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25. grieving a living person? and what to do next.

Are you grieving someone who is still alive? Are you stuck in a season of long-term grief, sadness, or depression that just won’t lift? This message is for the person who has been mourning for far too long.   In this episode of Pure Surrender Podcast, Brittany Hall walks through 1 Samuel 15–16 and the powerful moment when God tells Samuel:   “You have mourned long enough.”   Samuel grieved constantly for Saul — someone still living. And maybe you are grieving: • A relationship you never had • A parent who was emotionally unavailable • A friendship that ended • A job you lost • A season you can’t go back to • A person who is still alive, but no longer in your life   This is not a message for fresh grief. This is for the person who has been dwelling in it for months… maybe years.   In this episode, we talk about:   ✨ What it means to grieve someone still alive ✨ The Hebrew meaning of “mourn” in 1 Samuel ✨ Why God isn’t saying “get over it” ✨ What “fill your horn with oil” really represents ✨ How to move forward with God after prolonged grief ✨ Being used by God after heartbreak   God still used Samuel. And He can still use you.   If you’ve been living in a constant emotional state of grief, this message will gently guide you toward healing, purpose, and movement again.   🎙 Pure Surrender Podcast Hosted by Brittany Hall   If this message resonates with you, like, comment, and subscribe. Share it with someone who may be grieving in silence.   #GriefHealing #ChristianEncouragement #GrievingSomeoneAlive #FaithInHardSeasons #BiblicalTeaching #EmotionalHealing #MoveForwardWithGod #PureSurrenderPodcast         00:00 Grieving Someone Still Alive: Who This Message Is For 00:25 Welcome (Prayer & Purpose) 01:50 Scripture Setup: Samuel Mourns Saul (1 Samuel 15) 03:18 When Grief Becomes a Lifestyle: ‘Mourned Constantly’ 05:35 God’s Gentle Call (1 Sam 16:1) 07:45 How Do I Move Forward? Fear, Obedience, and God’s Next Assignment 08:25 Fill the Horn With Oil: Strength for a New Season & New Calling 11:37 Step Out and Let God Use Your Story (Final Prayer)

24. stuck trying to break generational cycles? it's time to do this NOW!

If you’ve been feeling stuck—spiritually stagnant, emotionally exhausted, or trapped in the same cycles year after year—this episode is for you. In this powerful episode of the Pure Surrender Podcast, host Brittany Hall shares a Holy Spirit–led message about breaking generational cycles, dismantling old foundations, and stepping into the new place God is calling you to. Drawing from Deuteronomy 1:6–8, we explore God’s loving command: “You have stayed at this mountain long enough.” This episode speaks directly to those who have lived too long in survival mode—carrying biological family trauma, betrayal, grief, fear, or limiting beliefs—and are ready to heal with Christ at the center. Just as the Israelites were called to break camp, dismantle their tents, and trust God into the Promised Land, you are being invited to leave behind what no longer serves God’s purpose in your life. Inside this episode, you’ll hear: •What it means—biblically and spiritually—to “break camp” •How old mindsets, family patterns, and learned behaviors can keep us stuck •Why God sometimes asks us to dismantle what we’ve known before rebuilding something new •How to trust God when you can’t see every step •Reflection questions to help you step into healing, obedience, and freedom through Christ This message is for the one who is tired of circling the same mountain. For the one healing from generational trauma. For the one learning to trust God instead of self-sufficiency. For the one ready to move forward—even if it feels scary. You are not disqualified by where you’ve been. You are called, chosen, and invited into something new. It’s time to break camp. It’s time to move on. It’s time to occupy the place God has already given you. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:54 Opening Prayer 02:17 Setting the Context: Israelites in the Wilderness 03:03 The 40-Year Journey 03:39 Cycles of Distrust and Disobedience 05:05 God's Command to Move On 08:12 Breaking Camp: A Deeper Look 08:58 Dismantling the Tent: Symbolism and Meaning 09:55 The Tent of Meeting 11:37 Trusting God and Moving Forward 15:45 Reflection Questions 17:49 Breaking Old Patterns 18:21 Aligning with God's Word 18:48 Taking Possession of God's Promises 19:12 Conclusion and Farewell Spotify — https://open.spotify.com/show/39Ope4PHKxHOueJhSZ7aTD  Apple — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pure-surrender-podcast/id1836325555  Youtube — https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnyrk0VhLeDvclNjKzLGuoOxwHSk2xsRs  Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/puresurrenderpodcast

23. why God removes us from toxic family systems & overcoming confusion

If you feel like you’ve been going in circles… waiting, wandering, or stuck in the in-between — this message is for you. If God brought you out of a toxic family system, but the path forward feels confusing, long, or unfamiliar, you’re not alone — and you’re not doing it wrong. In this episode of the Pure Surrender Podcast, Brittany Hall continues through Exodus 13, unpacking why God intentionally led Israel the long way after freeing them from Egypt. Even though the shortest road to the Promised Land was available, God chose a roundabout route — not to delay them, but to protect them, prepare them, and heal them. This teaching speaks directly to those who have experienced family estrangement, emotional abandonment, manipulation, or generational trauma, especially when separation was necessary for safety, healing, and obedience to God. Through Exodus 12:51 and Exodus 13:17–18, Brittany reveals the powerful distinction between God bringing you out and God leading you forward — and what your role is in that process. You’ll hear a deep biblical breakdown of: •Why God sometimes removes us from toxic family systems but leads us through unfamiliar territory •What it means that Israel left Egypt “like an army” — and later, “an army ready for battle” •The meaning of the third, fourth, and fifth generations in Exodus 13 and Exodus 20 •How generational consequences differ from generational punishment •Why separation can be God’s protection, not rejection •How God prepares cycle-breakers to build a new, godly foundation •What it looks like to trust God when the path forward isn’t the main road If you were raised in a household without a godly foundation — or one that appeared godly on the outside but was damaging behind closed doors — this episode offers clarity, validation, and hope. You are not being punished for what your parents did. You are living in the consequences God is now redeeming — and you may be the generation He chose to heal it. This message is for the one who: •Has been brought out of toxic family dynamics but struggles not to go back •Feels grief, confusion, or guilt over separation •Is learning how to follow God without the old family structure •Knows God called them out, but doesn’t yet see where He’s leading them •Is ready to stop repeating cycles and build something new You are not lost. You are not behind. You are not abandoned. You are the cycle breaker. You are the fifth generation. And God has already prepared you for this. 🎧 Listen, reflect, and be encouraged — even if the road feels longer than expected. 00:00 Introduction: Embracing the Unknown00:25 Welcome to Pure Surrender Podcast00:32 Exodus 13: The Journey Begins01:29 God's Roundabout Way02:17 The Purpose of the Long Route03:29 Generational Impact and God's Protection07:17 Breaking Free from Family Trauma09:19 Conclusion: Ready for Battle Spotify — https://open.spotify.com/show/39Ope4PHKxHOueJhSZ7aTD  Apple — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pure-surrender-podcast/id1836325555  Youtube — https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnyrk0VhLeDvclNjKzLGuoOxwHSk2xsRs  Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/puresurrenderpodcast

22. God led people away from abuse, not into it. (part 2)

If God has brought you out of an abusive home, toxic family dynamics, or a long season of spiritual, emotional, or relational bondage, this episode is for you. In this episode of the Pure Surrender Podcast, we walk through Exodus 12–13 and reflect on how God leads His people out of slavery, cruelty, and suffering — not just to rescue them, but to heal them, re-orient them, and teach them how to remember what He has done. Many believers struggle in the aftermath of deliverance. We love God, yet we carry grief over what we endured, confusion about what honoring God looks like now, and a quiet temptation to keep revisiting Egypt in our minds. In Scripture, God does something deeply compassionate: He tells His people to remember the very day He brought them out — not to relive the pain, but to mark the moment of freedom. He invites them to create rhythms of remembrance so they don’t return to bondage emotionally, spiritually, or relationally. In this episode, we explore how remembering deliverance becomes part of biblical healing. We talk about grieving what you didn’t have, honoring the process of healing, and then gently shifting perspective: What if the day associated with pain is also the day God rescued you? What if that moment could become a sacred marker — a reminder of His mighty hand rather than your suffering? This conversation is for believers healing from family trauma, abuse, or deep disappointment, who are learning how to move forward with God without minimizing their story or returning to what harmed them. Through Exodus, we see that God not only brings His people out — He teaches them how to live free, how to remember well, and how to celebrate deliverance even while walking through the wilderness. You may feel like you’re in the in-between right now. But you are no longer in Egypt. God is leading you to a new place, and this episode is an invitation to begin seeing your story — and your freedom — through His redemptive lens. 00:00 Introduction and Recap 00:36 Continuing the Journey in Exodus 00:59 Reading from Exodus 12 and 13 01:44 The Significance of the Celebration 02:14 Personal Reflection and Encouragement 02:22 Detailed Instructions for the Festival 06:27 Modern Application of the Celebration 08:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Spotify — https://open.spotify.com/show/39Ope4PHKxHOueJhSZ7aTD  Apple — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pure-surrender-podcast/id1836325555  Youtube — https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnyrk0VhLeDvclNjKzLGuoOxwHSk2xsRs  Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/puresurrenderpodcast

21. suddenly estranged from your parents? for the christian mom with a mother wound. (part 1)

If you have been suddenly removed, separated, or forced out of a relationship you never thought you’d lose, especially from your mother or father — this message is for you. In today’s episode of the Pure Surrender Podcast, host Brittany Hall walks through Exodus 11–12 and Deuteronomy 22:6–7 to address one of the most painful and confusing questions believers face: How do you biblically heal from a mother wound or father wound—especially when those wounds came from authority figures God tells us to honor? Through the story of Israel’s sudden deliverance from Egypt, we explore how God sometimes removes His people quickly, unexpectedly, and without preparation—not as punishment, but as protection. Just as Israel was driven out of slavery in the middle of the night, many believers are forced out of toxic, abusive, or ungodly family systems they would have never left on their own. This episode speaks directly to those who:     •    Feel guilty for creating distance from a parent     •    Are wrestling with honoring parents who caused deep harm     •    Are struggling to let go of what’s familiar—even when it’s unhealthy     •    Feel spiritually confused about boundaries, obedience, and healing     •    Are seeking biblical clarity, not worldly advice Brittany also unpacks the often-overlooked command in Deuteronomy 22:6–7—“You may take the young, but let the mother go, so that it may go well with you and you may live long.” This passage offers powerful insight into how God defines care, protection, release, and prosperity—and how letting go can actually be an act of obedience. If you’ve ever wondered:     •    Was God involved in this separation?     •    Is it biblical to let my parents go?     •    Why did this happen so suddenly?     •    Can I heal and still honor God? This episode will meet you right where you are—with truth, compassion, and Scripture. 🕊️ You are not being abandoned—you are being delivered. 🕊️ God does not rescue slowly when staying would destroy you. Take time this week to meditate on Exodus 11–12 and Deuteronomy 22:6–7, and allow God to show you what freedom, healing, and prosperity look like in His care. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:27 Setting the Scene: The Israelites in Egypt 00:52 The Plagues and Passover 01:25 The Exodus Begins 01:59 The Israelites' Departure 03:33 God's Provision and Favor 04:53 Personal Reflection: The Yeast Analogy 06:25 Forced Out for a Reason 07:49 Letting Go of Past Hurts 11:51 Final Thoughts and Prayer Spotify — https://open.spotify.com/show/39Ope4PHKxHOueJhSZ7aTD  Apple — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pure-surrender-podcast/id1836325555  Youtube — https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnyrk0VhLeDvclNjKzLGuoOxwHSk2xsRs  Instagram -  https://www.instagram.com/puresurrenderpodcast