Messy Life Podcast

DOWNLOAD: NOTES & ACTIVITY (DATE 3 OF 3) http://joeljohnson.org/datenight/date-3-details DO YOU FIGHT LIKE A HERO? In this hilarious episode Joel and Casey will teach you how to cut your fight time down by 90%! That means more time for loving and less time in conflict, who doesn’t want that?! You'll discover more about your (and the ones you love) apology language! If you missed Date 1 or 2 “Mind the Gap” or “Trust Factor,” we got you! Simply go to joeljohnson.org/datenight to download your FREE Date Night Activity and watch!

DOWNLOAD: NOTES and Date Night ACTIVITY - http://joeljohnson.org/datenight Great marriages “SYNERGIZE.” To experience synergy, couples must move beyond PREDICTIVE TRUST into VULNERABILITY-BASED TRUST. This changes everything in a marriage! 🤵🏼👰🏾 Joel & Casey will teach you how! If you missed Date # 1, “Mind the Gap,” we got you! Please listen to podcast episode 14 or go to http://joeljohnson.org/datenight to watch and download your FREE Date Night Activity!

Mind the Gap (Date 1 of 3): DOWNLOADS - Notes & Date Night Activity at joeljohnson.org/datenight Even in the best marriages, there are relational gaps that must be minded to. Bridging those gaps is a natural part of every healthy marriage. In great relationships, partners practice the art of falling in love over and over again. In this first Social Distancing Date, Joel and Casey Johnson will teach how. Social Distancing should not mean the end of your dating life! Hallelujah! This marks the end of your dating quarantine! Join Joel & Casey Johnson, professional marriage coaches, for the Social Distancing Date Night Challenge! Three fun (and free) quarantine dates that will move your marriage forward! No need to go out, because the Johnson's are bringing date night to you! For all the details head to joeljohnson.org/datenight

In this episode, Joel and Casey Johnson talk about how to discern and navigate manipulative leadership. A master manipulator can be so magnetic the people unknowingly submit their sense of security to that person, relinquishing there God-given responsibility to govern their own lives, to a spiritous figure who says to them, "trust me, do what I say and everything will be fine." But Sadly... Controlling, bully-type personalities are often secretly afraid, according to enneagram experts, Russ Hudson and Don Risso. They go on to explain that many maipulators and abusers encountered sever abuse as a child and subconsciously believe people are out to get them. They make themselves big, attempt to sound tough, intimidating others and rarely, if ever allow themselves to be vulnerable. They see no dissonance posing as the righteous hero, all the while lying, cheating and deceiving to protect themselves and their empire. In this episode, Joel + Casey talk about: - The 5 Characteristics of a Manipulative Leader - The 9 Signs of when to leave an Organization (and) - Joel and Casey's Real-life experiences with Manipulative Leaders "A true leader seeks to serve people, not control them." - Joel Johnson

Identifying your own personality and the personalities of others is the road to greater compassion for all. It allows you to extend infinitely more grace and understanding to others and, more importantly, yourself. Personality tools like Myers-Briggs and the Enneagram are incredibly helpful in the journey of self-awareness and other centeredness. Understanding personalities shows us that "we can’t change the way other people see, but we can try to experience the world through their eyes and help them change what they do with what they see" says Ian Morgan Cron. Thich Nhat Hanh explains this well. He says, “When our hearts are small, our understanding and compassion are limited, and we suffer. We can’t accept or tolerate others and their shortcomings, and we demand that they change,” he says. “But when our hearts expand, these same things don’t make us suffer anymore. We have a lot of understanding and compassion and can embrace others. We accept others as they are, and then they have a chance to transform.” If you want to see a real change in the people you work with, your family or your spouse, the first step starts with understanding them and yourself better. Think on what Thomas Merton said: “The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them.” In this episode, Joel + Casey talk about: 1.)How to Identify your co-worker's, family's and spouse's personality type 2.)Understanding Enneagram Personality Types 3.)How to live with more grace and compassion for others and yourself SHOW NOTES at joeljohnson.org/podcast (SHOW NOTES - include a detailed summary of this podcast episode, with links discussed, materials and free stuff! Enjoy!)