The Unfolding with Olivier

“What Growing Up in Iran Taught Me about Freedom and Desire” | Safa

Safa grew up in Tehran in a deeply religious and restrictive culture where desire was taboo and her body never felt like her own. Today she coaches bold leaders to transform their relationship with intimacy, recognising it as the untapped key to their power, creativity and impact, and she is writing a book about it. This conversation is about what we inherit, what we carry in silence, and what becomes possible when we finally stop. Chapters 00:00 Intro 01:28 Growing up in Tehran 06:18 Quietly rebelling 08:37 Religion and the bubble 15:46 Sexuality and silence 19:56 Unwanted experiences and the body as duty 23:46 Parents as danger, society as danger 24:38 Compassion and breaking the secrecy 29:36 University, boys and falling in love 34:20 Marriage, leaving Iran and the divorce 45:33 Freedom in the Netherlands and depression 49:16 Therapy, NVC and the beginning of change 57:19 The improv breakthrough and writing a book about intimacy 1:06:11 Identity, religion and being human 1:09:23 Her parents and their dynamic 1:14:13 How we see others through our own filters 1:17:06 Iran, war and holding contradictions 1:26:37 Closing reflections Follow Safa on Instagram @safaxperienx and visit safaxperienx.com Follow me on Instagram @olivierpassebecq and visit olivierpassebecq.com

"Men Are Wired to Fail in Bed Without Knowing It !" This is How to Transform Your Intimacy | Nico Kars

Most men have been running the same script their whole lives. They just don't know it. Nico Kars is a conscious kink facilitator and co-founder of kinkHEARTED — "from the heart, from the start." But this conversation goes somewhere much deeper than kink. ◼ Why most men are wired to fail in bed without knowing it ◼ What slowing down completely changes in intimacy ◼ The one practice that transforms most relationships ◼ How to discover what you actually want ◼ Why the goal in sex is the problem ◼ The conversations he will never get to have with the people who shaped him most Nico: @nicodepiko | kinkhearted.com Olivier: @olivierpassebecq | olivierpassebecq.com

"Attention Is a Form of Nutrition" Why Having Less Is the Only Way to Create More | Khandiz Joni Towill

Khandiz Joni is a Chartered Environmentalist, systems designer, multidisciplinary artist and founder of REGENASYST, a pioneering set of imagination games helping organisations move beyond sustainability towards genuinely regenerative ways of being. She holds a certificate from Cambridge University's Institute for Sustainability Leadership and has spent over two decades working at the intersection of creativity, ecology and systems change.Her path here was extraordinary. From growing up on South African film sets to working on Blood Diamond at twenty-three. From pioneering eco-ethical beauty in the UK to building an agency representing eco-ethical creative talents and production. From traditional sustainability consulting to creating card-based imagination games that unlock the kind of thinking no compliance framework ever could.Think of her as a personal trainer for organisations. She can't build the muscle but she adjusts the position. And she goes in as the outsider, which turns out to be her greatest asset.In this conversation with Olivier she explores why attention is a form of nutrition and everything in society is stealing it, why constraints are the secret to creativity, and why reconnecting with your neighbour might be the most urgent thing any of us can do right now.Rigorous, human and genuinely surprising.⬩ KHANDID.STUDIO: https://khandid.studio⬩ REGENASYST: www.regenasyst.com⬩ IAM IMPACT PROJECT: www.iamimpactproject.org⬩ Instagram: @khandizolivierpassebecq.com | @olivierpassebecq

"I Ticked All the Boxes and Was Deeply Unhappy" What Nature and the Seasons Can Teach You - Simon J Lamb

What happens when you build the perfect life and feel completely empty inside? Simon J Lamb had the flat, the relationship, the well-paid job. He had done everything right. And he was experiencing the worst depression of his life. This conversation traces his journey back to aliveness. Through a seven day silent retreat where he discovered that depression is just anger without enthusiasm. Through a chance encounter with an 80 year old wanderer at the end of the Camino de Santiago who stopped one in 500 pilgrims. And through an ancient Chinese movement practice that changed how he makes every decision. Expect to learn: ▪️ Why the body knows what the mind refuses to admit ▪️ What depression is actually trying to tell you ▪️ How the seasons can become a map for your inner life ▪️ What 5,000 years of Qigong practice understands about human energy ▪️ Why belonging is the thing most of us are quietly starving for ▪️ How cold water and ritual can rebuild a community of men Simon J Lamb is a Qigong teacher, breathwork and nature connection facilitator, and leader of Icebreakers, a UK charity supporting men's mental health through cold water rituals. Find Simon: Instagram: @simon_j_lamb Website: simonjlamb.com The Unfolding with Olivier explores connection, meaning and staying human in the digital age. New episodes every week. Follow @olivierpassebecq on Instagram and visit olivierpassebecq.com

"You're Not Meant to Be Just One Thing" Rethinking Fashion, Sustainability, and AI - Boryana Uzunova

Boryana Uzunova is a serial entrepreneur, sustainable fashion pioneer, Forbes 30 Under 30, TEDx speaker, and founder of The Nold — a circular fashion marketplace challenging how the world buys and sells clothes. She has partnered with Farfetch on an environmental impact tool still active on their platform, competed in the Harvard startup finals, and closed her biggest funding round hours after giving birth. From a child who stuttered and couldn't say a sentence out loud, to an international model in Tokyo at 15, to running nightclubs events in Hong Kong, to graduating top of her class at one of Asia's most competitive universities, to building multiple tech startups at the intersection of fashion and sustainability, to becoming a mother while closing her biggest funding round, to now using AI to rebuild the way fashion works from the ground up — Boryana's path is unlike anything you have heard before. The fashion industry is the second biggest polluter on the planet. And almost everything being done about it is making things worse. Boryana has spent over a decade trying to fix it. She has been inside the machine. She knows where it breaks. And she is not being polite about it. In this episode you will learn: ▶ The lesson of someone who built three companies, graduated top of her class, and still felt like an impostor ▶ Why the more you achieve, the less confident you may feel and why that might actually be a sign of growth ▶ The power of staying curious when the world tells you to stay in your lane ▶ What happens when you stop trying to be the perfect mother and start being the real one ▶ Why there is no system currently in place that incentivizes companies to be truly green and what one woman is doing about it ▶ The counterintuitive truth about polyester that will change how you think about sustainable fashion ▶ Why Shein and Temu might actually be better for the planet than the big brands you think are more ethical ▶ Why secondhand marketplaces like Vinted may actually be making fast fashion worse ▶ How she built a circular fashion marketplace from a wardrobe clear-out into a funded business This conversation is for anyone who wants to understand sustainability and business better, and find inspiration in the outstanding journey of someone who dares to challenge the status quo. What makes it different is that Boryana and I have known each other for nearly two decades. We met when she was 15 and I was working in Hong Kong. I watched her become who she is. Which means this is not just an interview. It is two old friends finally sitting down to talk about everything that matters. Find Boryana at @boryana.uzunova and thenold.com. Follow The Unfolding with Olivier at @olivierpassebecq and olivierpassebecq.com. If this conversation meant something to you, subscribing to The Unfolding with Olivier is the best way to make sure you never miss what is coming next and to support him in continuing this journey of Unfolding. Thank you !