Kickstart Your Confidence Podcast

Are You The Problem?

Carl shares great advice on why you should say yes and get things done. Every day brings challenges and some people create their own barriers, they make a problem, ask yourself are you a problem solver or problem builder? If you learn to say ‘yes’ you can be solution-focused and get things done Say ‘yes’ and then work out how to get over or through the barrier if you want to get to your goals KEY TAKEAWAYS * Things happen and you can create a problem yourself quite quickly * Are you a yes person? * Are you your own worst enemy? * Are you the problem solver or the problem builder? * It can be easier to not do something than find a solution * When you have a hurdle or a problem stop and ask yourself are you the person who is looking for a solution to get it done * There are hurdles and barriers every day you need to be solution-focused * Say ‘yes’ and then work out how to get it done * If you can’t do it find someone who can BEST MOMENTS ‘I see it over and over again where people don’t look for a solution’ ‘Stop saying ‘no’, just say ‘yes’ and find a way to get it done’ VALUABLE RESOURCES HKA Main landing page www.hastingskickboxing.co.uk/kickstartnow [http://www.hastingskickboxing.co.uk/kickstartnow] YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/user/Hastingskickboxing [https://www.youtube.com/user/Hastingskickboxing] HKA Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/Hastingskickboxing [https://www.facebook.com/Hastingskickboxing] carldenne@hotmail.com ABOUT THE HOST Hi, my name is Carl Denne. I was born in Hastings in 1980. Married, father of two beautiful daughters, Bethany and Leigha. My daughters, the wife, and gym ARE MY LIFE. IF I’M HONEST, I pretty much failed at school. Heavily dyslexic, I was dismissed for being a “naughty kid” that didn’t want to learn. I was heavily bullied for having shit clothes and ginger afro hair. I didn’t have many friends. When I say bullied I don’t mean called a “poo-poo head” and being looked at in a nasty way. I mean thrown downstairs, and hit with chairs and tables. Clothes were stolen whilst in the shower. That kind of bullying… Oh, how things have changed… Martial arts, and specifically Kickboxing, have changed my life, and now I am much happier and change other people’s lives for the better on a daily basis. I am a complete adrenaline freak, so In my spare time, track days, jumping out of planes, sitting on top of them, rage buggies in the desert… The higher, the faster the better for me. I’m always looking for the next thing to get my blood pumping, so if anyone has a challenge I’ve not found yet, please feel free to share. I do like a Saturday night movie night, Chinese, Netflix, lots of chocolate with my three little ladies. I love being around my friends and family. This is why I love the crazy HKA family so much, as this is my extended family. I left school with pretty much nothing! A few sad GCSE’s C - D grade, BUT I did have a shit-ton of energy and passion to achieve and to prove all the teachers and people that looked down on me for all those years, wrong. So, after a few jobs here and there, I settled on working for Openreach (BT) as a cabler/jointer copper and fibre optic multi-skilled engineer with HGV. I left this in 2015 to chase my dream of running my own Kickboxing Academy and working with the future of today, rather than a job that just paid the bills. I’ve trained pretty much my whole life: Karate, boxing, Judo, from the age of 9, and of course, I’ve now done over 29 years of Kickboxing. I’ve passed many Instructors and coaches courses, attended many training courses and seminars, grading up through the syllabus. I passed my 4-hour hell-on-earth 3rd Dan black belt in July 2018 with the ICO. If I’m honest my real passion and skills have come from learning the hard way; through being in the trenches. I know how it feels to be on your arse. I know how it feels to have to pull yourself out of the pit. I’ve been through a divorce. I’ve lived through the pain and have worked with thousands of members, students, children, teachers and adults over the years, and the one thing I get told every time is how well I/we keep it very real, and that I have a complete understanding on most eventualities. Thank you for reading and listening. I hope you connect with myself and the team, take away some ideas, understand you’re not alone, and that it’s good to talk, listen and help others as and when you can. See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Making Money On Cars

Carl reflects on 24 years of driving and shares his car journey, explaining how they are at the heart of what he loves and have also been a great way of making money over the years As an entrepreneur making money on cars has been about spotting great deals and putting in the work and over the years Carl has driven some cool cars and traded cars successfully. As a die-hard petrolhead, Carl has loved nearly all his cars and this is a great listen about how cars and what you want from them, changes as you move through life. KEY TAKEAWAYS * The first car I drove on the road was my Dad’s BMW 528 * After my Astra was written off I broke it down and sold the parts individually * I didn’t make money but I didn’t lose money on it * Rather than just saying I can’t be bothered, I looked for a way to not lose money on it to make a deal * The entrepreneur in me is always asking how can I help others out and where is there a deal * Cars were much cheaper up north and I started looking for good car deals there * I’m a petrol head and I love my cars, I went from having a Seat Leon Cupra R225 I loved  to driving a Fiesta 950 popular in green * There were lots of Seats, I really love them, but my biggest moneymaker was a Westfield that I fully rebuilt. * It’s about doing the work other people can’t be bothered to do * You have to put in the work if you want to get the deals * If you are prepared to do what others aren’t you can make money with cars Carl’s Cars 1997 - Dad’s BMW 528… Mine was off the road... 1997- V Astra 1.3 merit 1998 - VW Scirocco 1.6 1999 - V Belmont SRI 130 2000 - Seat Leon 2.0 8v 2002- VW golf 1.8gl D 2003- BMW 525 TDI 2004- Seat Leon Cupra 2005 - fiesta 950 popular (green) (Split up with Jen) - Peugeot 405. 2006 - Skyline r32 GTS-4 2006- Seat Leon Cupra R 225 2007 - Seat Leon 59. TDI chipped 2009 - Mercedes Vito sport 2010 - Built Westfield 105 hours (6 months) 900 blade. - Changed engine 2012. To ZX12r  0-100 MPH 6 seconds 2013 - Audi 3.0 S-line Quattro estate (mapped) 2013 - Sade BMW 330i M Diesel, sport Convertible. 2013 - Audi A4 S-line estate 2018 2015 - Merc C220 Estate AMG line 2016 2017- Audi S-line 190 2017- RX8 2018 - Denby - 1 horse power 2018 - Sade BMW 440i M sport Convertible. 2019- Merc Shooting brake CLA-AMG 2019 - Ford Transit custom 9 seater 2020- Mercedes E 200 BEST MOMENTS ‘It was an insane amount of money then but it was what I wanted’ ‘I started to really trade in cars over the next few years ‘It was good fun and lots of hours’ ‘I made quite a bit of money from those cars in a couple of years and I got to drive really cool cars’ VALUABLE RESOURCES HKA Main landing page www.hastingskickboxing.co.uk/kickstartnow [http://www.hastingskickboxing.co.uk/kickstartnow] YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/user/Hastingskickboxing [https://www.youtube.com/user/Hastingskickboxing] HKA Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/Hastingskickboxing [https://www.facebook.com/Hastingskickboxing] carldenne@hotmail.com ABOUT THE HOST Hi, my name is Carl Denne. I was born in Hastings in 1980. Married, father of two beautiful daughters, Bethany and Leigha. My daughters, the wife, and gym ARE MY LIFE. IF I’M HONEST, I pretty much failed at school. Heavily dyslexic, I was dismissed for being a “naughty kid” that didn’t want to learn. I was heavily bullied for having shit clothes and ginger afro hair. I didn’t have many friends. When I say bullied I don’t mean called a “poo-poo head” and being looked at in a nasty way. I mean thrown downstairs, and hit with chairs and tables. Clothes were stolen whilst in the shower. That kind of bullying… Oh, how things have changed… Martial arts, and specifically Kickboxing, have changed my life, and now I am much happier and change other people’s lives for the better on a daily basis. I am a complete adrenaline freak, so In my spare time, track days, jumping out of planes, sitting on top of them, rage buggies in the desert… The higher, the faster the better for me. I’m always looking for the next thing to get my blood pumping, so if anyone has a challenge I’ve not found yet, please feel free to share. I do like a Saturday night movie night, Chinese, Netflix, lots of chocolate with my three little ladies. I love being around my friends and family. This is why I love the crazy HKA family so much, as this is my extended family. I left school with pretty much nothing! A few sad GCSE’s C - D grade, BUT I did have a shit-ton of energy and passion to achieve and to prove all the teachers and people that looked down on me for all those years, wrong. So, after a few jobs here and there, I settled on working for Openreach (BT) as a cabler/jointer copper and fibre optic multi-skilled engineer with HGV. I left this in 2015 to chase my dream of running my own Kickboxing Academy and working with the future of today, rather than a job that just paid the bills. I’ve trained pretty much my whole life: Karate, boxing, Judo, from the age of 9, and of course, I’ve now done over 29 years of Kickboxing. I’ve passed many Instructors and coaches courses, attended many training courses and seminars, grading up through the syllabus. I passed my 4-hour hell-on-earth 3rd Dan black belt in July 2018 with the ICO. If I’m honest my real passion and skills have come from learning the hard way; through being in the trenches. I know how it feels to be on your arse. I know how it feels to have to pull yourself out of the pit. I’ve been through a divorce. I’ve lived through the pain and have worked with thousands of members, students, children, teachers and adults over the years, and the one thing I get told every time is how well I/we keep it very real, and that I have a complete understanding on most eventualities. Thank you for reading and listening. I hope you connect with myself and the team, take away some ideas, understand you’re not alone, and that it’s good to talk, listen and help others as and when you can. See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

The Power of Education

Carl reflects on how he is now, re-educating himself on how to have a better business, a better life and how he can be a better version of himself. Many people think their education ends when they leave school but if you want to get the best out of life for you and your family learning can be a lifelong process. Working with a good mentor means Carl is learning how to play a bigger game and grow and in this episode, he shares how this really is the game-changer. KEY TAKEAWAYS * Lots of people feel their education ends when they start a job * I’m constantly learning and going on courses but didn’t see it as education * Kickboxing for me has never been a business it’s just what I love doing * Learning about business has been a game-changer * Being part of the Mastermind group and discussing business with other like-minded people is what has made a difference * The power of being around people who are further along in their journey has really helped me play a bigger game and grow the business * We’ve moved the business and grown in size * My mentor is a life coach helping me to be a better me. He is educating me on a better life, a better me and a better business * It’s about having a good plan and strategy * Effectively I’ve had to go back to education to learn how to have a better business and a better life * Never stop learning and educating yourself BEST MOMENTS ‘For me and lots of others, education ended when I finished school’ ‘Working smarter is definitely better than just working hard’ ‘Learning can look different  but can continue throughout your life’ VALUABLE RESOURCES HKA Main landing page www.hastingskickboxing.co.uk/kickstartnow [http://www.hastingskickboxing.co.uk/kickstartnow] YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/user/Hastingskickboxing [https://www.youtube.com/user/Hastingskickboxing] HKA Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/Hastingskickboxing [https://www.facebook.com/Hastingskickboxing] carldenne@hotmail.com ABOUT THE HOST Hi, my name is Carl Denne. I was born in Hastings in 1980. Married, father of two beautiful daughters, Bethany and Leigha. My daughters, the wife, and gym ARE MY LIFE. IF I’M HONEST, I pretty much failed at school. Heavily dyslexic, I was dismissed for being a “naughty kid” that didn’t want to learn. I was heavily bullied for having shit clothes and ginger afro hair. I didn’t have many friends. When I say bullied I don’t mean called a “poo-poo head” and being looked at in a nasty way. I mean thrown downstairs, and hit with chairs and tables. Clothes were stolen whilst in the shower. That kind of bullying… Oh, how things have changed… Martial arts, and specifically Kickboxing, have changed my life, and now I am much happier and change other people’s lives for the better on a daily basis. I am a complete adrenaline freak, so In my spare time, track days, jumping out of planes, sitting on top of them, rage buggies in the desert… The higher, the faster the better for me. I’m always looking for the next thing to get my blood pumping, so if anyone has a challenge I’ve not found yet, please feel free to share. I do like a Saturday night movie night, Chinese, Netflix, lots of chocolate with my three little ladies. I love being around my friends and family. This is why I love the crazy HKA family so much, as this is my extended family. I left school with pretty much nothing! A few sad GCSE’s C - D grade, BUT I did have a shit-ton of energy and passion to achieve and to prove all the teachers and people that looked down on me for all those years, wrong. So, after a few jobs here and there, I settled on working for Openreach (BT) as a cabler/jointer copper and fibre optic multi-skilled engineer with HGV. I left this in 2015 to chase my dream of running my own Kickboxing Academy and working with the future of today, rather than a job that just paid the bills. I’ve trained pretty much my whole life: Karate, boxing, Judo, from the age of 9, and of course, I’ve now done over 29 years of Kickboxing. I’ve passed many Instructors and coaches courses, attended many training courses and seminars, grading up through the syllabus. I passed my 4-hour hell-on-earth 3rd Dan black belt in July 2018 with the ICO. If I’m honest my real passion and skills have come from learning the hard way; through being in the trenches. I know how it feels to be on your arse. I know how it feels to have to pull yourself out of the pit. I’ve been through a divorce. I’ve lived through the pain and have worked with thousands of members, students, children, teachers and adults over the years, and the one thing I get told every time is how well I/we keep it very real, and that I have a complete understanding on most eventualities. Thank you for reading and listening. I hope you connect with myself and the team, take away some ideas, understand you’re not alone, and that it’s good to talk, listen and help others as and when you can. See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Fair Exchange

Carl explains how fair exchange is a part of everything we do in life and why although we may have different perceptions of good value we all part of a process of exchanging value every day. When you understand more about fair exchange it’s an opportunity to offer more value and when you do, value will come back to you. KEY TAKEAWAYS * Fair exchange is in everything we do in life * Everything we do comes down to value * It can be work, relationships or training it’s everywhere * Everything we do has a value * We all have different perceptions of good value * Your work is exchanging your time for a salary * If you have high-value relationships you need to be able to bring high value to the relationship * People value their time in different ways * It’s about what you want and need, people often put more value on what they want than what they need * If you want to have better experiences you need to give better value out to others * It’s always about achieving the right balance BEST MOMENTS ‘Everything we do in life is about fair exchange’ ‘There is value and exchange in everything we do’ ‘Give value in your life and it will come back to you tenfold’ VALUABLE RESOURCES HKA Main landing page www.hastingskickboxing.co.uk/kickstartnow [http://www.hastingskickboxing.co.uk/kickstartnow] YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/user/Hastingskickboxing [https://www.youtube.com/user/Hastingskickboxing] HKA Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/Hastingskickboxing [https://www.facebook.com/Hastingskickboxing] carldenne@hotmail.com ABOUT THE HOST Hi, my name is Carl Denne. I was born in Hastings in 1980. Married, father of two beautiful daughters, Bethany and Leigha. My daughters, the wife, and gym ARE MY LIFE. IF I’M HONEST, I pretty much failed at school. Heavily dyslexic, I was dismissed for being a “naughty kid” that didn’t want to learn. I was heavily bullied for having shit clothes and ginger afro hair. I didn’t have many friends. When I say bullied I don’t mean called a “poo-poo head” and being looked at in a nasty way. I mean thrown downstairs, and hit with chairs and tables. Clothes were stolen whilst in the shower. That kind of bullying… Oh, how things have changed… Martial arts, and specifically Kickboxing, have changed my life, and now I am much happier and change other people’s lives for the better on a daily basis. I am a complete adrenaline freak, so In my spare time, track days, jumping out of planes, sitting on top of them, rage buggies in the desert… The higher, the faster the better for me. I’m always looking for the next thing to get my blood pumping, so if anyone has a challenge I’ve not found yet, please feel free to share. I do like a Saturday night movie night, Chinese, Netflix, lots of chocolate with my three little ladies. I love being around my friends and family. This is why I love the crazy HKA family so much, as this is my extended family. I left school with pretty much nothing! A few sad GCSE’s C - D grade, BUT I did have a shit-ton of energy and passion to achieve and to prove all the teachers and people that looked down on me for all those years, wrong. So, after a few jobs here and there, I settled on working for Openreach (BT) as a cabler/jointer copper and fibre optic multi-skilled engineer with HGV. I left this in 2015 to chase my dream of running my own Kickboxing Academy and working with the future of today, rather than a job that just paid the bills. I’ve trained pretty much my whole life: Karate, boxing, Judo, from the age of 9, and of course, I’ve now done over 29 years of Kickboxing. I’ve passed many Instructors and coaches courses, attended many training courses and seminars, grading up through the syllabus. I passed my 4-hour hell-on-earth 3rd Dan black belt in July 2018 with the ICO. If I’m honest my real passion and skills have come from learning the hard way; through being in the trenches. I know how it feels to be on your arse. I know how it feels to have to pull yourself out of the pit. I’ve been through a divorce. I’ve lived through the pain and have worked with thousands of members, students, children, teachers and adults over the years, and the one thing I get told every time is how well I/we keep it very real, and that I have a complete understanding on most eventualities. Thank you for reading and listening. I hope you connect with myself and the team, take away some ideas, understand you’re not alone, and that it’s good to talk, listen and help others as and when you can. See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

She Said Yes, What's The Worst That Could Happen?

Carl reflects on the importance of really living your life and making sure you are in a position to go with the opportunities in life. It can be much easier to not ask when we are fearful that the answer will be ‘no’ but we all create the lives we have and if you overcome your fears and ask the answer could be ‘yes’ Everyone is on a journey through life and everything you do creates your memories going forward so don’t put things off until tomorrow, stop and ask yourself ‘why can’t I do it today?’ KEY TAKEAWAYS * You should just tell someone if you like them * It can be easy for the fears to come to the forefront but you need to push through them and take action * Often we fear the worst but nine times out of ten it doesn’t happen * You have to ask the question * Be prepared for the answer and be prepared for the worst * You might get a ‘no’ but you may get a ‘yes’ * Everyone has the same amount of time in the day it’s all about how you use it * Whatever you do in the present is creating a memory * You are creating your life * The more you work and fully commit to what you are doing the more opportunities will open up to you * Don’t put off things today until tomorrow * Ask yourself ‘can I get it done today?’ BEST MOMENTS ‘He is so excited because she said yes’ ‘Your life is your choice and you have to live it’ ‘People ask me how I get through so much’ VALUABLE RESOURCES HKA Main landing page www.hastingskickboxing.co.uk/kickstartnow [http://www.hastingskickboxing.co.uk/kickstartnow] YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/user/Hastingskickboxing [https://www.youtube.com/user/Hastingskickboxing] HKA Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/Hastingskickboxing [https://www.facebook.com/Hastingskickboxing] carldenne@hotmail.com ABOUT THE HOST Hi, my name is Carl Denne. I was born in Hastings in 1980. Married, father of two beautiful daughters, Bethany and Leigha. My daughters, the wife, and gym ARE MY LIFE. IF I’M HONEST, I pretty much failed at school. Heavily dyslexic, I was dismissed for being a “naughty kid” that didn’t want to learn. I was heavily bullied for having shit clothes and ginger afro hair. I didn’t have many friends. When I say bullied I don’t mean called a “poo-poo head” and being looked at in a nasty way. I mean thrown downstairs, and hit with chairs and tables. Clothes were stolen whilst in the shower. That kind of bullying… Oh, how things have changed… Martial arts, and specifically Kickboxing, have changed my life, and now I am much happier and change other people’s lives for the better on a daily basis. I am a complete adrenaline freak, so In my spare time, track days, jumping out of planes, sitting on top of them, rage buggies in the desert… The higher, the faster the better for me. I’m always looking for the next thing to get my blood pumping, so if anyone has a challenge I’ve not found yet, please feel free to share. I do like a Saturday night movie night, Chinese, Netflix, lots of chocolate with my three little ladies. I love being around my friends and family. This is why I love the crazy HKA family so much, as this is my extended family. I left school with pretty much nothing! A few sad GCSE’s C - D grade, BUT I did have a shit-ton of energy and passion to achieve and to prove all the teachers and people that looked down on me for all those years, wrong. So, after a few jobs here and there, I settled on working for Openreach (BT) as a cabler/jointer copper and fibre optic multi-skilled engineer with HGV. I left this in 2015 to chase my dream of running my own Kickboxing Academy and working with the future of today, rather than a job that just paid the bills. I’ve trained pretty much my whole life: Karate, boxing, Judo, from the age of 9, and of course, I’ve now done over 29 years of Kickboxing. I’ve passed many Instructors and coaches courses, attended many training courses and seminars, grading up through the syllabus. I passed my 4-hour hell-on-earth 3rd Dan black belt in July 2018 with the ICO. If I’m honest my real passion and skills have come from learning the hard way; through being in the trenches. I know how it feels to be on your arse. I know how it feels to have to pull yourself out of the pit. I’ve been through a divorce. I’ve lived through the pain and have worked with thousands of members, students, children, teachers and adults over the years, and the one thing I get told every time is how well I/we keep it very real, and that I have a complete understanding on most eventualities. Thank you for reading and listening. I hope you connect with myself and the team, take away some ideas, understand you’re not alone, and that it’s good to talk, listen and help others as and when you can. See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.