Not So Obvious with Pati Kostecka

Seeing Others With Empathy

In today’s episode, I talk about learning to see others with empathy while still protecting your own boundaries. I explore how our past experiences shape the way we judge, trust, and react to people — and why understanding ourselves is the first step to truly understanding others. Book mentioned: The Next Conversation by Jefferson Fisher

Why You Need to Fail More

In this episode, I unpack why failure isn’t just okay — it’s necessary, and why your willingness to fail might be the most important skill you’re not practicing. There may or may not also be a Shrek metaphor that somehow ties it all together. Side note: Yes, the camera decided to drift out of focus — which honestly feels pretty on-brand for today’s topic 😂 Books mentioned: The Mountain is You by Brianna Wiest Atomic Habits by James Clear

Welcome to Not So Obvious

Welcome to Not So Obvious with Pati Kostecka! I’m so glad you’re here. Let’s navigate this complicated thing called life together.