Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace

73: 3 Reasons Estranged Kids Stay Silent

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2308788/fan_mail/new] While every family story is different, I’ve discovered three reasons estranged kids stay silent. If you’ve been searching for answers and hearing crickets, you are not alone.  As a mother your heart breaks when your child refuses to talk with you. The disruption in your family is overwhelming and may extend even to your grandkids. You long to know why and wonder how you can fix the problem so everything can get back to normal.  These questions took a toll on my heart until I took a hard look at the three reasons I’ll share with you today. And once you understand, you can begin to shift your perspective. Furthermore, your behavior and expectations will change creating an open door for reconciliation. Thanks for joining me today.  Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/73. [https://beckykolb.com/1] Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness!  Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

72: Take a Selfie of Your Heart

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2308788/fan_mail/new] If you took a selfie of your heart right now, what would it reveal? Selfie’s have been all the rage for a while now. People risk life and limb to crawl to the highest point of a dangerous cliff to capture their smiling face with the tallest waterfall or the deepest canyon.  It’s one thing to smile for the camera, but inside I can imagine these people are feeling a bit frightened about what could go wrong. Countless news articles reveal people that have slipped and fallen to an early death trying to capture that perfect selfie.  It’s one thing to look good for the camera and all the world to see, but what’s going on underneath? In the heart where only you know the real emotion and pain of estrangement. Today let’s sit for a few minutes with a selfie of your heart where you’ll find some real treasures of joy and peace.  Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/72. [https://beckykolb.com/1] Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness!  Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

71: Can I Find Peace Even Amid Estrangement?

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2308788/fan_mail/new] Peace even in estrangement is attainable although women believe otherwise. What about you? Do you feel that your estranged relationship must be reconciled before you can have peace? I did.  Obsessing over words spoken, actions taken and how a loved one could choose rejection was nonstop. You wonder if you’ll ever be normal again. I laugh about this now because what really is normal?   You see, women believe they are the only one going through this painfully emotional time and we compare our abnormal to the perceived normal in others.  Wherever you are, sit with me a few minutes and I’ll share how you can build a meaningful life and discover peace – even before the relationship heals.  Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/71. [https://beckykolb.com/1] Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness!  Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

70: The Heaviness of Why in Estrangement

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2308788/fan_mail/new] The heaviness of why in an estranged relationship with a loved one is unbearable at times. As I continue with the theme of changing your thoughts and changing your life, let’s explore how to lessen the weight of why.  Why is the cry of the heart of a mother who is estranged from a son or daughter that often results in loss of a relationship with grandkids. I know a woman who has been estranged from her daughter and grandkids for years.   She is a Christian, but that doesn’t exempt her from the pain she carries in her heart. The heaviness of why lingers day after day. But she has learned to let go of why and turn her heart in another direction. Settle in with me today and I’ll share the story.  Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/70. [https://beckykolb.com/1] Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness!  Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide

69: What God Thinks Toward You

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2308788/fan_mail/new] Continuing with the estrangement theme - Change your thoughts and change your life. Do you wonder what God thinks of you? That very thought can bring immense peace or terrorizing fear. At the height of my chaotic sinful life, I was certain God was waiting for an opportune time to strike me down. Estrangement compounded the feeling that He couldn’t love me.  You may be wondering what God thinks toward you in an estranged relationship with a son, daughter, or close family member. When the child you love, nursed, and cared for no longer wants a relationship, you wonder about those things they say to you and others.  Are you such a terrible person? If they think so, does God? If you’re in need of some encouragement today, settle in and listen to some great news!  Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/69. [https://beckykolb.com/1] Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships.  And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness!  Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact Download the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide