Just What I Needed

EP010 Just What I Needed: ENOUGH (ft. Tyler Dickerhoof)

Every high achiever is running from something. Most of the time, what they are running from is the fear that what they have is not enough. In this episode, Paul sits down with Tyler Dickerhoof, leadership mentor, entrepreneur, host of the Impact Driven Leader community, and author of "The Things We Hide," for a conversation that goes straight to the root. Tyler spent years defining his worth by achievement, often at the cost of everything else, and it took confronting the fears and insecurities he had carried, sometimes for decades, to understand what it actually means to lead. Together, Paul and Tyler unpack the hustle culture trap, what your comparative advantage has to do with your calling, and why the mirror you look into every morning might be lying to you. This is a conversation about knowing what you are best at, deploying it in service of others, and understanding that you do not have to do more, be more, or prove more. You are already enough. Stop hiding from what you already are. The window is waiting. ABOUT TYLER DICKERHOOF Tyler Dickerhoof is a leadership mentor, entrepreneur, host of the Impact Driven Leader community, and author of "The Things We Hide." With over 25 years of experience and more than $700 million in generated business sales, Tyler knows firsthand the pressure that drives leaders to perform, and to hide. A Cornell University graduate who once pushed through life on intensity alone, Tyler spent years confronting the hidden insecurities that quietly shaped his leadership before he understood how to name them, own them, and work through them. Today he helps leaders do the same. Through his community, his coaching, and his book, Tyler guides people to slow down, tell the truth about what is really driving them, and lead with greater clarity and impact. Whether he is breaking down his B.E.S.T. framework or naming the four walls that protect our fears, Tyler has a rare gift for making the invisible visible. And the story at the heart of his book is one of the most honest and courageous things you will hear on this show. Connect with Tyler: Website: tylerdickerhoof.com [http://tylerdickerhoof.com] Book: thethingswehidebook.com [http://thethingswehidebook.com] SEND US YOUR QUESTIONS! This show is for YOU! Connect with us: Instagram: @be.act.change Website: beactchange.com [http://beactchange.com] Email: hola@beactchange.com [hola@beactchange.com] THEME SONG "HIGHER" by Kingsley Written and performed by Kingsley exclusively for JWIN. Stream here: https://www.iamkingsley.com/higher-by-kingsley [https://www.iamkingsley.com/higher-by-kingsley] More music: kingsleymusic.bandcamp.com/track/higher-awaken-the-trailblazer-within-podcast [http://kingsleymusic.bandcamp.com/track/higher-awaken-the-trailblazer-within-podcast] Instagram: @yokingsleymusic Website: iamkingsley.com [http://iamkingsley.com] Keywords: leadership, authenticity, hustle culture, fears and insecurities, personal development, entrepreneurship, mindset, the things we hide, servant leadership, vulnerability, self-awareness, comparative advantage, pivot, impact #JustWhatINeeded #Podcast #Leadership #Enough #ThingsWeHide #HustleCulture #PersonalDevelopment #Mindset #Entrepreneurship #ServantLeadership #Vulnerability #SelfAwareness #Impact

EP009 Just What I Needed: BREATH PLAY (ft. Kingsley)

What if the most powerful wellness tool you own costs nothing, takes 90 seconds, and you've had it your whole life? In this episode, we sit down with Kingsley, the creative force and artist behind our very own theme song "Higher," to explore breath play, identity, and what it really takes to build an authentic life. Kingsley has been part of the Just What I Needed journey from the very beginning, and this conversation is long overdue. If you have ever been curious about breathwork but did not know where to start, or if you have ever poured everything into a career and forgotten who you are along the way, this is exactly what you needed. Authenticity is not found. It is built, one honest decision at a time. And sometimes the most powerful tool you have is the one you carry with you in every single breath. You do not have to be superhuman to begin. You just have to be willing to show up as yourself. ABOUT KINGSLEY Music that sounds like the first sip of champagne. Kingsley is a Black alt-pop artist from Chicago, creating uplifting, immersive music made for both dance floors and late-night drives. Her work centers joy, self-love, and embodiment, blending infectious pop energy with emotional depth. Singing from her lived experiences of life, love, and becoming, Kingsley has rebuilt her brand from a local indie pop artist into an international recording artist and community thought leader. She has performed across the world, launched immersive cocktail books that pair music with curated drink experiences, built a dope, story-driven merch line, and is preparing to release a new record rooted in healing and self-celebration. Kingsley is also a breath play facilitator. Not breathwork. Play. Her sessions are body-first, intuitive, and built for people who thought these tools were not made for them. Her music is for your first mirror twerk after heartbreak. Connect with Kingsley TikTok: @kingsleymusic Instagram: @yokingsleymusic Branding: kingskitchenmedia.com [http://kingskitchenmedia.com] Music and Patreon: iamkingsley.com [http://iamkingsley.com] SEND US YOUR QUESTIONS! This show is for YOU! Connect with us: Instagram: @be.act.change Website: beactchange.com [http://beactchange.com] Email: hola@beactchange.com [hola@beactchange.com] THEME SONG "HIGHER" by Kingsley Written and performed by Kingsley exclusively for JWIN. Stream here: https://www.iamkingsley.com/higher-by-kingsley [https://www.iamkingsley.com/higher-by-kingsley] More music: kingsleymusic.bandcamp.com/track/higher-awaken-the-trailblazer-within-podcast [http://kingsleymusic.bandcamp.com/track/higher-awaken-the-trailblazer-within-podcast] Instagram: @yokingsleymusic Website: iamkingsley.com [http://iamkingsley.com] Keywords: authenticity, identity, breath play, breathwork, creativity, music, entrepreneurship, branding, mental health, vulnerability, personal growth, resilience, self-discovery, wellness #JustWhatINeeded #Podcast #BreathPlay #Authenticity #Identity #Creativity #Entrepreneurship #MentalHealth #PersonalGrowth #Branding #Resilience #Breathwork

EP008 Just What I Needed: JOY (ft. Gretchen Schoser)

How do you find joy when the world feels like it is on fire? Not by ignoring reality, but by making joy a daily, intentional practice. In this episode, we sit down with Gretchen Schoser to discuss why actively practicing joy is an act of resilience. If you have ever felt overwhelmed by global events or burned out while trying to build a business, this conversation will resonate deeply. Joy is not an accident. It is a protective boundary for your mental health, a tool that keeps you moving forward, and the foundation for creating a life you are genuinely proud of. No matter how difficult things get, you have the power to change your trajectory, ask for help, and build a beautiful life. ABOUT GRETCHEN SCHOSER Gretchen “G-Rex” Schoser is a mental health advocate, entrepreneur, and award-winning podcast co-host dedicated to making honest conversations about mental health more human, accessible, and supportive. After experiencing a life-changing mental health crisis in 2022, Gretchen chose to turn her story into a mission. She co-created the award-winning podcast Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads with her best friend and co-host Dirty Skittles. Since launching on February 14, 2023, the show has grown into a global platform with more than 2 million downloads across 100+ countries, blending humor, raw storytelling, and expert insights to remind listeners they are not alone. In addition to her work behind the mic, Gretchen is the Founder of Schoser Talent and Wellness Solutions, a consulting and training company that helps small and midsize businesses build healthier, more sustainable workplaces. Drawing on more than 30 years of experience in HR technology and workforce systems, she specializes in UKG Recruiting and Onboarding, change management, and human-centered workplace wellness. Through courses, consulting, and practical tools, Gretchen helps leaders create environments where both people and systems can thrive. Whether she is speaking about mental health, coaching organizations, or laughing through difficult topics on the podcast, Gretchen’s work is rooted in one belief: real conversations save lives, and connection creates healing. Connect with Gretchen Website: shosersolutions.com [http://shosersolutions.com] Podcast: goesoninourheads.net [http://goesoninourheads.net] LinkedIn: Gretchen Schoser SEND US YOUR QUESTIONS! This show is for YOU! Connect with us: Instagram: @be.act.change Website: beactchange.com [http://beactchange.com] Email: hola@beactchange.com [hola@beactchange.com] THEME SONG “HIGHER” by Kingsley Written and performed by Kingsley exclusively for JWIN. Stream here: https://www.iamkingsley.com/higher-by-kingsley [https://www.iamkingsley.com/higher-by-kingsley] More music: kingsleymusic.bandcamp.com/track/higher-awaken-the-trailblazer-within-podcast [http://kingsleymusic.bandcamp.com/track/higher-awaken-the-trailblazer-within-podcast] Instagram: @yokingsleymusic Website: iamkingsley.com [http://iamkingsley.com] Keywords: joy, mental health, entrepreneurship, resilience, intentional living, burnout recovery, boundaries, career pivot, depression, self care, business boundaries #JustWhatINeeded #Podcast #Joy #MentalHealth #Entrepreneurship #Resilience #CareerPivot #IntentionalLiving #OvercomingDepression #SelfCare

EP007 Just What I Needed: LEADERSHIP (ft. Renzo del Castillo)

What is a leader, really? Not a title. Not a personality. Not the loudest voice in the room. In this episode, Esther and Paul sit down with Renzo Del Castillo to redefine leadership as a way of being: servant leadership rooted in purpose, empathy, and enabling others to succeed. If you have ever been promoted because you were great at your job, then felt unprepared to lead people, this conversation will land. Leadership is not “doing more.” It is removing obstacles, building psychological safety, and creating conditions where a team can deliver far beyond what one person can do alone. As a preview: * Servant leadership as “I work for you” leadership that clears the path * Accountability vs blame, plus guardrails that make learning possible * Ready-to-wear vs made-to-measure vs bespoke: why leadership growth must be tailored * The Disney World moment: the shift from “I do” to “I enable others to do” * EQ as trainable, and self-awareness as the foundation of empathy * Why art and poetry deepen empathy, and why empathy is not fluff * A coaching moment on authenticity and ambition in a male-dominated workplace: test assumptions and build agency through self-knowledge This episode is a blueprint for leaders at any level, including the “leader without a title” who sets the tone, interrupts gossip, and helps the team make the soup together. ABOUT RENZO DEL CASTILLO Renzo Del Castillo is a corporate leader and poet who builds bridges through empathy, discipline, and creation. He is the author of Still (Amazon bestseller), created to keep art accessible, including a low-cost Kindle edition. He also co-hosts Reel Poetry with Scott Raven, spotlighting poets and highlighting poetic movies. Connect with Renzo Instagram: @renzodelcastillo.author [http://renzodelcastillo.author] LinkedIn: Renzo Del Castillo SEND US YOUR QUESTIONS! This show is for YOU! Let us know if you have a question you would like us to answer, if you would like to appear on the show, or if you have a topic you would like for us to discuss. Find us: Instagram: @be.act.change Website: beactchange.com [http://beactchange.com] Email: hola@beactchange.com [hola@beactchange.com] THEME SONG “HIGHER” by Kingsley Written and performed by Kingsley exclusively for the podcast. Stream “Higher” here: https://www.iamkingsley.com/higher-by-kingsley [https://www.iamkingsley.com/higher-by-kingsley] More music: kingsleymusic.bandcamp.com/track/higher-awaken-the-trailblazer-within-podcast [http://kingsleymusic.bandcamp.com/track/higher-awaken-the-trailblazer-within-podcast] Instagram: @yokingsleymusic Website: iamkingsley.com [http://iamkingsley.com] Keywords: leadership, servant leadership, emotional intelligence, empathy, psychological safety, leadership development, managing vs leading, accountability culture, workplace culture, authentic leadership, inclusive leadership, coaching leaders #JustWhatINeeded #Podcast #Leadership #ServantLeadership #EmotionalIntelligence #Empathy #PsychologicalSafety #WorkplaceCulture #AuthenticLeadership #Coaching #TeamLeadership #PersonalGrowth

EP006 Just What I Needed: PARTNERSHIPS (ft. Alexis Marquez)

Your partner should not be a source of chronic anxiety. Your partner should be a source of momentum. In this episode, Esther and Paul are joined by Alexis Marquez for a wide-ranging conversation about partnerships of every kind: dating, marriage, business partners, clients, teams, mentors, therapists, and family. The throughline is simple: alignment beats performance. We introduce a lens that instantly clarifies compatibility: Rocket vs Anchor. Rockets are driven by growth, variety, big vision, and expansion. Anchors thrive on stability, roots, and local legacy. Neither is better. The problem is pretending they are the same. Misalignment shows up later in the decisions that shape your life: where you live, how you spend holidays, what you build, and how far your dreams want to travel. We also challenge the checklist approach to partnership. Money, titles, and status can look impressive, but they do not tell you how someone handles truth, growth, conflict, and commitment. Values do. Try these questions from the episode: * What kind of life am I building, and does this person genuinely want that life too? * Would I start a business with this person? If the answer is no, pay attention. * Am I hoping they will save me, or am I becoming the person I say I want to be? ABOUT ALEXIS MARQUEZ Alexis Marquez is a coach and systems thinker with a Master’s degree and a background in urban planning and international program management. She specializes in DEIJ leadership and neuro-inclusion, has trained US goverenment teams on best practices for working with neurodiverse populations, and has facilitated 120+ coaching sessions for Foreign Service staff, creating spaces of belonging across cultures and sectors. Her promise to clients is simple: “I got you — I’m your ally, coach, and your safe space to breathe and begin again.” Instagram and TikTok: @TheAlexisMarquez SEND US YOUR QUESTIONS! This show is for YOU! Let us know if you have a question you would like us to answer, if you would like to appear on the show, or if you have a topic you would like for us to discuss. Find us: Instagram: @be.act.change Website: beactchange.com [http://beactchange.com] Email: hola@beactchange.com [hola@beactchange.com] THEME SONG “HIGHER” by Kingsley Written and performed by Kingsley exclusively for the podcast. Stream “Higher” here: https://www.iamkingsley.com/higher-by-kingsley [https://www.iamkingsley.com/higher-by-kingsley] More music: kingsleymusic.bandcamp.com/track/higher-awaken-the-trailblazer-within-podcast [http://kingsleymusic.bandcamp.com/track/higher-awaken-the-trailblazer-within-podcast] Instagram: @yokingsleymusic Website: iamkingsley.com [http://iamkingsley.com] Keywords: partnerships, values alignment, rocket vs anchor, relationship anxiety, intentional dating, healthy love, business partnerships, hiring by values, client alignment, leadership relationships, therapy fit, coaching relationship, legacy, growth mindset #JustWhatINeeded #Podcast #Partnerships #ValuesAlignment #RocketAndAnchor #IntentionalDating #HealthyRelationships #BusinessPartnership #Leadership #Coaching #Therapy #Legacy #GrowthMindset