Aligned & A Little Unhinged

Why Dating Feels So Hard Right Now (And What Nobody Wants to Admit)

Dating has never offered more options—yet so many people feel frustrated, disconnected, and stuck repeating the same patterns. In this episode, we dive into why modern dating feels harder than ever, the impact dating apps have had on relationships, and the uncomfortable truths that might be keeping people single. We discuss chemistry vs. compatibility, why we often choose what's familiar over what's healthy, the myth of "the one," and how our own unresolved patterns can shape who we're attracted to. If you've ever wondered why dating feels exhausting, why healthy relationships can feel "boring," or why you keep ending up in the same relationship with different people, this conversation is for you. Topics include: * Dating apps and the paradox of choice * Chemistry vs. compatibility * The myth of soulmates * Why people ignore red flags * What actually makes relationships last The relationship you want may not require finding a different person—it may require becoming a different version of yourself. Reach out to us on Social Media! Instagram: @Casofras [https://www.instagram.com/casofras/] @_shelbyedgar [https://www.instagram.com/_shelbyedgar?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] Tiktok: @Casofras [https://www.tiktok.com/@casofras?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] @shelbyedgar_ [https://www.tiktok.com/@shelbyedgar_?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc]

Why You Keep Self Sabotaging With Food

Most people think their eating habits come down to discipline, motivation, or "trying harder." But what if your behaviors around food are actually rooted in nervous system regulation, emotional patterns, dopamine, stress, identity, and survival responses? In this episode, we break down the psychology behind overeating, emotional eating, nighttime cravings, grazing, restriction cycles, self sabotage, and why so many people feel stuck in the "start over Monday" loop. This episode is less about calories and macros... and more about understanding yourself on a deeper level so you can finally stop fighting your body and start working with it. Reach out to us on Social Media! Instagram: @Casofras [https://www.instagram.com/casofras/] @_shelbyedgar [https://www.instagram.com/_shelbyedgar?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] Tiktok: @Casofras [https://www.tiktok.com/@casofras?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] @shelbyedgar_ [https://www.tiktok.com/@shelbyedgar_?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc]

The Truth About Narcissism, Safety, and the Relationships You Choose

Everyone throws around the word "narcissist"… but most people don't actually understand what it means—or why they keep ending up in the same patterns. In this episode, we sit down with marriage and relationship therapist Aubrey Perez to break it all down. We get into the different types of narcissism, what's actually happening underneath those behaviors, and how it shows up in real relationships. But more importantly, we talk about YOU—your triggers, your patterns, and the unconscious ways you might be recreating the same dynamic over and over again. We also dive into what it really means to create safety in a relationship (and no, it's not just about finding the "right" partner), how to identify your core values, and how to stop abandoning yourself in the process of trying to be loved. If you've ever questioned your relationship, your standards, or why you keep attracting the same kind of person—this episode will hit. This isn't about blaming them. It's about understanding you… so you can finally choose differently. Find Aubrey here: Instagram: @amptherapyforyou TikTok: @amptherapy4u Reach out to us on Social Media! Instagram: @Casofras [https://www.instagram.com/casofras/] @_shelbyedgar [https://www.instagram.com/_shelbyedgar?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] Tiktok: @Casofras [https://www.tiktok.com/@casofras?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] @shelbyedgar_ [https://www.tiktok.com/@shelbyedgar_?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc]

The Soft Girl Myth: What Feminine Energy Actually Is (Part 1)

In this episode, we're calling out the biggest myths around feminine energy that are being pushed all over social media. From the "soft girl" era to "just receive and don't chase," there's a lot being taught that sounds good… but is actually creating confusion, passivity, and disconnection. We break down what feminine energy is not, where these ideas go wrong, and why being in your feminine has nothing to do with being naive, avoidant, or dependent. This is part 1 of a 2-part series where we strip it back to truth — so you can actually understand what it means to show up grounded, self-led, and powerful in your life. Reach out to us on Social Media! Instagram: @Casofras [https://www.instagram.com/casofras/] @_shelbyedgar [https://www.instagram.com/_shelbyedgar?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] Tiktok: @Casofras [https://www.tiktok.com/@casofras?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] @shelbyedgar_ [https://www.tiktok.com/@shelbyedgar_?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc]

The Voice That's Running Your Life

There are two voices inside you, the bully and the hero. In this episode of Aligned & A Little Unhinged, we break down how these two identities show up in your everyday life, shaping your decisions, your confidence, and the way you see yourself. The bully is the voice that criticizes, doubts, and keeps you small. The hero is the one that leads, takes ownership, and follows through, even when it's uncomfortable. We talk about how most people unknowingly let the bully run the show, and how that keeps them stuck in cycles of self-sabotage, inconsistency, and low self-trust. But we also dive into how to shift, how to start building the hero within you through awareness, discipline, and keeping promises to yourself. Because the life you want isn't built by the bully. It's built by the version of you who shows up anyway. If you've been stuck in your head, doubting yourself, or feeling like you're your own worst enemy… this episode will hit.