Gurl Talk with Jenny Raven

Ep 016 Suzy Whyte: Come Into My Closet

Hello gorgeous, and welcome back to Gurl Talk. I'm Jenny Raven, and I need to warn you, this one's going to get right under your skin. Have tissues nearby. And maybe a glass of something strong. My guest is the wonderful Susy Whyte, a trans crossdresser from Scotland who has been on one hell of a journey. Decades of hiding, purging, panicking, and pretending, and then, finally, letting the light in. If you've ever felt stuck between who the world expects you to be and who you really are, this conversation is for you. We start with our deliciously naughty quickfire questions, and then we go somewhere much deeper. Suzy talks about coming out to a colleague on a whim, the 700-person conference call where she introduced herself to the world, the "great purge" of 2015 when she believed Susie was dead forever, and the quiet, powerful act of therapy that changed everything. But here's what will stay with me. Suzy doesn't talk about coming out of the closet. She talks about inviting people in. Into her TARDIS, because, as she so perfectly puts it, it's bigger on the inside. This episode made me laugh, made me emotional, and reminded me exactly why I do this podcast. Somewhere out there, one of you gorgeous creatures is thinking: maybe it's my turn to let someone in too. Introduction & Letting People In (00:00:00) Susie reframes "coming out" as inviting others into her authentic self; Jenny introduces the episode and guest. Quick-Fire Personal Questions (00:01:11) Jenny asks Susie playful questions about fashion, preferences, and self-description. Living Dual Lives & Early Coming Out (00:03:05) Discussion of dual identities, generational context, and Susie’s initial steps integrating Susie into her life. Coming Out at Work and to Partner (00:04:06) Susie describes coming out at work, therapy, and the difficult experience of coming out to her partner. Vulnerability and Reactions to Coming Out (00:06:12) Susie shares the first time she revealed Susie to someone, the fear, and the positive response. Suppressing Identity & Relationship Dynamics (00:08:33) Susie recounts suppressing Susie, believing she was "cured," and the eventual return of her feminine side. Hiding from Ex-Partners (00:11:31) Susie discusses hiding her crossdressing from her ex-partner and the fear of being discovered. Societal Attitudes & Family Dynamics (00:13:12) Jenny and Susie reflect on societal misunderstanding, family acceptance, and the impact of identity on family relationships. Coming Out to Family & Work (00:15:20) Susie explains why she hasn’t come out to family, her religious background, and her public coming out at work. Workplace Experiences & Acceptance (00:17:55) Susie describes coming out to large groups at work, supportive reactions, and her first experiences presenting as Susie in the office. Navigating Work Identity & Presentation (00:19:37) Discussion about the disconnect between masculine work identity and feminine presentation, and finding authentic style. Clothing, Confidence, and Social Energy (00:22:51) Exploring how clothing choices affect confidence, personality, and the interplay of masculine and feminine energies. Positive and Challenging Work Experiences (00:25:18) Susie shares being dress-coded at work, reactions from colleagues, and playful moments with her presentation. Therapy Journey & Self-Acceptance (00:27:40) Susie details her therapy experience, the importance of finding the right therapist, and the challenge of self-acceptance. Cognitive Dissonance & Societal Norms (00:33:23) Jenny and Susie discuss internalized societal expectations, cognitive dissonance, and questioning ingrained beliefs. Why Now? The Timing of Self-Expression (00:34:08) Exploring why Susie’s identity emerged more fully in recent years, and the journey from sexual expression to authenticity. Support Networks & Online Communities (00:36:13) Susie talks about early online support, learning about presentation, and the evolution from secrecy to openness. Letting Go of Shame & Embracing Authenticity (00:38:37) Susie describes the emotional process of accepting herself and the desire to be seen and share her true self. Reflections on Aging & Living Authentically (00:39:29) Jenny reflects on the urgency of living authentically as time passes and the positive impact of inviting others in. Erotica, Sensuality, and Feminine Experience (00:40:55) Discussion about Jenny’s audiobooks, the erotic and sensual aspects of femininity, and how it influences relationships. Clothing, Confidence, and Community Impact (00:45:09) Susie shares how clothing choices boost confidence, online communities, and inspiring others to embrace themselves. Generational Change & Diversity (00:47:12) Jenny and Susie discuss the normalization of diversity, generational shifts, and the importance of representation. The Tardis Analogy & Embracing the Inner Self (00:48:24) Susie uses a sci-fi analogy to describe her inner world as expansive and inviting others in. Advice for Younger Self & Others (00:49:42) Susie offers advice on self-acceptance, the importance of embracing who you are, and the happiness it brings. How to Connect with Susie (00:51:19) Susie shares her social media handles and where listeners can find her online. Closing Remarks & Podcast Outro (00:52:08) Jenny wraps up the episode, thanks Susie, and invites listeners to join her website and mailing list.

Ep015 Madeline Thomas From Image Angel

Jenny Raven talks with Madeline Thomas, founder of Image Angel, about fighting image abuse online. After turning her own painful experience into purpose, Madeline is building technology that helps creators track and protect their images across the internet. 00:00 The Dark Reality of Images Online (Podcast Introduction) 00:44 Meet the Founder Fighting Image Abuse – Madeline Thomas 01:13 The Shocking Truth About Your Photos on the Internet 02:59 Free Speech vs Online Safety – Where Should the Line Be? 05:59 How Image Angel Plans to Disrupt the Internet 09:01 Why the Internet Needs Image Protection Now 12:01 What Really Happens When You Share a Photo Online 14:59 The Massive Scale of Image Theft & Misuse 17:59 The Technology That Can Track Images Across the Internet 20:59 Can Creators Finally Protect Their Work Online? 24:00 The Laws Trying to Stop Image Abuse 27:00 How Communities Can Help Fix the Internet 30:01 The Emotional Toll of Image Abuse 33:00 The Vision for a Safer Internet 35:59 The One Thing Everyone Needs to Know About Online Images 37:00 Final Thoughts – Protecting the Future of Digital Identity

Ep014 Jenny Raven Uncovered: Interviewed By Helene Noire

In this flirty and playful episode of "Gurl Talk with Jenny Raven," Ellen Noire turns up the heat, interviewing the ever-alluring Jenny Raven about her sensual writing, Instagram escapades, and the art of erotica. The ladies giggle over naughty preferences, tease out the secrets of publishing steamy stories, and dive deep into the emotional and healing power of erotic self-expression. With a feminine touch, they celebrate queer identity, the thrill of being seen, and the freedom to explore desires, inviting listeners to embrace their own inner vixen and join Jenny’s deliciously naughty world. Introduction & Warm-Up Questions (00:00:04) Jenny introduces the episode, Ellen begins with playful, rapid-fire "naughty" questions to Jenny. Sensuality, Writing, and Fantasy Elements (00:03:41) Discussion of favorite erotic words, elements in fantasies, and preferred erotic media. Connection vs. Casual Encounters (00:05:34) Jenny and Ellen discuss threesomes, emotional connection, and the difference between real life and written erotica. Why Write Erotica? (00:07:06) Jenny explains her motivations for writing, the therapeutic aspect, and differences in erotic cultures (UK vs. US). Cultural Influences & Emotional Healing (00:09:05) Exploring how upbringing, culture, and personal wounds shape Jenny’s writing and the healing power of storytelling. Writing Style & Gaze in Erotica (00:15:12) Comparison of Jenny’s writing style to male and female perspectives, pacing, and sustaining erotic tension. Story Genesis & Character Development (00:17:59) Jenny describes how she starts stories, character-driven plots, and the importance of anticipation and setup. Sexuality in Society & Personal Experience (00:20:59) Discussion about societal denial of sexuality, provocative imagery, and personal anecdotes about navigating sexual triggers. Puberty, Shame, and the Birth of 'Aunty Jenny' (00:26:32) Jenny recounts puberty, lack of guidance, shame, and how her 'Aunty Jenny' persona emerged to fill that gap. Instagram, TikTok, and Social Media Challenges (00:29:33) Jenny details her experiences with social media bans, strategies for surviving on platforms, and the role of 'Aunty Jenny' online. Advice for Gender Exploration & Partner Communication (00:32:23) Jenny shares advice for those exploring gender identity, especially later in life, and navigating disclosure with partners. Labels, Identity, and Fluidity (00:35:18) Discussion on the usefulness and limitations of labels like trans, non-binary, and the importance of personal authenticity. Publishing Process: Kindle, Audiobooks, and Tools (00:38:34) Jenny outlines the practical steps for self-publishing erotica, including formatting, covers, and audiobook production. Finding an Audience & Social Media Marketing (00:46:04) How Jenny builds her audience, the importance of social media, and the economics of selling erotica. Privacy, Coming Out, and Exhibitionism (00:48:10) Navigating privacy as an erotica writer, coming out to friends, and the desire to be seen. Advice for Aspiring Erotica Writers (00:50:02) Jenny’s encouragement to new writers: just do it for enjoyment, not riches, and the personal fulfillment it brings. Living Authentically & Embracing the Unlived Life (00:52:36) Advice on embracing femininity or non-normative identities, the cost of an unlived life, and the journey to self-acceptance. Closing Reflections & Outro (00:58:11) Ellen praises Jenny’s honesty; Jenny wraps up, invites listeners to her website, and promotes her mailing list and stories.

Ep013 Anna Richards: FrloicMe.com Founder

In this flirty and fabulous episode, Jenny Raven cozies up with Anna Richards, the enchanting mind behind Frolic Me, to chat all things ethical, female-centered erotica. They giggle over the juicy details of Anna’s journey, the sultry storytelling at Frolic Me, and the oh-so-real challenges of being a woman in the adult industry. From censorship woes to celebrating pleasure in all its forms, this playful conversation is a love letter to sensuality, inclusivity, and daring to frolic outside the lines. Get ready for a dose of feminine empowerment with a wink! Quickfire Erotica Questions (00:00:41) Jenny asks Anna rapid-fire questions about preferences in erotica to set the tone for the conversation. Anna’s Journey into Erotica & Frolic Me Origins (00:02:29) Anna shares her background, inspiration, and the lack of female representation that led to creating Frolic Me. Mainstream Porn vs. Female-Centered Erotica (00:05:53) Discussion on differences between mainstream porn and erotica, focusing on narrative, foreplay, and female pleasure. Distinctiveness and Ethics in Frolic Me (00:07:32) Anna explains her approach to ethical, pleasure-focused content and critiques the dominance of tube sites. Defining Ethical Porn (00:10:29) Exploration of what ethical porn means, Anna’s filmmaking process, and the importance of transparency and collaboration. Transparency and the “Ethical” Buzzword (00:14:26) Anna discusses the importance of knowing who creates content and warns about misuse of the term “ethical.” Frolic Me’s Multi-Medium Approach (00:16:26) Overview of Frolic Me’s offerings: video, written erotica, and audio, and how audiences engage with each. Immersion, Storytelling, and Community (00:19:20) Jenny and Anna discuss character-driven storytelling, audience immersion, and the difference from mainstream porn. Censorship and Platform Challenges (00:21:14) Jenny shares her Instagram shutdown experience, leading to a discussion on censorship and puritanical attitudes in tech. Financial and Payment Barriers (00:22:30) Anna details struggles with payment processors, banks, and software providers due to adult content stigma. Big Porn Industry vs. Independent Creators (00:28:14) Discussion on feeling pushed toward big platforms, the “cartel” effect, and Amazon’s hidden censorship. Inclusivity, Labels, and Sexual Fluidity (00:30:27) Conversation about Frolic Me’s audience, experiences with trans and non-binary users, and the spectrum of sexuality. Bisexual Threesomes and Breaking Taboos (00:32:50) Anna describes the popularity and impact of bisexual threesome films and the dialogue they spark about sexuality. Generational Shifts and Gender Fluidity (00:34:02) Reflection on younger generations’ openness to fluid sexuality and the evolving landscape of erotic exploration. Personal Journeys and Shame (00:35:39) Jenny shares personal experiences with shame, therapy, and the challenges of exploring non-traditional masculinity. Audience Feedback and Impact (00:39:26) Anna recounts touching feedback from users, including couples, widows, and cancer survivors, highlighting erotica’s positive impact. Erotica as Healing and Service (00:42:20) Discussion on erotica’s role in healing, serving marginalized groups, and the importance of ethical creators. Advice to Younger Self (00:44:48) Anna reflects on overcoming fear of judgment and encourages embracing pleasure and self-expression earlier in life. How to Find Frolic Me (00:46:47) Anna shares how listeners can find Frolic Me online and on Instagram. Podcast Closing and Jenny’s Mailing List (00:48:16) Jenny thanks listeners, promotes her website, and invites them to join her mailing list for stories and audio experiences.

Ep012 Saurora Grace: Sexologist, Dominatrix, Escort and Adult Content Creator

In this flirty, playful episode of "Girl Talk with Jenny Raven," Jenny cozies up with the fabulous Saurora, a tantric healer, erotic empowerment sexologist, and pro domme with a heart for queer and disabled-inclusive intimacy. Together, they giggle and get real about sexual awakening, overcoming shame, and the delicious freedom of living authentically. From lingerie confessions to kinky rope secrets, Saurora spills all, while Jenny shares her own journey of self-expression and cross-dressing. It’s a juicy, feminine celebration of pleasure, healing, and embracing your wild, wonderful self, no matter what anyone thinks. * Introduction & Rapid Fire Questions (00:00:00) Saurora and Jenny introduce the episode, followed by a series of playful, rapid-fire questions about preferences and kinks. * Saurora’s Self-Description & Philosophy (00:02:48) Saurora describes her personality, approach to life, and her work in sexology, empowerment, and challenging sexual shame. * Jenny Reads Saurora’s Bio & Sets Episode Themes (00:04:48) Jenny reads Saurora’s website bio, highlighting her activism, inclusivity, and the main topics: erotic empowerment, sex work, and intimacy. * Personal Journeys into Sexuality (00:06:04) Both discuss their early experiences with sexual feelings, repression, and the journey toward embracing their sexual identities. * Saurora’s Sexual Awakening & Family Dynamics (00:08:02) Saurora shares her early sexual curiosity, family background, and the impact of her mother’s attitudes on her development. * Exploring Kinks, OnlyFans, and Shame (00:10:44) Saurora recounts discovering kinks, starting OnlyFans, and navigating secrecy, shame, and community in fetish spaces. * Mother’s Death as a Turning Point (00:11:44) Saurora explains how her mother’s passing catalyzed her decision to fully embrace her work and identity. * Retraining & Embracing Sex Work (00:12:41) Saurora details retraining as a tantric sexologist, her motivations, and the integration of sex work and healing. * Disability-Inclusive Intimacy (00:14:38) Saurora describes working with disabled clients, breaking taboos, and her passion for accessible, inclusive sexuality. * Building a Life of Sexual Freedom (00:16:32) Saurora discusses building a dungeon, living authentically, and the healing power of sexual self-acceptance. * Jenny’s Reflections on Repression & Cross-Dressing (00:17:23) Jenny shares her own experiences with repression, cross-dressing, and the challenges of generational shame. * The Hidden Lives of Cross-Dressers (00:21:26) Jenny discusses survey findings about cross-dressers, secrecy, and the emotional toll of unexpressed identity. * Saurora on Supporting Clients’ Self-Expression (00:24:22) Saurora explains how she supports clients in expressing their desires, especially men wanting to dress up. * Navigating Partner Disclosure & Shame (00:27:33) Jenny and Saurora discuss the difficulties and potential rewards of coming out to partners about kinks and cross-dressing. * Religion, Community, and Risk of Rejection (00:28:33) They explore the impact of religion and community on sexual expression, and the risks and rewards of living authentically. * Choosing Authenticity Over Fear (00:30:04) Saurora and Jenny discuss the cost of hiding versus the freedom of living openly, and finding new, supportive communities. * Jenny’s Personal Journey with Partner Acceptance (00:34:19) Jenny shares her experience of coming out to her partner, therapy, and the surprising outcomes of honesty. * Advice for Introducing Kinks to Partners (00:37:15) Jenny offers practical advice for introducing cross-dressing or kinks to partners, starting small and private. * The Power of Being Seen and Heard (00:40:06) Saurora explains the importance of being seen and heard in relationships, and how this can reduce obsessive urges. * Experimenting with Gender Expression (00:42:32) Saurora suggests trying gender expression “like a jacket,” encouraging gradual exploration and comfort. * Sensual Comfort of Clothing (00:43:26) Discussion on the sensuality of women’s clothing and the arbitrary gendering of fashion. * Prostate Orgasms & Expanding Pleasure (00:45:15) Saurora encourages men to explore new forms of pleasure, including prostate orgasms and sex toys. * Exhibitionism & Desire to Be Seen (00:47:12) Jenny and Saurora discuss exhibitionism, the need to be seen, and Saurora’s journey to embracing her visibility. * Saurora’s Confidence & Rebellion (00:48:11) Saurora recounts her path from acting to hairdressing, regaining confidence, and rejecting societal expectations. * Teaching Through Sexual Empowerment (00:54:18) Saurora reflects on becoming a teacher in her own way, helping others through her work. * Parental Influence & Healing (00:55:43) Jenny and Saurora discuss their parents’ intentions, mishandling of sexuality, and the ongoing process of healing. * Best Things About Living Authentically (00:58:09) Saurora shares the benefits of her current life: strength, security, chosen family, and the health impacts of authenticity. * Erotic Energy as Life Force (01:03:12) They discuss the concept of erotic energy, its role in creativity and well-being, and how to cultivate it daily. * OnlyFans Experience & Advice (01:08:12) Saurora gives practical advice for starting an OnlyFans, emphasizing self-love, community, and experimentation. * Advice for Those at a Crossroads (01:10:55) Saurora encourages listeners to reach out, try new things, seek community, and embrace their desires. * Closing Remarks & Resources (01:13:23) Jenny wraps up the episode, inviting listeners to her website and mailing list for more resources and stories.