According To Wes

You Do Not Owe Anyone Your Culture

One minute we’re arguing Spurs vs Knicks like it’s a chess match, the next we’re knee deep in a relationship problem that hits way closer to home. We start with NBA Finals predictions, injury questions, and why some series feel like they’re decided as much by whistles and physicality as by pure talent. If you love basketball talk with opinions, we get into matchups, momentum, and what happens when a young star finally realizes nobody can keep him from the rim.  Then we pivot to our “unsanctioned advice” lane with a dilemma that lights people up: a man agrees to a friend’s Renaissance themed barbecue, then his fiancée asks him to skip it for an African American cultural event she cares about. She frames it as him not wanting to “explore his Blackness.” We unpack what’s fair, what’s manipulative, and what support should look like when your partner’s interests are not your interests. We also get into the deeper stuff: identity as a weapon, compatibility before marriage, and why guilt is not a growth plan.

A Reused Diamond Shows Who Still Cares

A woman spots what looks like her old wedding diamond on her ex-husband’s new fiancée and wants to “do the right thing” by telling her. That one scenario opens a much bigger door for us: when does honesty become interference, and when is “closure” really just unfinished feelings? We break down why co-parenting boundaries matter, how petty choices can spill onto the kids, and why sometimes the smartest move is staying out of business that no longer belongs to you.

Menu Panic To Life Plans With Decisiveness

Indecision does not just slow you down, it drains you. If you have ever stared at a menu for ten minutes or replayed a big life choice until the moment passes, you have felt how analysis paralysis steals time, energy, and joy. I dig into decisiveness as a practical, trainable quality that can make or break a career path, a relationship, or a long-term plan, and I explain why being decisive is not the same thing as being reckless.

You Can Love Your Family And Still Take Them To Court

Somebody can be “family” and still put your future at risk. We start with a heavy reality check about loss, unexpected illness, and how fast life can flip when you don’t see what someone is carrying. We also talk about what support actually looks like when you can’t solve the problem, only show up with consistency, calls, and real care.

Generosity Starts When You Put The Phone Down

Generosity has been marketed like it’s a dollar amount, but I see it as something harder and more valuable: a state of being. I unpack what generosity really means, including its roots in “noble spirit,” and why the difference between charity and generosity matters. Charity can be a moment. Generosity becomes a way you move through your day, with your time, your attention, your words, and your energy.