Unconsciously Competent

Ep. 9 - Are You Protecting The Vibe Pt. 2

Are You Protecting the Vibe? (Part 2) On this episode of Unconsciously Competent, hosts Kash and Tahoe dive into a real and necessary conversation about intimacy, energy, and what it actually takes to maintain connection in relationships as life evolves. What starts as a simple question, “Are you protecting the vibe?” unfolds into a deeper discussion around low libido, hormonal shifts, and the many factors that impact desire over time. From menstrual cycle phases and stress to the ways our bodies naturally change, Kash brings her expertise as a clinical sexologist to break down how biology, environment, and emotional dynamics all play a role in how we show up in intimacy. Together, Kash and Tahoe challenge common assumptions and open up the conversation around something many people silently struggle with: Is it hormonal… or is it relational? This episode explores how awareness, communication, and understanding your partner’s evolving needs are key to sustaining connection, not just chemistry. Because protecting the vibe isn’t about perfection… it’s about intention, timing, and learning how to stay in sync even when things shift. 🎧 Stream the full episode at StayCompetent dot com 📺 Follow @UnconsciouslyCompetentPod 💭 Where Ignorance Meets Its Match Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/unconsciously-competent--6846281/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/unconsciously-competent--6846281/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].

Ep. 8 - Are You Protecting The Vibe PT. 1

Are You Protecting the Vibe? (Part 1) On this episode of Unconsciously Competent, hosts Kash and Tahoe dive into a real and necessary conversation about intimacy, energy, and what it actually takes to maintain connection in relationships as life evolves. What starts as a simple question, “Are you protecting the vibe?” unfolds into a deeper discussion around low libido, hormonal shifts, and the many factors that impact desire over time. From menstrual cycle phases and stress to the ways our bodies naturally change, Kash brings her expertise as a clinical sexologist to break down how biology, environment, and emotional dynamics all play a role in how we show up in intimacy. Together, Kash and Tahoe challenge common assumptions and open up the conversation around something many people silently struggle with: Is it hormonal… or is it relational? This episode explores how awareness, communication, and understanding your partner’s evolving needs are key to sustaining connection, not just chemistry. Because protecting the vibe isn’t about perfection… it’s about intention, timing, and learning how to stay in sync even when things shift. 🎧 Stream the full episode at StayCompetent.com 📺 Follow @UnconsciouslyCompetentPod 💭 Where Ignorance Meets Its Match Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/unconsciously-competent--6846281/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/unconsciously-competent--6846281/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].

Ep. 7 - The Table Has Changed

🎙️ Unconsciously Competent Podcast – Episode 7 Title: The Table Has Changed On this episode of Unconsciously Competent, permanent hosts Kash and Tahoe are joined by guest co-host Chris for a timely and necessary conversation about the financial reality of relationships and households in 2026. Using recent employment trends, cost of living pressures, and lived experiences as context, the discussion explores whether the traditional expectation of a single provider is still realistic for today’s average household. From shifting gender roles and economic instability to emotional labor and partnership dynamics, the conversation challenges long-standing beliefs about what it truly means to “bring something to the table.” Rather than framing the topic as men versus women, Kash and Tahoe guide a collaborative dialogue around adaptability, accountability, and redefining teamwork in modern relationships. What does survival look like for low- and middle-income families right now? How are couples renegotiating responsibilities? And what happens when outdated expectations collide with present-day realities? Through perspective shifts, real debate, and the signature Pick We segment, this episode pushes listeners to reconsider not just who should provide, but what the table actually requires for everyone to thrive. Because growth sometimes starts when we stop arguing roles… and start responding to reality. 🎧 Stream the full episode at StayCompetent dot com 📺 Follow @UnconsciouslyCompetentPod 💭 Where Ignorance Meets Its Match Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/unconsciously-competent--6846281/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/unconsciously-competent--6846281/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].

Ep. 6 - Let Her Cook: Effort Is The Real Love Language Pt. 2

On this episode of Unconsciously Competent, the conversation shifts from theory to real-life love fast… and somewhere along the way, Kash starts cooking. We dive into love languages, not just what they are, but how they actually function in real relationships. Loving someone isn’t about memorizing categories, it’s about learning how to love in the ways you’re capable while stretching toward the ways your partner needs. We talk effort. We talk intentionality. We talk about people saying “don’t give certain benefits before marriage,” and challenge that idea by asking a real question: If marriage is forever, shouldn’t you feel confident before you say “I do”? Life will test your relationship long before the altar does. Then the Pick We segment turns up: Valentine’s Day. Should men expect gifts and experiences too? Or is it a day reserved for women to be wined and dined? Tahoe argues for the women. Kash argues for the men. And the debate gets real about reciprocity, tradition, and evolving expectations. This episode is about loving intentionally, communicating clearly, and entering commitment with confidence instead of hope. Tap in! StayCompetent.com Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/unconsciously-competent--6846281/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/unconsciously-competent--6846281/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].

Ep. 5 - Let Her Cook: Effort Is the Real Love Language Pt. 1

On this episode of Unconsciously Competent, the conversation shifts from theory to real-life love fast… and somewhere along the way, Kash starts cooking. We dive into love languages, not just what they are, but how they actually function in real relationships. Loving someone isn’t about memorizing categories, it’s about learning how to love in the ways you’re capable while stretching toward the ways your partner needs. We talk effort. We talk intentionality. We talk about people saying “don’t give certain benefits before marriage,” and challenge that idea by asking a real question: If marriage is forever, shouldn’t you feel confident before you say “I do”? Life will test your relationship long before the altar does. Then the Pick We segment turns up: Valentine’s Day. Should men expect gifts and experiences too? Or is it a day reserved for women to be wined and dined? Tahoe argues for the women. Kash argues for the men. And the debate gets real about reciprocity, tradition, and evolving expectations. This episode is about loving intentionally, communicating clearly, and entering commitment with confidence instead of hope. Tap in! StayCompetent.com Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/unconsciously-competent--6846281/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/unconsciously-competent--6846281/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].