflodesk.com/selfworthreset]. 🎧 New episodes every Thursday! 💌 Business inquiries: teamnikkicorbett@gmail.com

Why I Felt Single Even During an Affair

I told one of my girlfriends the other day that despite being in serious relationships, I've always kind of felt single. And she said, me too. This episode is what came out of that. I'm not talking about single in the fun, hitting-the-town way. I'm talking about feeling like I've never really had a man fully choose me across every defining relationship since college. The marriage. The boyfriends. The affair with a married man. Different relationships, different roles, same feeling underneath all of it. I get into the elephant in the room — yes, my last relationship was with a married man, so of course there were limits on what was available. But this feeling didn't start there. It's been there in every serious relationship I've had. I dig into the question I've never asked myself before: have I been falling in love with potential instead of who's actually in front of me? I get into the difference between feeling lonely and feeling alone, why I think the word partner is overused, and the kind of relationship I actually want now that I know what I've been missing. I share what my friend said about her marriage that completely shifted how I think about companionship versus best friendship. And I get honest about the grief that comes with realizing the relationship you wanted might never have been the one you were in. Whether you're married, divorced, the other woman, or somewhere in between, if you've ever been in something serious and still gone to bed feeling like you were on your own, this one is for you. 🌱 Tired of performing fine? Get The Self-Worth Reset [https://nikkicorbett.myflodesk.com/selfworthreset]. 🎧 New episodes every Thursday! 💌 Business inquiries: teamnikkicorbett@gmail.com