Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and Dené

Ep. 248 ENOUGH WITH THE ‘HAVE TO’S’

In this episode of the podcast, Vanessa and Dené talk about the ways in which we are all being challenged to stay with ourselves through the discomfort of releasing the things we have been holding as certain.  we talk about: * why it becomes necessary to be in acceptance of loss for us to show up authentically in relationships  * how our culture conditions us to be in a constant space of preoccupation- often in an attempt to defend against the fear of endings  * how we are collectively being invited to come into an acceptance of the nature of impermanence  * the very human desire to cling to the known when we are about to step into the next phase of our development  ..and so much more!  Don’t forget to follow and subscribe so you never miss an episode. You can also follow along with the show on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube!  Connect with Vanessa: * Instagram: @vanessasbennett [https://www.instagram.com/vanessasbennett/] * Website: vanessabennett.com [http://vanessabennett.com] * TikTok: @itsvanessabennett [https://www.tiktok.com/@thecodayoda] Connect with Dené: * Instagram: @dene.logan [https://www.instagram.com/dene.logan/] * Website: denelogan.com [http://denelogan.com] * TikTok: @denelogan [https://www.tiktok.com/@denelogan] Again, don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!  If you're interested in being one of our live anonymous coaching episodes, you can apply at the link in the show notes. And follow or subscribe to our IG, TT or YouTube. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Ep 247 AMERICA’S COLLECTIVE EGO DEATH

In this week’s episode, Vanessa and Dené talk about the energy that is being felt by so many of us as we move through what many astrologers are calling a ‘turning point’ eclipse season.   we talk about: * the immense amount of shadow work we’ve been asked to dive into in the midst of the current eclipse season * the dehumanization that starts to come up when we place people on pedestals  * how we are being asked to look at where we’ve outsourced our sense of security to other people  * how our disappointment in others often reflect where we’ve left expectations unexpressed  ..and so much more!  Don’t forget to follow and subscribe so you never miss an episode. You can also follow along with the show on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube!  This podcast is, for sure, Cheaper Than Therapy.  Follow Cheaper Than Therapy * Instagram: @cheaperthantherapypodcast [https://www.instagram.com/cheaperthantherapythepodcast/] * TikTok: @cheaperthantherapypod [https://www.tiktok.com/@cheaperthantherapypod] * YouTube: @cheaperthantherapypodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@cheaperthantherapypodcast] Connect with Vanessa: * Instagram: @vanessasbennett [https://www.instagram.com/vanessasbennett/] * TikTok: @thecodayoda [https://www.tiktok.com/@thecodayoda] * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631 [https://www.youtube.com/@vanessabennettlmft5631]  Connect with Dené: * Instagram: @dene.logan [https://www.instagram.com/dene.logan/] * TikTok: @denelogan [https://www.tiktok.com/@denelogan] See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Ep 246 THE EGO DEATHS ARE INEVITABLE

..the growth that comes from them is optional. In this week’s episode, Vanessa and Dené  talk about the extent to which 2025 has felt like - to many - one enormous ego death, what that means, and why this is a crucial aspect of our collective healing process.  we talk about: * how life is changing pushing us to separate our essence from our adapted survival strategies or what we’ve been calling our personality  * why it becomes important to honor other people’s process - even if we experience them as bypassing the ‘truth’ of where we believe they should be  * how we can start to view life’s difficult moments and relationships as an invitation to expand through what might actually be an initiatory cycle or ego death  * the extent to which we are experiencing an collective ego death as human race  ..and so much more!  Don’t forget to follow and subscribe so you never miss an episode. You can also follow along on Instagram and YouTube! Connect with Vanessa: * Instagram: @vanessasbennett [https://www.instagram.com/vanessasbennett/] * Website: vanessabennett.com [http://vanessabennett.com/] * TikTok: @itsvanessabennett [https://www.tiktok.com/@thecodayoda] Connect with Dené: * Instagram: @dene.logan [https://www.instagram.com/dene.logan/] * Website: denelogan.com [http://denelogan.com/] * TikTok: @denelogan [https://www.tiktok.com/@denelogan] Again, don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!  If you're interested in being one of our live anonymous coaching episodes, you can apply at the link in the show notes. And follow or subscribe to our IG, TT or YouTube. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Ep 245: The Lie We Were Sold: Motherhood, Partnership, and the Cost of Performing

In the first installment of one of our new solo series, Vanessa kicks off with a core theme from her new book The Motherhood Myth: The Lie We Were Sold—the cultural script that says partnership and motherhood should be inherently easy and endlessly fulfilling…and if they aren’t, you must be doing it wrong. Vanessa traces how that story keeps us isolated, ashamed, and over-functioning, and why naming it is the first step to reclaiming a solid sense of Self. We discuss: * How a shared season of overstimulation, depletion, and “Who am I anymore?” sparked this book * The lie itself—and how it feeds codependency, self-abandonment, and the “performing for belonging” loop * Dominator systems 101: patriarchy, capitalism, and why shame is such an effective control mechanism * What changes when you build from capital-S Self: less personalization, more ownership, real agency * Two journal prompts to begin untangling your inherited myths (about “good mother / partner / woman / person”) * An invitation to help name this solo mini-series + what’s coming next (“Ego Explosion”) We would love to hear from you: 1. What is the lie you were sold about partnership, motherhood, womanhood—or being a “good” person? 2. How was shame used to keep you performing that role? Don’t forget to follow and subscribe so you never miss an episode. You can also follow along on Instagram and YouTube! Connect with Vanessa: * Instagram: @vanessasbennett [https://www.instagram.com/vanessasbennett/] * Website: vanessabennett.com [http://vanessabennett.com/] * TikTok: @itsvanessabennett [https://www.tiktok.com/@thecodayoda] Connect with Dené: * Instagram: @dene.logan [https://www.instagram.com/dene.logan/] * Website: denelogan.com [http://denelogan.com/] * TikTok: @denelogan [https://www.tiktok.com/@denelogan] Again, don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!  If you're interested in being one of our live anonymous coaching episodes, you can apply at the link in the show notes. And follow or subscribe to our IG, TT or YouTube. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Ep 244 Are People Partying Less?

In this week’s episode, Vanessa gives Dené a recap of her time spent at a bachelorette party over the weekend. We explore some of the trends - and possible factors impacting - why millennials may have a different relationship with alcohol than older generations. We discuss: -Whether studies suggesting that gen Z is consuming less alcohol than millennials are pointing to an awakening of consciousness or feeling more self-conscious about making mistakes. - If the younger generation are being raised with a lower tolerance for discomfort. - What some of the positive outcomes could potentially be from discomfort that parents may be robbing their children of experiencing.  ..and so much more!  Don’t forget to follow and subscribe so you never miss an episode. You can also follow along with the show on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube!  Connect with Vanessa: * Instagram: @vanessasbennett [https://www.instagram.com/vanessasbennett/] * Website: vanessabennett.com [http://vanessabennett.com] * TikTok: @itsvanessabennett [https://www.tiktok.com/@thecodayoda] Connect with Dené: * Instagram: @dene.logan [https://www.instagram.com/dene.logan/] * Website: denelogan.com [http://denelogan.com] * TikTok: @denelogan [https://www.tiktok.com/@denelogan] Again, don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!  If you're interested in being one of our live anonymous coaching episodes, you can apply at the link in the show notes. And follow or subscribe to our IG, TT or YouTube. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].