Breathe More

97. Why the Same Hurt Kept Following Me (and How I Finally Broke Free)

This episode is a part of a special series of sharing Substack letters. Subscribe to Ana's Breathe More Substack at https://breathemore.substack.com/ [https://breathemore.substack.com/] In this episode, Ana shares the quiet truth so many high-performing women live with: chaos has become their comfort zone. She opens up about growing up in an unpredictable home, becoming an expert at managing crises, and mistaking her ability to stay calm in the storm as strength, when it was actually survival mode. From toxic relationships to a chaotic career in acting to living in overstimulating environments, Ana explores what happened when she finally slowed down… and how nervous system healing helped her redefine safety on her own terms. This episode explores: * Why chaotic environments can feel "normal" when you've grown up in survival * How the nervous system becomes wired to expect urgency, volatility, or crisis * What happened when Ana moved from chaos into calm—and what it taught her * The difference between dissociating and true peace * How breathwork and somatic healing can help your body finally feel safe in stillness This is an episode for the strong ones. The ones who can hold it all, but are quietly craving rest. Ana shares her story as a mirror for yours, and invites you to consider what life might feel like if chaos weren't your baseline anymore. If you're ready to soften and experience peace without fear, Ana shares how The Summer Reset [https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset] might support you: ✨ 3 private healing + coaching sessions over 2 months ✨ Breathwork, intuitive coaching, and somatic tools ✨ A steady container to unwind and feel safe in your body again Learn more or book here: https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/ [https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/] WORK WITH ANA: Summer Reset: https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/ [https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/] Upcoming Events: https://www.analilia.net/special-events [https://www.analilia.net/special-events] Work With Ana: https://www.analilia.net/programs [https://www.analilia.net/programs] CONNECT WITH ANA: IG: https://www.instagram.com/_ana_lilia/ [https://www.instagram.com/_ana_lilia/] Substack: https://breathemore.substack.com/ [https://breathemore.substack.com/] Website: https://analilia.net [https://analilia.net] Email: info@analilia.net [info@analilia.net] Thank you for tuning in to this episode of Breathe More. If you found this episode helpful, please share it with your friends and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Your support helps us reach more beautiful souls like you!

96. I Thought Taking Care of Everyone Else Was Just What Women Did

This episode is a part of a special series of sharing Substack letters. Subscribe to Ana's Breathe More Substack at https://breathemore.substack.com/ [https://breathemore.substack.com/] In this episode, Ana shares her journey from overgiving and self-sacrifice to reclaiming her own needs and boundaries. Growing up watching her mother put herself last, Ana learned that being a "good woman" meant taking care of everyone else first. For years, she poured her energy into others—friends, partners, colleagues—believing it was love. But beneath it was exhaustion, resentment, and disconnection from herself. Through therapy, breathwork, and nervous system healing, Ana began unlearning the belief that love is earned through self-sacrifice. She reflects on the difficult choices she made to end one-sided relationships, and how creating space for mutual, nourishing connections transformed her life. In this episode, you'll learn: * How childhood examples shape our beliefs about love, rest, and caretaking * Why chronic overgiving often stems from fear and learned survival patterns * The signs a relationship may be rooted in one-sided giving * How to set boundaries without guilt or over-explaining * Why true service comes from self-connection, not depletion Ana also invites you to reflect on your own patterns: Did you grow up believing love had to be earned? Are you ready to start putting your own needs on the table? If you're craving support in reconnecting with yourself, Ana shares how The Summer Reset can help—three private sessions in a steady, nurturing container to help you feel grounded, cared for, and deeply connected to yourself again. Learn more about The Summer Reset here: https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/ [https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/] WORK WITH ANA: Summer Reset: https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/ [https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/] Upcoming Events: https://www.analilia.net/special-events [https://www.analilia.net/special-events] Work With Ana: https://www.analilia.net/programs [https://www.analilia.net/programs] CONNECT WITH ANA: IG: https://www.instagram.com/_ana_lilia/ [https://www.instagram.com/_ana_lilia/] Substack: https://breathemore.substack.com/ [https://breathemore.substack.com/] Website: https://analilia.net [https://analilia.net] Email: info@analilia.net [info@analilia.net] Thank you for tuning in to this episode of Breathe More. If you found this episode helpful, please share it with your friends and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Your support helps us reach more beautiful souls like you!

95. I Was Addicted to Chaos (And I Didn't Even Know It)

This episode is a part of a special series of sharing Substack letters. Subscribe to Ana's Breathe More Substack at https://breathemore.substack.com/ [https://breathemore.substack.com/] In this episode, Ana shares the quiet truth so many high-performing women live with: chaos has become their comfort zone. She opens up about growing up in an unpredictable home, becoming an expert at managing crises, and mistaking her ability to stay calm in the storm as strength, when it was actually survival mode. From toxic relationships to a chaotic career in acting to living in overstimulating environments, Ana explores what happened when she finally slowed down… and how nervous system healing helped her redefine safety on her own terms. This episode explores: * Why chaotic environments can feel "normal" when you've grown up in survival * How the nervous system becomes wired to expect urgency, volatility, or crisis * What happened when Ana moved from chaos into calm—and what it taught her * The difference between dissociating and true peace * How breathwork and somatic healing can help your body finally feel safe in stillness This is an episode for the strong ones. The ones who can hold it all, but are quietly craving rest. Ana shares her story as a mirror for yours, and invites you to consider what life might feel like if chaos wasn't your baseline anymore. If you're ready to soften and experience peace without fear, Ana shares how The Summer Reset might support you: ✨ 3 private healing + coaching sessions over 2 months ✨ Breathwork, intuitive coaching, and somatic tools ✨ A steady container to unwind and feel safe in your body again Learn more or book here: https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/ [https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/] WORK WITH ANA: Summer Reset: https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/ [https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/] Upcoming Events: https://www.analilia.net/special-events [https://www.analilia.net/special-events] Work With Ana: https://www.analilia.net/programs [https://www.analilia.net/programs] CONNECT WITH ANA: IG: https://www.instagram.com/_ana_lilia/ [https://www.instagram.com/_ana_lilia/] Substack: https://breathemore.substack.com/ [https://breathemore.substack.com/] Website: https://analilia.net [https://analilia.net] Email: info@analilia.net [info@analilia.net] Thank you for tuning in to this episode of Breathe More. If you found this episode helpful, please share it with your friends and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Your support helps us reach more beautiful souls like you!

94. Yesterday, I Stayed in Bed Past 8am

This episode is a part of a special series of sharing Substack letters. Subscribe to Ana's Breathe More Substack at https://breathemore.substack.com/ [https://breathemore.substack.com/] In this episode, Ana shares what might seem like a small moment - staying in bed past 8am - but for her, it's a sign of deep healing. As the eldest daughter of Mexican immigrant parents, rest wasn't modeled or encouraged. It felt uncomfortable, even dangerous. In this tender reflection, Ana explores how nervous system patterns from childhood can make stillness feel unsafe and how breathwork has helped her (and her clients) begin to feel safe enough to rest again - without guilt or fear. In this episode, you'll learn: * Why rest can feel unsafe for those with trauma or chronic stress * How family dynamics shape our relationship with rest and productivity * What nervous system dysregulation looks like in high-functioning adults * Why rest is not a reward—it's a right * How breathwork supports the body in relearning how to feel safe in stillness This episode is an invitation to untangle the beliefs you've inherited about rest, and to gently return to the truth that you don't have to earn your pause. If your body is asking for a slower pace, Ana shares how The Summer Reset might support you. Learn more about The Summer Reset at https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/ [https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/] WORK WITH ANA: Summer Reset: https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/ [https://analilia.thrivecart.com/the-summer-reset/] Upcoming Events: https://www.analilia.net/special-events [https://www.analilia.net/special-events] Work With Ana: https://www.analilia.net/programs [https://www.analilia.net/programs] CONNECT WITH ANA: IG: https://www.instagram.com/_ana_lilia/ [https://www.instagram.com/_ana_lilia/] Substack: https://breathemore.substack.com/ [https://breathemore.substack.com/] Website: https://analilia.net [https://analilia.net] Email: info@analilia.net [info@analilia.net] Thank you for tuning in to this episode of Breathe More. If you found this episode helpful, please share it with your friends and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Your support helps us reach more beautiful souls like you!

93. My Anxious Little Girl Ran My Life For Years

This episode is a part of a special series of sharing Substack letters. Subscribe to Ana's Breathe More Substack at https://breathemore.substack.com/ [https://breathemore.substack.com/] In this episode, Ana shares a deeply personal story about the anxious little girl inside her, Lily - the inner child who spent years trying to stay safe by staying perfect. Raised in a home where mental health wasn't talked about and safety meant scanning the room and managing others' emotions, Ana learned early on to over-function, please, and perform. For a long time, that little girl, Lily, was still calling the shots. This episode unpacks how Ana began to reconnect with her inner child and shift from survival to true emotional safety. Tune in to learn: * How childhood anxiety often hides behind perfectionism and people-pleasing * What it means when your inner child is still running the show * Why high-functioning anxiety is usually a sign of deep inner fear * How therapy, breathwork, and nervous system healing helped Ana begin to feel safe again * Why tending to your inner child can change the way you relate to rest, boundaries, and self-worth This episode also includes a guided Inner Child Meditation to help you begin connecting with the younger part of you. You'll be invited to gently check in, offer compassion, and begin building trust with the version of you who needed safety the most. WORK WITH ANA: Book a Private Session: https://www.analilia.net/book-online [https://www.analilia.net/book-online] Upcoming Events: https://www.analilia.net/special-events [https://www.analilia.net/special-events] Work With Ana: https://www.analilia.net/programs [https://www.analilia.net/programs] CONNECT WITH ANA: IG: https://www.instagram.com/_ana_lilia/ [https://www.instagram.com/_ana_lilia/] Substack: https://breathemore.substack.com/ [https://breathemore.substack.com/] Website: https://analilia.net [https://analilia.net] Email: info@analilia.net [info@analilia.net] Thank you for tuning in to this episode of Breathe More. If you found this episode helpful, please share it with your friends and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Your support helps us reach more beautiful souls like you!