Back Porch Bestie

59: Combating Toxic Relationship Behaviors

Listen to one of the top downloaded episodes to date! Have you ever experienced love bombing or guilt tripping in a relationship? Both behaviors can create blurred lines between red flags and genuine mistakes in relationships. In this episode, Kasey reflects on how love bombing was her way of receiving validation and reassurance as a child. Kelsey shares her personal experience of how someone guilt tripping her would make her more likely to forgive them, even if their actions were questionable. Tune in to learn how these manipulative behaviors manifest, their impact on relationships, and how addressing these behaviors can contribute to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.   Love bombing: the act of showering someone with excessive affection, attention, and gifts in order to manipulate or control them.      Key Topics: *  (03:30) Love bombing vs Guilt tripping *  (05:15) Using manipulation as a way to gain forgiveness *  (07:15) Mistaking love bombing for unconditional love *  (09:40) Recognizing red flags in relationships *  (12:45) Self reflection and looking inward at yourself     Connect with Kasey and Kelsey: instagram.com/hikaseycompton [http://instagram.com/hikaseycompton] facebook.com/hikaseycompton [http://facebook.com/hikaseycompton] kaseycompton.com/backporchbestie [http://kaseycompton.com/backporchbestie]     This episode is sponsored by Tatiana Tsoir - a tax and business strategist, CPA and MBA who makes your life less taxing: we reduce your taxes legally, so that you make and keep more of your money. To learn more, visit tatianatsoir.com [http://tatianatsoir.com/] and/or tatianatsoir.as.me/20minintro [http://tatianatsoir.as.me/20minintro]!   Visit PracticeAxis.com [http://practiceaxis.com/] for 20% OFF your first 2 months! Use Code: Mindsight

58: Balancing Motherhood and Business Ownership with Amy Dover, LMFT

In the journey of entrepreneurship, often unexpected paths lead to transformation and growth. Amy Dover, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, embarked on her solo practice journey with intentions different from the eventual reality. Despite initially planning to operate as a solo practitioner, the rapid increase of clients meant an expansion into a group practice. This transition left her in a balancing act of managing work demands while also being present as a mom. In this episode, Amy shares her journey, struggles, and wins in building a successful practice in Alabama. Tune in and learn how faith, values, and community support helped shape her path along the way!   About Amy Dover: Amy is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, group practice owner, and faith-based private practice consultant. She is located in Enterprise, AL where she manages an insurance-based group practice with 15 clinicians and 2 administrators. Amy is passionate in her desire to support faith-based practice owners, focusing on empowering fellow female entrepreneurs to leverage their leadership skills and God-given talents to impact their team and community. She is driven by a vision to help female faith-based practice owners create thriving practices that not only succeed in business terms but also provide a meaningful service aligned with their values and beliefs. In her free time, Amy enjoys spending time with her husband and two sons, reading, sitting by the pool, and attempting to learn the game of golf.    wisepracticeconsulting.com [http://www.wisepracticeconsulting.com/] dovercounselingservices.com [http://www.dovercounselingservices.com/] facebook.com/DoverCounseling [https://www.facebook.com/DoverCounseling?mibextid=ZbWKwL] facebook.com/whitney.owens.963 [https://www.facebook.com/whitney.owens.963] Instagram: @dovercounseling     Key Topics: *  (02:10) Amy’s journey to becoming a ground practice owner *  (04:30) Balancing motherhood and career challenges *  (08:20) Letting go of guilt; having honest conversations with your kids *  (12:10) Challenges and rewards of female entrepreneurship *  (15:10) Managing mom guilt and finding support     Connect with Kasey and Kelsey: instagram.com/hikaseycompton [http://instagram.com/hikaseycompton] facebook.com/hikaseycompton [http://facebook.com/hikaseycompton] kaseycompton.com/backporchbestie [http://kaseycompton.com/backporchbestie]   This episode is sponsored by Tatiana Tsoir - a tax and business strategist, CPA and MBA who makes your life less taxing: we reduce your taxes legally, so that you make and keep more of your money. To learn more, visit tatianatsoir.com [http://tatianatsoir.com/] and/or tatianatsoir.as.me/20minintro [http://tatianatsoir.as.me/20minintro]!   Visit PracticeAxis.com [http://practiceaxis.com/] for 20% OFF your first 2 months! Use Code: Mindsight

57: Building Confidence Through Your Failures

Reflecting on last week’s conversation with Dr. Tara Sanderson, Kasey and Kelsey continue chatting about perfectionism and how it really does affect how people live their lives. They discuss the connection between perfectionism, confidence, and self-esteem, and share their own stories of lessons learned – like how crucial it is to just accept your flaws and really enjoy the here and now. Get insights on soaking up the present, celebrating being your true self, and ditching that draining need to impress everyone. By embracing those little mishaps and stepping out of your comfort zone once in a while, you'll break free from those perfectionistic tendencies and find yourself actually enjoying life!     Key Topics: *  (01:30) Self-esteem, confidence, and fear of failure *  (04:00) Insecurities and self-perception in everyday life *  (09:10) Confronting perfectionism and embracing authenticity *  (12:15) Friendship dynamics and social expectations *  (15:30) Embracing imperfection      Connect with Kasey and Kelsey: instagram.com/hikaseycompton [http://instagram.com/hikaseycompton] facebook.com/hikaseycompton [http://facebook.com/hikaseycompton] kaseycompton.com/backporchbestie [http://kaseycompton.com/backporchbestie]     This episode is sponsored by Tatiana Tsoir - a tax and business strategist, CPA and MBA who makes your life less taxing: we reduce your taxes legally, so that you make and keep more of your money. To learn more, visit tatianatsoir.com [http://tatianatsoir.com/] and/or tatianatsoir.as.me/20minintro [http://tatianatsoir.as.me/20minintro]!   Visit PracticeAxis.com [http://practiceaxis.com/] for 20% OFF your first 2 months!

56: Is Perfectionism a Trauma Response? with Dr. Tara Sanderson, PsyD, MBA

Are perfectionists born or made? According to Dr. Tara Sanderson, perfectionism can stem from a fear response, often triggered by past experiences. In this episode, Dr. Tara shares her personal journey and how she has learned to embrace fluidity and authenticity. She also talks about the revised edition of her book, "Too Much, Not Enough," which discusses ways to  decrease anxiety and perfectionism by really being mindful about how we live. Tune in for insights into recognizing unhealthy perfectionistic tendencies and finding freedom in decision-making!   About Dr. Tara Sanderson: Dr. Tara Sanderson, PsyD, MBA is a Cis/Het/White/Female with she/her pronouns. She holds the titles of Licensed Psychologist and Supervisor, Author and Entrepreneur. Her book “Too Much, Not Enough: A Guide to Decreasing Anxiety and Creating Balance Through Intentional Choices has been an learning and growing opportunity to understand her own journey with perfectionism and rigidity. Her identities of Professional Overachiever, Perfectionist and Reluctant Participant in Over-Control Tendencies have exposed her to the beauty of self-care, asking for support and deepening one's understanding of themselves.    Drtarasanderson.com [http://drtarasanderson.com/] @drtarasanderson [https://r.search.yahoo.com/_ylt=AwrhS0JMKk5m1_0M_gUPxQt.;_ylu=Y29sbwNiZjEEcG9zAzIEdnRpZAMEc2VjA3Ny/RV=2/RE=1716427468/RO=10/RU=https%3a%2f%2fwww.instagram.com%2fdrtarasanderson%2f/RK=2/RS=CaOBzGtzTmZDBLUzycSbVP2_Ndk-]     Key Topics: *  (02:20) Redefining perfectionism through intentional living and self-discovery *  (04:10) Do perfectionists like to dance? *  (07:10) Dysfunctional family dynamics and obsessive perfectionism *  (09:05) Perfectionism as a response to fear and trauma  *  (12:50) How to know when perfectionistic tendencies are unhealthy? *  (16:30) Being rigid with decision-making *  (22:45) Overcoming perfectionism and being in control *  (23:40) Confronting decision fatigue; embracing change     Connect with Kasey and Kelsey: instagram.com/hikaseycompton [http://instagram.com/hikaseycompton] facebook.com/hikaseycompton [http://facebook.com/hikaseycompton] kaseycompton.com/backporchbestie [http://kaseycompton.com/backporchbestie]   This episode is sponsored by Tatiana Tsoir - a tax and business strategist, CPA and MBA who makes your life less taxing: we reduce your taxes legally, so that you make and keep more of your money. To learn more, visit tatianatsoir.com [http://tatianatsoir.com/] and/or tatianatsoir.as.me/20minintro [http://tatianatsoir.as.me/20minintro]!   Visit PracticeAxis.com [http://practiceaxis.com/] for 20% OFF your first 2 months! Use Code: Mindsight

55: Communicating Effectively and Building an Unstoppable Team with Mike Michalowicz

Join Mike Michalowicz as he shares his secret sauce for rock-solid communication and crafting teams that simply can't be stopped. He talks about his experiences working with a predominantly female team and emphasizes the importance of creating a culture of trust and authenticity. He also discusses his approach to conflict resolution and highlights the value of giving grace and allowing for mistakes. Mike also gives advice from his book, "All In: How Great Leaders Build Unstoppable Teams," which explores the role of communication in fostering a thriving work environment.   About Mike Michalowicz: Mike Michalowicz is the entrepreneur behind three multimillion-dollar companies and is the author of several business books, including Profit First, Clockwork, The Pumpkin Plan and his newest book, All In. Mike is a former small business columnist for The Wall Street Journal and business makeover expert for MSNBC. He regularly travels the globe as an entrepreneurial advocate. To learn more about Mike and get access to a treasure trove of entrepreneurial tips, visit MikeMichalowicz.com [http://www.mikemichalowicz.com/]     Key Topics: *  (03:10) Mike’s thoughts on working predominantly with women *  (06:20) Creating a work culture of kindness and authenticity *  (09:45) Mastering communication through storytelling  *  (14:20) Handling conflict through empathy and prayer *  (19:10) Giving great advice doesn’t come from perfectionism *  (21:00) Cultivating trust and freedom in team dynamics  *  (23:35) Strategies for recharging your energy *  (26:50) All In: How Great Leaders Build Unstoppable Teams     Connect with Kasey and Kelsey: instagram.com/hikaseycompton [http://instagram.com/hikaseycompton] facebook.com/hikaseycompton [http://facebook.com/hikaseycompton] kaseycompton.com/backporchbestie [http://kaseycompton.com/backporchbestie]   This episode is sponsored by Tatiana Tsoir - a tax and business strategist, CPA and MBA who makes your life less taxing: we reduce your taxes legally, so that you make and keep more of your money. To learn more, visit tatianatsoir.com [http://tatianatsoir.com/] and/or tatianatsoir.as.me/20minintro [http://tatianatsoir.as.me/20minintro]!   Visit PracticeAxis.com [http://practiceaxis.com/] for 20% OFF your first 2 months! Use Code: Mindsight