Episode 2: Not Our Trauma Showing Up
In this episode, Deyci and Esmeralda explore the significance of expressing emotions, particularly anger, and the role of therapy in improving mental health. The conversation delves into cultural perspectives on therapy, coping mechanisms, and personal experiences with emotional expression through art and music. While they both are working through family dynamics, the necessity of setting boundaries, and the significance of self-love, they both understand this is a journey.
You can find both self-love poems on instagram @notourtraumashowingup
Content warning: This episode includes topics such as childhood trauma, substance use, and personal experiences of mental health disorders. Please skip this episode if you need to. In an emergency, call 911. You can also call the Suicide and Crisis Line at 988.
The website used to find Esme's childhood therapist: www.psychologytoday.com [www.psychologytoday.com]
Songs mentioned:
Best of You Song by Foo Fighters [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h_L4Rixya64 ]
Move Along Song by The All-American Rejects [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XleOkGsYgO8 ]
Public locations mentioned:San Leandro, CA the Marina Park [https://www.sanleandro.org/facilities/facility/details/Marina-Park-11 ]
Types of therapy:
What is family therapy? https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/24454-family-therapy [https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/24454-family-therapy ]
What is dyadic care (CA)? https://dyadiccare.ucsf.edu/intro [https://dyadiccare.ucsf.edu/intro]https://www.dhcs.ca.gov/provgovpart/Pages/Dyadic-Services.aspx [https://www.dhcs.ca.gov/provgovpart/Pages/Dyadic-Services.aspx ]
What is couple therapy? https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/therapy-types/couples-therapy#:~:text=Couples%20therapy%20is%20a%20type,%2C%20more%20open%2Dended%20way. [https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/therapy-types/couples-therapy#:~:text=Couples%20therapy%20is%20a%20type,%2C%20more%20open%2Dended%20way. ]
Themes explored:
What is toxic masculinity? https://adaa.org/learn-from-us/from-the-experts/blog-posts/consumer/what-toxic-masculinity-and-how-it-impacts-mental [ https://adaa.org/learn-from-us/from-the-experts/blog-posts/consumer/what-toxic-masculinity-and-how-it-impacts-mental ]
What is machismo? https://www.michigandaily.com/michigan-in-color/machismo-culture-must-go/ [https://www.michigandaily.com/michigan-in-color/machismo-culture-must-go/ ]
Alcohol as rocket fuel? https://www.quora.com/Why-was-alcohol-water-mixture-used-as-rocket-fuel [https://www.quora.com/Why-was-alcohol-water-mixture-used-as-rocket-fuel ]
What is binge drinking? https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/brochures-and-fact-sheets/binge-drinking [https://www.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/brochures-and-fact-sheets/binge-drinking ]
What are boundaries and why are they important? https://laconciergepsychologist.com/blog/what-are-boundaries/ [https://laconciergepsychologist.com/blog/what-are-boundaries/]
Copings skills mentioned:
The science of gratitude lists: https://www.mindful.org/the-science-of-gratitude/#:~:text=Scientists%20who%20have%20studied%20written,according%20to%20peer%2Dreviewed%20research. [https://www.mindful.org/the-science-of-gratitude/#:~:text=Scientists%20who%20have%20studied%20written,according%20to%20peer%2Dreviewed%20research. ]
Mirror affirmations: https://www.odu.edu/equity/civility-month/affirmations#:~:text=One%20of%20the%20best%20ways,it%20positively%20affects%20your%20mindset. [https://www.odu.edu/equity/civility-month/affirmations#:~:text=One%20of%20the%20best%20ways,it%20positively%20affects%20your%20mindset. ]
When did you stop dancing? https://featheredpipe.com/feathered-pipe-blog/wonder-creativity-carie-garrett/ [https://featheredpipe.com/feathered-pipe-blog/wonder-creativity-carie-garrett/ ]
“In many shamanic societies, if you came to a shaman or medicine person complaining of being disheartened, dispirited, or depressed, they would ask one of four questions: When did you stop dancing? When did you stop singing? When did you stop being enchanted by stories? When did you stop finding comfort in the sweet territory of silence? …Dancing, singing, storytelling, and silence are the four universal healing salves.”
Power of dance: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9395627/#:~:text=Dance%20involves%20the%20culturally%20mediated,ways%20of%20handling%20their%20effects. [https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9395627/#:~:text=Dance%20involves%20the%20culturally%20mediated,ways%20of%20handling%20their%20effects. ]
Box breathing technique: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/321805 [https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/321805 ]
Butterfly Hug grounding technique: https://traumaresearchuk.org/the-butterfly-hug-technique/#:~:text=Easing%20Anxiety%20through%20Self%2DComfort,the%20rhythm%20of%20your%20breath. [https://traumaresearchuk.org/the-butterfly-hug-technique/#:~:text=Easing%20Anxiety%20through%20Self%2DComfort,the%20rhythm%20of%20your%20breath. ]
Feet on the floor grounding technique: https://ysmtherapyomaha.com/center-yourself-with-a-simple-grounding-exercise/ [https://ysmtherapyomaha.com/center-yourself-with-a-simple-grounding-exercise/ ]
5-4-3-2-1 technique: https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/behavioral-health-partners/bhp-blog/april-2018/5-4-3-2-1-coping-technique-for-anxiety [https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/behavioral-health-partners/bhp-blog/april-2018/5-4-3-2-1-coping-technique-for-anxiety ]
Humming technique: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-compassionate-brain/202410/the-power-of-humming [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-compassionate-brain/202410/the-power-of-humming ]
Link to meditation youtube video: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DGEErIgymin/?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== [https://www.instagram.com/reel/DGEErIgymin/?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==]
