And Counting with Steve & Alyssa McMasters

How open communication about previous sexual experiences can bring more passion to the bedroom

Shame is the killer of pleasure, yet shame and pleasure are known to go hand in hand in our society. We are told  that when we experience sexual pleasure we should be quite about it and when a future partner asks, we should pretend that they are the only person we have ever been with to make them think they are the only person in the world. Hallmark tells us this is romantic, I call bullshit. This podcast is NSFW, do what feels best for you with this information. You have options when it comes to your sexual history.  You can share as much or as little as you would like with your partner/partners (with safety in mind) and all of those options are valid. This podcast explores an option that is not typically praised in our society. What would it look like if you shared all of your sexual experiences with your partner and rather than feeling shameful about them, feeling liberated? What would it feel like to tell your partner what you liked and didn't like from previous experiences so you could create stellar new experiences? Sex doesn't have to be dirty word, you are allowed to scream it from the rooftops, or whisper it, this podcast explores that this open communication around sex is not for everyone, but is an option that might feel good for you!

Internal vs. External Processing and how it can change your relationship!

Everyone processes information differently. Some people are internal processors and need time to intrinsically think about a conversation before they are able to communicate their thoughts and feelings. Others are external processors and need to talk out their thoughts and feelings in real time in order to process a conversation.  When there is a disconnect between your processing style and your partners, the outcome can be catastrophic. The external processor might feel unheard and unseen and think their internal processor partner doesn't care about them when they are silent. The internal processor might feel berated and attacked by the external processor and think their partner doesn't care about them when they say things they might not mean. These processing styles are wildly different but no style is better than the other. When you understand your partners processing style, it is easier to give them the space they need to process a conversation and realize it is often not personal. In this podcast we give you the telltale signs to look for to determine your processing style and provide real life examples of how understanding our individual processing style has changed our relationship for the better. If you want to discover your processing style, build your confidence or develop your self-love, book a free 20 minute call to see if one on one mentoring is for you! https://www.letmeintroduceyourself.com/mentoring

The 1/10 Rule AKA The Marriage Trump Card

Fights are inevitable in a relationship, and the conclusion is always some kind of compromise. But how do you get there? The 1/10 rule is how we make our compromising easier by analyzing how important a topic is to each partner. The 1/10 Rule is a resource to keep things light and answer the hardest question in any marriage. Who wins this one? We then dive into our biggest marriage learnings of the week where we get real about giving your partner space to love themselves as much as they love your family while taking the space you need for yourself. Join us for some advice, some laughs and most importantly some real talk in this episode of And Counting.

Our Top Red Flags and Green Flags of Dating

Dating is hard, there are a thousand things you need to think about. Is this person going to get along with my family?  Is this person going to fit into my lifestyle? Is this person going to murder me? In this podcast we talk about the Red and Green flags we looked for when we were dating for marriage. No, not the typical. "He doesn't have a job" or "He cheated on me". We dig deep into our dating history to give you the red flags from fridge intrusion, not being a game enthusiast and baby talk. We then dive into our biggest marriage learnings of the week where we get real about the quote, "marriage is 50/50" and how we can be better partners to each other, against the status quo. Join us for some advice, some laughs and most importantly some real talk in this episode of And Counting.