Corporate Christie

#53 - Projection vs. Gaslighting (and why your boss thinks you're LAZY when you're NOT)

Today we’re talking about projection — gaslighting’s ugly second cousin. You know, when someone accuses you of doing the very thing they’re guilty of. Fun, unhealed stuff, right?  00:42 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwUT84PRcK0&t=42s] – “How are you, really?” (aka, are you dehydrated?) 02:32 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwUT84PRcK0&t=152s] – Projection vs. Gaslighting: 03:32 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwUT84PRcK0&t=212s] – Lazy boss calling you lazy? 04:18 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwUT84PRcK0&t=258s] – “You’re lying!” …says the liar. 05:05 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwUT84PRcK0&t=305s] – Why childhood trauma makes projection feel weirdly familiar 06:13 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwUT84PRcK0&t=373s] – Micromanaging boss 09:07 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwUT84PRcK0&t=547s] – Gossiping coworker accusing you of gossiping (make it make sense) 10:20 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwUT84PRcK0&t=620s] – Personal story 11:51 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwUT84PRcK0&t=711s] – Friend drama 16:40 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwUT84PRcK0&t=1000s] – Signs you’re being projected on 17:10 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwUT84PRcK0&t=1030s] – Grounding yourself 19:06 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwUT84PRcK0&t=1146s] – The #1 rule 20:27 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwUT84PRcK0&t=1227s] – Magic phrase 22:21 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwUT84PRcK0&t=1341s] – Calm comebacks 24:27 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwUT84PRcK0&t=1467s] – Journaling 25:06 – Documenting projection at work  27:06 – Managers cause 70% of turnover — send those surveys! 33:31 – Journaling prompts that helped me stop the victim spiral 34:50 – 48 Laws of Power 36:46 – How I got burned in corporate 🔥 38:52 – Brilliance doesn’t always get promoted 40:14 – The garbage analogy ◽️◽️◽️◽️◽️◽️ ⭐  The 48 Laws of Power - https://amzn.to/3KbuT48 [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa3Noa205eWJ5WUVXcEwtMkx5QUFRUGRWaENUUXxBQ3Jtc0ttQW4tTlBLOUpfQ0hIN2I5VkgzRHVnYlZRbDhBMXV0REpQdjJLRVRSZDlMYjM5clZkTFVYdzVwbjk1Q1NPaFpSTzJrRlNwMFN1OF9MRHliWmxBWnhOSXpfb2R4YkVTV3YwN043TUxNVkh5VzM2NlR1RQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Famzn.to%2F3KbuT48&v=mwUT84PRcK0] ⭐  Free Manager Survey Training - https://tinyurl.com/539zwm4c [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbFhoeGN4bUdfdUpITGVxcUlYTUVVSlRIdWR5QXxBQ3Jtc0trOVZGNEhrU2g5UzJMS2hBQ0hLVkNNM3FMbS1jdWNjUzBqR19lZEphUVNYazVTdEhKT3ZVcVZWczBDUm81SDFHdHVnbm8tNTQzVVg5YURxdnRHeTN3MkxhWGt2bS04ejJFRGJ3bGR4ekgzWkwzUHI2OA&q=https%3A%2F%2Ftinyurl.com%2F539zwm4c&v=mwUT84PRcK0] ◽️◽️◽️◽️◽️◽️ ⟡ TikTok:  / corporatechristie  ⟡ Linkedin:  / christiehoffman  ⟡ Amazon storefront: https://tinyurl.com/ykbwyyaa [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbk9ReUZqTmVYaTlBMWhEd0tKbFVFbVE2RDF1d3xBQ3Jtc0ttZkRSUUs5UEJWOUJiakNFNnlVcDFQNEFkbWswSWlGazJIRmRrYm9oREduQVZoTmlfZzdpbnFHaXBPX3EtNkgxSTlFTEdqZW1TbjM3cDhOMnJNV1NsZ2hES2xXeDhqTDBpdWt3YWkxZmJRNDY4MldRNA&q=https%3A%2F%2Ftinyurl.com%2Fykbwyyaa&v=mwUT84PRcK0] ⟡ Email: hello@corporatechristie.com ⟡ Website: https://www.corporatechristie.com [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbWUweVlJSUFTMEdXZHdPX3Z1dFNQVVNwa2RuQXxBQ3Jtc0trNDJLekV0SFVIZVdRbWFWd3JSa1U0YUJOaTNpamdtdnlfNVh3dU9UTWR4Mm1FS05rM1N6bE5VTlBuMHFMYjlKTzhtVi1RbDU4Vld4X0k1R2RsRUg4UjhrNlFERVp5cjdwWEtlSWp4cm9IVVpmY3Jubw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.corporatechristie.com%2F&v=mwUT84PRcK0]

#52 Anthony Hester: No Contact, Grief & Growth: Navigating Toxic Family Dynamics

Is your family making you insane? Yeah… us too. In this episode, my friend Anthony and I get real about what finally pushed us to go no contact with toxic family members. Enjoy this first time we ever spoke and our raw talk about childhood roles, triangulation, the masks we wore just to survive — and how all of that showed up in our adult relationships. This is just the tip of the iceberg from a lifetime of stories. From therapy breakthroughs to feeling like you're receiveing messages from the universe, to boundaries, and even letting go of the loved one with addiction issues in the family, we realized something big: sometimes you love someone enough to say goodbye so you finally stop hurting each other. And on the other side of that choice is healing, freedom, and finally becoming the person you were meant to be. If you’ve ever felt the pull between family loyalty and self-preservation, this conversation will make you feel less alone.  TIMESTAMPS 00:00 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg] The Journey to No Contact 02:11 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg&t=131s] Family Dynamics and Triangulation 04:46 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg&t=286s] The Impact of Addiction and Mental Health 06:51 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg&t=411s] Understanding the Darvo Tactic 09:27 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg&t=567s] Finding Personal Values and Boundaries 11:26 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg&t=686s] Healing and Moving Forward 25:47 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg&t=1547s] Navigating Grief and Emotional Awareness 30:40 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg&t=1840s] Understanding Emotional States and Family Dynamics 38:30 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg&t=2310s] The Impact of Family Relationships on Personal Growth 44:05 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg&t=2645s] Parenting and Breaking Generational Cycles 48:04 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg&t=2884s] The Snowflake Generation and Parental Expectations 50:14 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg&t=3014s] The Impact of Parental Pressure on Mental Health 53:07 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg&t=3187s] Navigating Family Dynamics and Boundaries 54:53 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg&t=3293s] Manipulation and Control in Family Relationships 56:34 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg&t=3394s] Healing from Generational Trauma 59:35 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cClqrQ_6tFg&t=3575s] Finding Meaning and Spirituality After Trauma ◽️◽️◽️◽️◽️◽️ 🔥 RESOURCES FOR YOU! ⭐ Toxic Family Survival Guide (made by me): https://tinyurl.com/kf9kcznn ⭐ Map of Human Consciousness (David Hawkins) https://amzn.to/4mTZBwN ⭐ The Feelings Wheel - https://feelingswheel.com/ ⭐ Books on Toxic Family that healed me: https://tinyurl.com/4ctvzdkp  ⭐ Anthony's Viral Video - https://tinyurl.com/56ddym5m ⭐ One of My Viral family Videos: https://rb.gy/mjwgwm ◽️◽️◽️◽️◽️◽️ MORE CORPORATE CHRISTIE!  ⟡ TikTok:   / https://www.tiktok.com/@corporatechristie ⟡ Linkedin:   / https://www.linkedin.com/in/christiehoffman/ ⟡ Amazon storefront: https://tinyurl.com/ykbwyyaa ⟡ Email: hello@corporatechristie.com ⟡ Website: https://www.corporatechristie.com/

#51 - Ian Mai: ADHD, Going off Adderall, and the Messy Middle: Healing from Trauma and Burnout

I sit down with ADHD & self-mastery coach Ian Mai just days after coming off Adderall for the first time in over 10 years. This episode isn’t about bashing medication (it helped me — until it didn’t). It’s about coming home to yourself. It’s about getting real with the patterns beneath our hyper-productivity. And it’s about the terrifying, necessary, beautiful work of finding yourself again after pushing so hard. We go way beyond dopamine and planners, and dive into: * The deeper reasons we can’t focus or follow through * What impulsivity is trying to protect * Why medication helps — but might be masking deeper wounds * The trauma hiding inside our “high performance” * ADHD, shame, systems, and how we learned to abandon ourselves * Emotional safety, breathwork, and body-based healing * The loneliness (and power) of doing life differently Contact Ian: * ianmai.co [https://ianmai.co/] * linkedin.com/in/ian-mai-coaching [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ian-mai-coaching/]  Contact Christie:  * linkedin.com/in/christiehoffman [https://www.linkedin.com/in/christiehoffman/] * corporatechristie.com [https://www.corporatechristie.com/] * @corporatechristie

#50 – DARVO Explained: How to Stop Letting People Walk All Over You

If you’ve ever tried to tell someone they hurt your feelings, but they made you feel like you were the bad guy—you're not Crazy. You were DARVO'd. This episode is part education, part memoir, and part spiritual boundary bootcamp. I made it because I don’t want you to waste another year trying to get toxic people to understand you. I break down: * What DARVO is (deny, attack, reverse victim and offender) * How emotionally immature people use it to flip the script * Why you, the empathetic, conflict-avoidant, peacekeeper, are often the perfect target * What healthy responses to feedback actually sound like * How DARVO showed up in my own life — in work, family, and friendships * Why I chose to go no contact with people who do it * How to recognize this dynamic in friendships and work * Scripts you can use to stay grounded when DARVO starts to unfold * Why “nobody’s allowed to tell you your feelings are wrong or bad” is now my life’s measuring stick * And why this is a non-negotiable skill if you want to live life as the main character, not a background character in someone else’s chaos Connect with me If this episode hit home, I’d love to hear from you! * 📲 TikTok: @CorporateChristie [https://www.tiktok.com/] * 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christiehoffman/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/christiehoffman/] * 📸 Instagram: @CorporateChristie [https://www.instagram.com/corporatechristie/?hl=en] * 📺 YouTube: Corporate Christie [https://www.youtube.com/@CorporateChristie] * 🌐 Website: www.corporatechristie.com [https://www.corporatechristie.com/] And if you’re an HR leader ready to stop getting steamrolled and start getting taken seriously, check out The HR Accelerator [https://www.corporatechristie.com/course] — my signature course to help you connect employee insights to real business impact.

#49 - A Better Way of Doing Employee Benefits (w/ Amy Spurling, CEO of Compt)

In today's episode, I sit down with Amy Spurling, CEO of Compt, to unpack the gap between the benefits companies think employees want and what they’ll actually use. Amy shares her journey from CFO to CEO and gives practical tips on how to stop wasting your benefits budget.  We dive into supporting hybrid teams, building the business case for better benefits, and why perks alone won’t drive retention. This one’s a must-listen for anyone who's tired of guessing what employees want, and need a benefits program that serves more and sucks less. ' 🎙️ Connect with Amy Spurling: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amyspurling/ Learn more about Compt: https://www.compt.io/ 💻 Connect with me: * LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christiehoffman [https://www.linkedin.com/in/christiehoffman] * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/corporate.christie [https://www.instagram.com/corporate.christie] * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@corporate.christie [https://www.tiktok.com/@corporate.christie]