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05: What is Trauma and How to Begin Healing with David Young

Join me as I sit down with one of my lifelong best friends, David Young for a conversation on all things trauma.  As a certified meditation teacher, coach, and group facilitator David works with communities and organizations to heal from collective trauma, re-establish healthy communication, and love fearlessly. In this episode, David speaks vulnerably about his own journey and how the dissolution of his 10-year marriage helped him reevaluate his life and healing path.  Our conversation includes stories about parenting, what it looks like to begin embracing our own pain, and why we actually need others in order to begin healing. There are no words to describe how beautiful, impactful, and wise this conversation is. Trust me. You don’t want to miss this! David is a 5/1 Emotional Manifestor What you’ll learn in this episode: • What is Trauma? What’s the difference between “big T” and “little t” trauma  • What is a trauma response and how does it show up in our behavior? • How personas and identities get invented in order to protect us from feeling our own pain • How letting go of trauma patterns allows us to receive love  • How acknowledging our emotions is the first step in the healing process • How to communicate responsibly when we get triggered  • How “therapy speak” takes us out of fully being present with ourselves and others • How to become a better parent by dealing with our trauma  • What it looks like to “be with” someone’s experience vs. “fixing” their experience  • Why we live in a hyper-individualized culture and why we need healthy interdependence • Why healing ourselves first is necessary in order to heal the collective  Resources mentioned in this episode: • WholeHearted [https://www.beingwholehearted.com/]  • What is NARM? [https://narmtraining.com/what-is-narm/] • Hakomi Method [https://hakomiinstitute.com/about/hakomi-mindful-somatic-psychotherapy] • Somatic Experiencing  [https://traumahealing.org/] Connect with Sam on Instagram here: ⁠⁠__@samwise⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/__samwise/] Connect with David here:  • LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidjyoung81/] • @david.jyoung [https://www.instagram.com/david.jyoung/] David is the co-creator and co-facilitator of Attuned: Becoming Trauma Informed & Trauma Responsive In Professional Settings and Radical Wholeness: A 10-Week Online Journey. He is a student of collective trauma healing with Thomas Hübl and loves traveling, hanging out in tea shops, and camping with his kids.

04: Becoming Available for Love, Sex and Love Addiction, & Calling in the One Part 2

This episode is a continuation of the two-part story of my experience in Bali during the summer of 2022! Join me as I walk into a Sex and Love Addicts meeting for the first time and begin to tell the truth about some of my addictive patterns. I'll share how my genuine desire for sexual exploration + learning turned into addictive behavior and what it's looked like for me to step into resting and healing. Stay tuned for updates about this story coming in the near future! What you’ll learn in this episode: • How participating in a 12-step program works and what it looks like to recover from addiction • Why Bali brings up people’s undealt with shit and why it’s important to accept and embrace our own shadows  • What are some common triggers for addictive behavior and how to let go of it • Why telling the truth about ourselves is the first step in the healing process Resources mentioned in this episode: • ⁠"Calling in the One" by Katherine Woodward Thomas⁠ [https://callingintheone.com/⁠ ] • ⁠Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA)⁠ [https://slaafws.org/⁠] Connect with Sam on Instagram here: ⁠⁠__@samwise⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/__samwise/] Related Episodes: Becoming Available for Love, Sex and Love Addiction, & Calling in the One Part 1 https://callingintheone.com/⁠  https://slaafws.org/⁠ https://www.instagram.com/__samwise/

03: Becoming Available for Love, Sex and Love Addiction, & Calling in the One Part 1

Join me for this two-part story where I share my journey about living in Bali for the summer of 2022! In this episode, I recount what it was like to move to Bali, to become no longer available for dating apps and casual intimacy, and how I spent my time reading a book that would forever change my relationship with love. What you’ll learn in this episode: • Why Sam decided to stop dating and become celibate • Why Sam started wearing a wedding ring and how it shifted his relationship with Love • Sam’s realizations about why and where he was blocking Love from coming into his life • How Sam shifted his energy from being casual to being conscious • How our environments and unspoken promises impact our ability to attract love into our lives • How to allow the people we love the most to be disappointed in order to honor ourselves • How Life is always giving us what we need in order to receive what we desire Resources mentioned in this episode: • ⁠"Calling in the One" by Katherine Woodward Thomas⁠ [https://callingintheone.com/⁠ ] • ⁠Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA)⁠ [⁠Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA)⁠] Connect with Sam on Instagram here: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/__samwise/⁠⁠ Related Episodes: • Becoming Available for Love, Sex + Love Addiction, and Calling in the One Part 2

02: Sacred Saturday in Ubud, The Aquarian Entrepreneur, Rituals of Remembrance, & Being God

Join me for a Sacred Saturday in Bali!  Once a week on Saturdays, I practice resting by not allowing myself to schedule any work or commitments. In this episode, you’ll hear about the magic that unfolds as I wake up, practice following my desires, and allowing Life to surprise me for the day.  This story also includes conversations about monkeys, motorbikes, business, money, and God.  What you’ll learn in this episode: • Why it’s useful to breathe and get present with your body before you begin anything • How Sam defines “rest” and how prioritizing rest supports his Life and business.  • Why it’s so critical to have practices and rituals to help you remember who you are • What is an Aquarian Entrepreneur and how to begin the process of living as one • Why it’s vital to honor our own uniqueness in business • What’s possible when we start to relate to ourselves as God • How to remember who you are when you’ve forgotten Resources mentioned in this episode: • Check out Jas here: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/jasnnenna/⁠⁠ • ⁠Jas’ Podcast on "What is the Aquarian Entrepreneur? - IG Live" ⁠ [https://open.spotify.com/episode/49V4t9OOmm9yRFWdNmYMlz?si=0e36648ce56b4cc2⁠] Connect with Sam on Instagram here:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/__samwise/⁠⁠

01: My Story & Why I'm Starting this Podcast

Wow.  It’s been 2 years in the making and we’re finally here! Join me in this first episode as I share a bit about my personal story and my intentions for the podcast.  In my sharing, you’ll hear about my childhood, how growing up in the church and being the product of an arranged marriage influenced my life, how struggling with my sexuality led me on a 3-year journey around the world in search of God, and how I fell in love with coaching. May these stories and future episodes be a space for you to experience radical permission and healing. Love ya, Sam What you’ll learn in this episode:  • How Sam’s religious upbringing influenced his desire to impact the world  • How Sam’s struggle with his sexuality kickstarted his search to find God • How Sam shifted his story from “not good enough” to “I matter” by stepping into his leadership • Why being accountable for people has you become a bigger person • What is intimacy and how it’s different from sex and romance • How Sam discovered his purpose of being a healer and why he prefers coaching vs psychology • How the Landmark Forum helped Sam create a brand new relationship with his Father • Why we get triggered and why it matters to live in a culture of approval versus disapproval Resources mentioned in this episode: • ⁠Aimee Batuski⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/] • ⁠The Landmark Forum⁠ [https://www.landmarkworldwide.com/] Connect with Sam on Instagram here: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/__samwise/⁠