Car Ride Conversations For Sports Families

The Mental Game of the World Cup: Lessons Every Young Athlete Should Notice

Watch the World Cup Differently: Mental Toughness Lessons for Young Athletes Valerie Alston challenges sports families to watch the World Cup by focusing on mindset rather than the ball, using knockout-round moments to teach mental toughness. She highlights how quickly momentum shifts in soccer and the importance of emotional flexibility—responding to the current reality and “playing the score on the scoreboard, not the one in your head.” She explains that pressure doesn’t require rushing, emphasizing deliberate routines and the cue “slow is smooth, smooth is fast.” She also discusses intentional body language after mistakes, composure late in games, and how top teams solve problems together through communication, encouragement, and solution-focused resilience. 00:00 Watch the Mindset 01:18 Momentum and Emotional Flexibility 03:26 Play the Scoreboard 04:37 Pressure Without Rushing 06:24 Slow Is Smooth 07:11 Body Language and Composure 09:33 Team Resilience Together 10:52 Watch for the Hidden Skills 11:53 Family Conversation Prompts 14:46 Wrap Up and Next Steps Discussion questions: 1. When you watched the World Cup this week, who impressed you the most—not because they scored, but because of how they handled pressure? 2. After you make a mistake in your sport, what does your body language usually communicate to your teammates? 3. What's one situation in your sport where slowing down instead of speeding up would actually help you perform better? 4. If someone watched only your attitude—not your statistics—what would they learn about you as a teammate? Thanks for joining me on Confident, Calm, and Clutch Car Ride Conversations! If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a moment. Share it with other parents or coaches who could use a little extra inspiration on the go. For exclusive tips, tools, and updates join my newsletter at www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter [http://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter] For more specific tips on building mental toughness, buy my book Confident, Calm and Clutch: How to build confidence and mental toughness for young athletes using sports psychology [https://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/confidentcalmandclutchbook] If you are a coach looking for ways to build mental toughness into your practices then check out my coaching resources (books, assessments, conversation starters, community and more) here [https://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/coaches]. Parents join my Facebook group to Help Your Athlete Gain Mental Toughness for Parents [https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1XBC48thLu/] Have an idea for a topic? Submit your idea here. [https://valstoncoaching.typeform.com/carridetopic] Questions? Comments? Ideas? Email me: valerie.alston@valstoncoaching.com Follow Me on: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valstoncoaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valstoncoaching YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@valstoncoaching9666 Watch every episode of Car Ride Conversations here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOjguEFjF88w5Wl-eA9dlkwLk7f_sI12V [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOjguEFjF88w5Wl-eA9dlkwLk7f_sI12V]

How to Pay for College Without Losing Your Mind (or Your Money)

How to Pay for College: Scholarships, FAFSA Timing, and Family Money Talks Valerie Alston and guest Shelly Howard discuss how sports families can fund college through early, honest conversations about what parents can contribute, whether loans are on the table, and the student’s role in earning merit scholarships. Howard explains four “buckets” of money, notes scholarships can be pursued as early as fourth grade, and emphasizes getting a clear estimate of what colleges expect you to pay using a Student Aid Index (SAI) calculator. She highlights that FAFSA considers not only income but where assets are held, and warns planning should start well before late junior year. The episode stresses that the biggest money can come from choosing the right, more generous college and from students building a strong “resume” of authentic leadership and activities. They offer conversation starters like the “millionaire” game to gauge values and financial literacy, and share resources including books and a 30-minute discovery call at collegereadyplan.info. 00:00 College Cost Wakeup 02:16 Funding Starts With Talk 04:46 Scholarship Buckets And FAFSA 08:07 Student Merit Mindset 13:19 Where To Find Scholarships 17:24 Family Money Talk Starters 18:20 Millionaire Game And Debt 23:03 Resources And Wrap Up www.collegereadyplan.info [http://www.collegereadyplan.info] www.collegereadyplan.com [http://www.collegereadyplan.com] Thanks for joining me on Confident, Calm, and Clutch Car Ride Conversations! If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a moment. Share it with other parents or coaches who could use a little extra inspiration on the go. For exclusive tips, tools, and updates join my newsletter at www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter [http://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter] For more specific tips on building mental toughness, buy my book Confident, Calm and Clutch: How to build confidence and mental toughness for young athletes using sports psychology [https://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/confidentcalmandclutchbook] If you are a coach looking for ways to build mental toughness into your practices then check out my coaching resources (books, assessments, conversation starters, community and more) here [https://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/coaches]. Parents join my Facebook group to Help Your Athlete Gain Mental Toughness for Parents [https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1XBC48thLu/] Have an idea for a topic? Submit your idea here. [https://valstoncoaching.typeform.com/carridetopic] Questions? Comments? Ideas? Email me: valerie.alston@valstoncoaching.com Follow Me on: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valstoncoaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valstoncoaching Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@valstoncoaching9666 Watch every episode of Car Ride Conversations here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOjguEFjF88w5Wl-eA9dlkwLk7f_sI12V [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOjguEFjF88w5Wl-eA9dlkwLk7f_sI12V]

Before You Pick a Major, Try This First - with Shellee Howard

How to Pick a College Major & School: Try, Test, and Build a Real Plan Host Valerie Alston continues her conversation with college-planning expert Shelly Howard about helping students move from a future vision to choosing a major and school. They emphasize building confidence by trying real experiences, shadowing jobs, volunteering, and leadership roles, to discover both what students like and what they don’t, while also gathering stories for applications. They discuss balancing passion with practicality, including return on investment and realistic expectations for careers like professional sports or influencing. Howard outlines key admissions factors: rigorous GPA, aligned test scores, meaningful service, extracurricular depth, leadership, recommendations, and a strong essay, and explains how her “College Ready” village reduces stress by providing a roadmap and support for both students and parents. They close with conversation prompts on who leads the process and what type of college environment fits best. 00:00 Pressure to Decide 00:21 Meet the Hosts 01:22 Vision to Next Steps 03:19 Try It to Know It 06:46 Athletes and Reality Checks 09:26 Passion Versus Paycheck 11:17 Choosing a College 11:40 What Schools Look For 15:13 Beating the Overwhelm 20:51 Car Ride Questions 21:35 Who Leads the Process 23:42 Assessments and Neutral Help 25:55 Campus Fit and Tours 27:35 Wrap Up and Next Week You can reach Shelley and College Ready Plan on social media here: Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shelleehoward/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/shelleehoward/] Facebook: Shellee Maree Howard 5.3K followers www.facebook.com/shellee.howard1 [http://www.facebook.com/shellee.howard1] College Ready Page 4.8k followers www.facebook.com/CollegeReadyPlan [http://www.facebook.com/CollegeReadyPlan] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/collegereadyplan/ [https://www.instagram.com/collegereadyplan/] Youtube: @collegereadyplan https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCr_WodPHDfSWEbiPdsRDbyQ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCr_WodPHDfSWEbiPdsRDbyQ] TikTok: collegereadyplan https://www.tiktok.com/@collegereadyplan?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc [https://www.tiktok.com/@collegereadyplan?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] Google: College Ready Twitter: https://x.com/GoCollegeReady [https://x.com/GoCollegeReady] Discussion questions: 1. What's something you've always been curious about but haven't tried yet? What would it take to explore it? 2. Think about an experience you've had recently. What did it teach you about what you enjoy or don't enjoy? 3. If you could shadow anyone's job or spend a day learning from someone, who would it be and why? 4. What's one skill (leadership, communication, problem-solving, teamwork, etc.) you want to develop this year, and how could sports help you build it? Thanks for joining me on Confident, Calm, and Clutch Car Ride Conversations! If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a moment. Share it with other parents or coaches who could use a little extra inspiration on the go. For exclusive tips, tools, and updates join my newsletter at www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter [http://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter] For more specific tips on building mental toughness, buy my book Confident, Calm and Clutch: How to build confidence and mental toughness for young athletes using sports psychology [https://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/confidentcalmandclutchbook] If you are a coach looking for ways to build mental toughness into your practices then check out my coaching resources (books, assessments, conversation starters, community and more) here [https://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/coaches]. Parents join my Facebook group to Help Your Athlete Gain Mental Toughness for Parents [https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1XBC48thLu/] Have an idea for a topic? Submit your idea here. [https://valstoncoaching.typeform.com/carridetopic] Questions? Comments? Ideas? Email me: valerie.alston@valstoncoaching.com Follow Me on: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valstoncoaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valstoncoaching YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@valstoncoaching9666 Watch every episode of Car Ride Conversations here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOjguEFjF88w5Wl-eA9dlkwLk7f_sI12V [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOjguEFjF88w5Wl-eA9dlkwLk7f_sI12V]

The College Question Most Families Forget to Ask With Shellee Howard

Stop Asking “Where Do You Wanna Go?” | Starting the College Conversation the Right Way (with Shelly Howard) Host Valerie Alston welcomes college funding and admissions consultant Shelly Howard, founder of College Ready, to discuss why families should not start the college process by picking a school. Howard explains her approach begins with helping students gain clarity about who they are, what excites them, and their priorities - academic, social, athletic, and financial - before building a balanced list of reach, target, and safe schools and setting realistic expectations about rejection. She emphasizes starting early, normalizing “fail forward,” and using community service and campus visits to help students test interests and build motivation. The episode offers practical family conversation prompts, including asking what excites the student about their future, whether they see themselves going to college, and listening beyond job labels to the deeper goals behind them. 00:00 Start With Who You Are 00:53 Meet College Consultant Shelly 01:28 Her Origin Story 02:45 Clarity Before College Lists 04:15 Athletes Priorities And Fit 06:17 Undecided And Fear Of Failure 06:52 Serve To Discover Yourself 10:34 Start Early And Adaptable Careers 12:20 Organic Chem Reality Check 14:08 Family Alignment First 17:11 Conversation Prompts For Parents 18:09 Front Seat Future Vision 20:52 Do You Even Want College 21:25 Botanist Story Listen Deeper 24:20 Campus Visits Spark Ownership 26:32 Wrap Up And Next Episode You can reach Shelley on social media here: Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shelleehoward/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/shelleehoward/] Facebook: Shellee Maree Howard 5.3K followers www.facebook.com/shellee.howard1 [http://www.facebook.com/shellee.howard1] College Ready Page 4.8k followers www.facebook.com/CollegeReadyPlan [http://www.facebook.com/CollegeReadyPlan] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/collegereadyplan/ [https://www.instagram.com/collegereadyplan/] Youtube: @collegereadyplan https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCr_WodPHDfSWEbiPdsRDbyQ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCr_WodPHDfSWEbiPdsRDbyQ] TikTok: collegereadyplan https://www.tiktok.com/@collegereadyplan?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc [https://www.tiktok.com/@collegereadyplan?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] Google: College Ready Twitter: https://x.com/GoCollegeReady [https://x.com/GoCollegeReady] Thanks for joining me on Confident, Calm, and Clutch Car Ride Conversations! If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a moment. Share it with other parents or coaches who could use a little extra inspiration on the go. For exclusive tips, tools, and updates join my newsletter at www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter [http://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter] For more specific tips on building mental toughness, buy my book Confident, Calm and Clutch: How to build confidence and mental toughness for young athletes using sports psychology [https://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/confidentcalmandclutchbook] If you are a coach looking for ways to build mental toughness into your practices then check out my coaching resources (books, assessments, conversation starters, community and more) here [https://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/coaches]. Parents join my Facebook group to Help Your Athlete Gain Mental Toughness for Parents [https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1XBC48thLu/] Have an idea for a topic? Submit your idea here. [https://valstoncoaching.typeform.com/carridetopic] Questions? Comments? Ideas? Email me: valerie.alston@valstoncoaching.com Follow Me on: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valstoncoaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valstoncoaching YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@valstoncoaching9666 Watch every episode of Car Ride Conversations here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOjguEFjF88w5Wl-eA9dlkwLk7f_sI12V [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOjguEFjF88w5Wl-eA9dlkwLk7f_sI12V]

What Young Athletes Can Learn From the Playoffs: Thriving Under Pressure

3 Things Young Athletes Can Learn From Playoff Games (Confidence, Resilience & Pressure) Valerie Alston of Car Ride Conversations for Sports Families explains how young athletes can learn from watching playoff sports beyond entertainment by studying confidence, resilience, and performance under pressure. She highlights that pressure doesn’t eliminate mistakes, elite athletes are mistake-resistant and focus on resetting quickly after errors, then explains that pressure reveals preparation, so routines, breathing, body language, and trained habits show up most in big moments. She also emphasizes that championships are won by teams, not superstars, and encourages noticing role players, communication, trust, and small contributions that lead to wins. The episode closes with family discussion prompts about athlete responses to mistakes, composure under pressure, role-player impact, and which personal habits or routines are most trustworthy if a championship game were tomorrow. 00:00 Playoff Season Lessons 01:49 Mistakes Under Pressure 03:51 Preparation Shows Up 06:21 Teams Beat Superstars 08:13 After Things Go Wrong 09:32 Support The Podcast 10:02 Conversation Rules 10:27 Discussion Questions 13:08 Final Takeaways Discussion questions: 1. When you watch playoff games, what do you notice athletes doing after they make a mistake? 2. Which athlete or team seems the calmest under pressure? What are they doing that helps them stay composed? 3. What role players or teammates have you noticed making important contributions even if they aren't getting all the attention? 4. If a championship game was tomorrow, what habit or routine would you trust most about your preparation? Thanks for joining me on Confident, Calm, and Clutch Car Ride Conversations! If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe to the podcast so you never miss a moment. Share it with other parents or coaches who could use a little extra inspiration on the go. For exclusive tips, tools, and updates join my newsletter at www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter [http://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/newsletter] For more specific tips on building mental toughness, buy my book Confident, Calm and Clutch: How to build confidence and mental toughness for young athletes using sports psychology [https://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/confidentcalmandclutchbook] If you are a coach looking for ways to build mental toughness into your practices then check out my coaching resources (books, assessments, conversation starters, community and more) here [https://www.confidentcalmclutch.com/coaches]. Parents join my Facebook group to Help Your Athlete Gain Mental Toughness for Parents [https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1XBC48thLu/] Have an idea for a topic? Submit your idea here. [https://valstoncoaching.typeform.com/carridetopic] Questions? Comments? Ideas? Email me: valerie.alston@valstoncoaching.com Follow Me on: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/valstoncoaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valstoncoaching YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@valstoncoaching9666 Watch every episode of Car Ride Conversations here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOjguEFjF88w5Wl-eA9dlkwLk7f_sI12V [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOjguEFjF88w5Wl-eA9dlkwLk7f_sI12V]