Come Together with Erin + Abe Lichy

Is It Supposed To Be This Hard? Adult Friendships and How Things Change As We Get Older

As you get older and "life starts life-ing," you might notice your friendships starting to change. And that's what we dive into this week: times when we've grown in a different direction than our friends, how we started getting more selective about our inner circle, and how we've let go of the guilt that can come with changing friendships in adulthood. We also talk about clingy friends Abe had when he was dating Erin (which of course, Erin warned him about!), differences between guy and girl friendships, and the friends we rely on to watch our kids without worrying about whether they'll keep them alive. And finding couple friends that both of us actually like? We get into that too. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! [https://sites.prh.com/shes-a-host] @cometogetherpod [https://www.instagram.com/cometogetherpod] @erindanalichy [https://www.instagram.com/erindanalichy] @abe.lichy [https://www.instagram.com/abe.lichy/] Produced by Dear Media [http://dearmedia.com/] See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

The '1–10 Rule' and Other Things That Have Helped Us Keep Things Spicy

Everyone wants to know how to keep things spicy... and pretending there one at all might actually be the problem. This week we get into what's worked for us — the '1-10 Rule' that that has genuinely saved us from so many stupid fights, why a little distance and independent interests can do more for attraction than any date night, and the story of how Erin told Abe to quit corporate law. (Spoiler: He did. We don't regret it.) We also talk prenups (which is less dramatic than it sounds), non-negotiable date nights when you have small kids, and what to actually do with the two hours after bedtime. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! [https://sites.prh.com/shes-a-host] @cometogetherpod [https://www.instagram.com/cometogetherpod] @erindanalichy [https://www.instagram.com/erindanalichy] @abe.lichy [https://www.instagram.com/abe.lichy/] Produced by Dear Media [http://dearmedia.com/]. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Looksmaxxing, Bone Smashing, and Other Things We Wish We Didn't Know About

We thought Levi was doing face yoga. Actually? He was looks-maxing. And turns out he's not the only one. We found out there's a whole subculture here — soft maxing, hard maxing, bone smashing, clip farms, and a guy named Clavicular who ODed on a live stream. We had to look up half of these words in real time. Abe knew more than he should... like usual. We get into the bigger generational conversation, disagree about some of it, and somehow end up at dumpling hunting and no-phone clubs. Classic us. Soft maxing is fine by the way. It's just face yoga. The rest of it, well, we'll let you decide. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! [https://sites.prh.com/shes-a-host] @cometogetherpod [https://www.instagram.com/cometogetherpod] @erindanalichy [https://www.instagram.com/erindanalichy] @abe.lichy [https://www.instagram.com/abe.lichy/] Produced by Dear Media [http://dearmedia.com] See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

If Your Marriage Can Survive Reality TV, It Can Survive Anything

We have loooooots to catch up on. Being married in public is its own thing entirely, and this week we're getting into all of it. We go there on the Summer House drama and the Taylor Frankie Paul situation, and we have thoughts. A lot of them. What happens when you do something very high school while the whole internet is watching, why people feel entitled to your everything once you're a public person, and where the line actually is between what audiences are owed and what's still yours to keep. If your marriage can survive reality TV, it can probably survive anything. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! [https://sites.prh.com/shes-a-host] @cometogetherpod [https://www.instagram.com/cometogetherpod] @erindanalichy [https://www.instagram.com/erindanalichy] @abe.lichy [https://www.instagram.com/abe.lichy/] Produced by Dear Media [http://dearmedia.com/] See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

There's Nothing Hotter Than a Dad Who Takes the Toddler w/ Lindsey Metselaar

Lindsey Metselaar has been in our lives since before she had a following, a husband, or a sleep schedule. Now she has all three, plus a 2.5-month-old. We reminisce about our extremely unproductive work era together, and then somehow spend the next hour covering postpartum bodies, C-sections, cosmetic work, the filler rabbit hole, sobriety, and why today's weed is genuinely not the same conversation it was fifteen years ago. Abe makes his case against the filler rabbit hole. Lindsay makes her case for a "beauty broker." We cover the NICU, postpartum resentment, and why watching your husband handle a toddler and a newborn at the same time is, apparently, very attractive. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S NEW BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! [https://sites.prh.com/shes-a-host] @cometogetherpod [https://www.instagram.com/cometogetherpod] @erindanalichy [https://www.instagram.com/erindanalichy] @abe.lichy [https://www.instagram.com/abe.lichy/] Produced by Dear Media [http://dearmedia.com/] See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].