It's a Guy Thing

Men-tioned: Arizona Boy

In this episode of Men-tioned, I’m sharing the story of Arizona Boy — someone closer to my age, ambitious, driven, and focused on his goals, but also someone who was still hiding a major part of himself. What started as attraction, quickly turned into a complicated connection built around secrecy, mixed emotions, and wanting more from someone who realistically couldn’t give me what I needed. As feelings grew, so did the tension of being involved with someone who wanted intimacy behind closed doors but distance in public. “Men-tioned: Arizona Boy” is a reflection on falling for potential, ignoring reality, and the toxic dynamics that can form when love, secrecy, and unmet needs collide.

Men-tioned: Chief Kelly

In the first installment of Men-tioned, I’m sharing the story of Chef Kelly — a military man I met on a dating app who became more than I expected. What started as casual quickly became complicated as feelings developed, boundaries blurred, and I found myself experiencing emotions I wasn’t fully prepared for. From hookups to house-sitting while he was on deployment, this story unpacks the excitement, confusion, attachment, and disappointment that came with catching feelings for someone who didn’t handle me with the care I deserved. “Men-tioned: Chef Kelly” is a real-life reflection on dating, vulnerability, learning through heartbreak, and the growth that comes from finally seeing a situation for what it was.

If He Wanted to, He Would Pt.1 with Hannah

In this episode of It’s a Guy Thing, I sit down with my friend Hannah for an honest conversation about the phrase “If he wanted to, he would” — and what it really means when it comes to dating, effort, communication, and emotional availability. Together, we unpack the difference between genuine interest and mixed signals, consistency and excuses, patience and settling. We talk about how men show up when they’re intentional, why people sometimes hold onto potential instead of reality, and how to recognize when someone’s actions are telling you everything you need to know. “If He Wanted To, He Would” is a conversation about self-worth, clarity, accountability, and learning to stop making excuses for someone who isn’t choosing you back.

Dreaming again with Adia

In this episode of It’s a Guy Thing, I sit down with my dear friend Adia for a heartfelt conversation about what it means to dream again. We unpack the dreams, goals, and desires we’ve carried, the moments when life made those visions feel distant, and how the world can sometimes dilute the passion we once had. Together, we explore the process of reconnecting with purpose, rebuilding belief in yourself, and giving yourself permission to hope again. Dreaming Again with Adia is a reminder that no dream is too far gone, no vision is too old, and no season of disappointment has the power to erase what was placed inside of you.

Co-dependency with Dama

In this episode of It’s a Guy Thing, I sit down with my friend Dama for an honest conversation about co-dependency — what it looks like, how it shows up in relationships, and why it can be so hard to recognize when you’re in it. We talk about attachment, emotional reliance, losing yourself in someone else, and the journey of learning how to love without abandoning yourself. This episode is for anyone who has ever confused intensity with intimacy, stayed too long out of fear, or struggled to find balance between loving someone and choosing themselves. Together, we unpack the healing, awareness, and self-work it takes to build healthier connections — with others and with yourself.