Celeste The Therapist

Daily Shift 176: How to sit with the discomfort of disappointing someone

Knowing you should say no is one thing. Actually sitting with the discomfort of someone being disappointed in you is another. For people pleasers that discomfort doesn't just feel bad — it feels unbearable. Like something is wrong. Like you've done something terrible. In today's episode, Celeste talks about why disappointing people feels so physically and emotionally overwhelming — and how to stay in your decision without caving just to make the feeling stop. Today's shift: Let someone be disappointed today — and practice staying in your decision anyway. Events [https://stwyt.com/events] Store [https://stwyt.com/store] Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock [https://www.tiktok.com/@celestethetherapist] , facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61582556684611] and instagram [https://www.instagram.com/celeste.the.therapist/] Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock [https://www.tiktok.com/@stwyt8] , facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61566337261784]and instagram [https://www.instagram.com/stwyt_/]

Daily Shift 175: When saying yes to everyone means saying no to yourself

Every yes you give has a cost. And for people pleasers that cost is almost always paid from the same account — their own time, energy, peace, and sense of self. In today's episode, Celeste makes the hidden math of people pleasing visible — and helps you see that every yes you say to someone else is simultaneously a no to something inside yourself. Today's shift: Look at your last three yeses — and identify what you said no to yourself in order to say yes to them. Events [https://stwyt.com/events] Store [https://stwyt.com/store] Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock [https://www.tiktok.com/@celestethetherapist] , facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61582556684611] and instagram [https://www.instagram.com/celeste.the.therapist/] Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock [https://www.tiktok.com/@stwyt8] , facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61566337261784]and instagram [https://www.instagram.com/stwyt_/]

Daily Shift 174: You can't people please your way into feeling loved

SHOW NOTES People pleasing often starts as a strategy for getting love and staying connected. If I'm easy enough, helpful enough, agreeable enough — they'll love me. But it never actually works. Because the love you earn through performance never feels like the love you were looking for. In today's episode, Celeste explains why people pleasing and genuine love are fundamentally incompatible — and what it actually takes to feel truly loved. Today's shift: Identify one relationship where you've been performing for love instead of receiving it — and get honest about how that's been working for you. Events [https://stwyt.com/events] Store [https://stwyt.com/store] Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock [https://www.tiktok.com/@celestethetherapist] , facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61582556684611] and instagram [https://www.instagram.com/celeste.the.therapist/] Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock [https://www.tiktok.com/@stwyt8] , facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61566337261784]and instagram [https://www.instagram.com/stwyt_/]

EP 541 The Heart-Brain Connection: Using HeartMath for Emotional Regulation

In this episode, Celeste explores HeartMath — a research-backed system that uses heart coherence to regulate your nervous system, manage stress, and support emotional healing. What Is HeartMath? Developed by the HeartMath Institute, this approach is built on 30+ years of research showing that the heart and brain are in constant communication — and that your emotional state directly shapes your heart rhythm, which in turn affects how you think, feel, and respond. **Key Concepts -Heart coherence — a state where your heart, brain, and nervous system are in sync; you feel calmer, clearer, and more grounded - HRV (Heart Rate Variability)** — a measure of nervous system flexibility and resilience; HeartMath techniques shift your HRV into a healthier pattern - The heart sends *more* signals to the brain than the brain sends to the heart — your emotional state is a physiological event, not just a mental one Quick Coherence® Technique (60 seconds) 1. Shift your focus to your heart area and breathe slowly — inhale 5–6 seconds, exhale 5–6 seconds 2. Recall something or someone that brings genuine feelings of appreciation or calm 3. Hold that feeling while continuing to breathe Use this before a hard conversation, in a stressful moment, or as a daily reset. Why It Matters for Healing Many people carrying unresolved trauma are stuck in survival mode — the body hasn't gotten the message that it's safe. Heart coherence techniques give you a body-based tool to interrupt that cycle in real time, not just talk about it. --- Resources - HeartMath Institute: heartmath.org - Inner Balance™ Coherence Plus App (HRV biofeedback) - *The HeartMath Solution* by Doc Childre & Howard Martin - Celeste's website: celestethetherapist.com

Daily Shift 173: The cost of being easy to be around

Being easy to be around sounds like a compliment. But for a lot of people it's come at an enormous cost — their voice, their needs, their sense of self. In today's episode, Celeste talks about what it actually takes to maintain the reputation of being easygoing — and why the people who are always easy to be around are often the ones struggling the most on the inside. Today's shift: Ask yourself honestly — what has being easy to be around actually cost you? Events [https://stwyt.com/events] Store [https://stwyt.com/store] Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock [https://www.tiktok.com/@celestethetherapist] , facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61582556684611] and instagram [https://www.instagram.com/celeste.the.therapist/] Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock [https://www.tiktok.com/@stwyt8] , facebook [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61566337261784]and instagram [https://www.instagram.com/stwyt_/]