Love in the Real World

When to Say Goodbye: Couples Counseling and Relationship Separation

Join Dan Gummo [https://relate.online/products/find-your-therapist], the practice manager for Relate, and Steven Dromgool [https://relate.online/collections/steven-dromgool], the clinical director, as they delve into common issues in relationship counseling. This episode addresses critical questions about couples counseling, particularly when one partner is contemplating separation. Learn about the appropriateness and potential success of counseling when one partner is ready to leave, and discover insights on therapeutic separations versus trial separations. Steve and Dan also discuss the 'stay or go' worksheet—a tool to help individuals assess their relationship by breaking down complex decisions. They cover the significance of perpetual problems in relationships and how to manage them effectively. Personal anecdotes highlight real-life applications of their advice, making this episode a valuable resource for anyone seeking to improve or reassess their relationship. Don't miss out on practical strategies and professional tips to navigate relationship challenges - Stay or Go Course and Worksheet [https://relate.online/products/relationship-decision-stay-or-go] - Sex and Pornography Addiction Counselling [https://relate.online/products/sex-pornography-addiction-specialist-consultation-couples-coaching]

The Relationship Boat: Agreements and Principles

In this episode, we explore the importance of principles and agreements in creating a successful relationship, drawing inspiration from Stan Tatkin's PACT method. We discuss the concept of the relationship as a 'boat' where both partners must collaborate for it to function. Everything outside the couple is considered a 'third,' including kids, jobs, and finances. We delve into how general principles, like honesty and financial prudence, can sometimes conflict and how these can be translated into specific agreements to prevent disputes. The discussion also covers the significance of prioritizing the relationship for overall well-being and offers practical examples for aligning on shared goals, such as going on holidays or maintaining daily affectionate rituals. Join us to learn strategies for creating a strong, collaborative partnership.