Raising Teens with Collett Smart

She Wasn’t Born Yesterday tackles the many unique issues affecting women who are 40+ fabulous. Click here to follow this podcast [https://open.spotify.com/show/7npXp6git2SM65pr8P8DZH?si=22f8d10337754bd1] Janet Evans and Jenni Woodhouse tackle adult parent-child relationships on "She Wasn't Born Yesterday" with Dr Jenny Brown, a family therapist with 35+ years helping Aussie families. Jenny shares game-changing strategies for staying curious instead of reactive during family conflicts, giving feedback without criticism, and understanding those weird family patterns. Whether your relationship with your parents is broken or just challenging, she offers practical advice for improving family connections without losing yourself in the process. About the Guest: Dr. Jenny Brown is a highly respected clinical couple and family therapist with over 35 years of experience, specializing in family systems theory. She holds a PhD in social science and has dedicated her career to helping individuals navigate complex family dynamics. Dr. Brown is also an accomplished author and a key figure at the Family Systems Institute, where she contributes to training mental health professionals. Her work focuses on applying scientific theory to real-world relationship challenges, particularly emphasizing self-differentiation and emotional maturity. Key Takeaways: * Self-Differentiation is Essential: Emphasizes the importance of focusing on personal growth and emotional maturity to improve relationships with parents. * Curiosity Over Reactivity: Advocates for a curious rather than reactive approach to family dynamics, promoting understanding and empathy. * Avoid Triangulation: Highlights the pitfalls of involving third parties unnecessarily, urging direct communication in resolving conflicts. * The Impact of Labels: Warns against labeling family members as villains or saints, encouraging a more nuanced understanding of individual behaviors. * The Role of Feedback: Stresses the importance of offering constructive feedback without criticizing, fostering healthier communication patterns. Notable Quotes: 1. "Being a parent is like trying to stand up in a hammock without spilling your wine." 2. "If there's a lot of conflict with parents, it's probably a sign that there's a lot that isn't worked out." 3. "I will not give advice until I've heard the best advice that they have to give themselves." 4. "Even messy relationships are worth having the experience of dealing with them." 5. "We can't have three steps to the perfect relationship to achieve in one week." Resources: * Jenny Brown’s Books: Amazon [https://www.amazon.com.au/stores/author/B00DVVQ5DG] * Family Systems Institute: Information and resources on family systems theory. [https://www.thefsi.com.au/] * Family Systems Practice Website: Offers insights into familial relationship dynamics [https://thefsp.com.au/]. * Parent Hope Project: Dr. Brown's program focusing on improving parental approaches. [https://parenthopeproject.com.au/] She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a senior advertising creative and Jenni Woodhouse a semi retired social worker Join the discussion of being 40+ faaabulous on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1251288729161718]. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au [http://www.hopepodcasts.com.au/]. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app [https://hope1032.com.au/listen/#apps], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/Hope103.2] or Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sydneyshope1032/]. Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donate [https://hope1032.com.au/donate] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Follow Money: Faith & Finance here on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/7chJcqGhtIhy6MSKAr6HsI?si=Xzw9IASeTMOxQUDOpxkPWA [https://open.spotify.com/show/7chJcqGhtIhy6MSKAr6HsI?si=Xzw9IASeTMOxQUDOpxkPWA] Proudly produced by the same people that do Raising Teens.   Should you burden your maturing youngin' on how you make your money work for your household? Should you spell it out for them so they understand how the adults in the household have sacrificed for their well being as well as the comforts in life which they enjoy? Or should you let them enjoy life, and live a carefree unemcumbered life because after all, they've got a whole lotta years of adulting to enjoy?  Key Takeaways: * It's crucial for children to learn about money early on, including budgeting, saving, and investing. * Transitioning from cash to digital transactions presents challenges in teaching kids about the value of money. * Encouraging children to work part-time can provide valuable financial skills and experiences. * Understanding new financial tools such as Afterpay and digital banking is essential for today's youth. * Engaging in open, non-judgmental conversations about finances can help mitigate money-related mistakes. Notable Quotes: * "One out of one people in the world need to understand and deal with money." — Pete Burrows * "The earlier you can start [financial education], the better." — Pete Burrows * "It's a good idea to set up bank accounts for kids to teach them about saving and spending." — Pete Burrows * "Mistakes are your best resource because you can learn from them." — Pete Burrows * "You want to keep open conversations… lean into [money] learning opportunities." — Pete Burrows   Got a question, comment or personal story to share? Send it through at hopepodcasts.com.au [https://hope1032.com.au/show/money/]. Ben and Pete will get stuck into it on a future episode. Pete Burrows is an accountant for small business and individuals with Lower Russell and Farr [https://www.lrf.com.au/] in Penrith, Western Sydney, Australia. Ben McEachen hosts Hope Mornings on Hope 103.2FM [https://hope1032.com.au/programs/hope-mornings/] in Sydney, Australia. Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donate [https://hope1032.com.au/donate] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

To hear more Money: Faith & Finance, click on this apple podcast link:  https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/money-faith-finance/id1656825243 Teenagers earning money and paying you board? What about adult kids living under your roof? Joni asked Pete and Ben to get stuck into the family affair of working out if your kids with jobs need to stump up. So they did, diving deeper than their kneejerk response of "YES". Growing up with the expectation of paying board, Pete and Ben acknowledge the changed landscape of home ownership and accessibility. But the life lesson of paying board remains, as well as the opportunity to live out biblical principles of respect. Key Takeaways: * Financial Responsibility: Charging board teaches young adults to manage finances and prepares them for independent living. * Family Dynamics: Open communication about finances and responsibilities can reduce tension and foster understanding among family members. * Economic Landscape: Rising costs of living and rental rates contribute to adult children staying home longer. * Adapting Traditions: Modern families may need to adjust traditional approaches to rent and board, weighing financial necessity against educational opportunity. * Value-Based Discussions: Families can leverage biblical principles, such as honouring parents, to guide discussions about board. Notable Quotes: * "Shouldn't they, in a sense, contribute to the cost of the house? And I think the answer is yes." – Pete Burrows * "In adulthood, spoiler alert, you're going to cop 100% of the cost of living." – Pete Burrows * "We're trying to prepare you for adulthood. And in adulthood…you need to pay a percentage of those costs." – Pete Burrows * "Is it more about while you're here, we're trying to teach you a lesson?" – Ben McEachen   Got a question, comment or personal story to share? Send it through at hopepodcasts.com.au [https://hope1032.com.au/show/money/]. Ben and Pete will get stuck into it on a future episode. Pete Burrows is an accountant for small business and individuals with Lower Russell and Farr [https://www.lrf.com.au/] in Penrith, Western Sydney, Australia. Ben McEachen hosts Hope Mornings on Hope 103.2FM [https://hope1032.com.au/programs/hope-mornings/] in Sydney, Australia. Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donate [https://hope1032.com.au/donate] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

About the Guest: Dr. Jay-Lee Nair is an esteemed Australian sports psychologist with deep expertise in performance anxiety among young athletes. Residing in Singapore since 2012, she specializes in strategies to help high achievers and perfectionists thrive in competitive sports. Her impactful work in psychology and sports spans from her educational pursuits in the United States, where she earned Academic All American Honors while playing collegiate golf. Dr. Nair's passion is further evidenced by her book "Good Sport [https://www.booktopia.com.au/good-sport-dr-jay-lee-nair/book/9781761280429.html?srsltid=AfmBOooeTBsYy17YpksU32PKC-clijgg_x7ZZpI7s2W517LEyTKb0il1]," reflecting her commitment to leveraging her experiences and insights for the betterment of young athletes globally. Key Takeaways: * Parental Role in Sports: The importance of parents acting as collaborators rather than directors in their children's athletic development, providing support through attentional silence and non-verbal encouragement. * Handling Performance Anxiety: Young athletes should focus on controllable elements within their performance to mitigate anxiety linked to results-focused thinking. * Effective Post-Game Debriefing: Introducing the "Good Better How" methodology helps to ensure debriefs are constructive and focused on strengths and areas for improvement. * Gender-Specific Insights: The role of relationships and community in keeping girls engaged in sports through their teenage years. * Promoting the Green Zone: Fostering a culture where athletes are encouraged to react positively to mistakes can help them develop resilience and maintain strong performances. Notable Quotes: * "Help young athletes connect with their strengths and that just takes conversations, questions, helping them build their independent awareness." * "Pointing out their mistakes just exacerbates their dilemmas when it comes to competition." * "When athletes get to a certain age, the focus on improvement shifts to scrutiny of mistakes and technical perfection." * "Mistakes are statistics. If we prioritize reactions to mistakes, they develop resilience in their games." * "My hope is that all young athletes embrace and learn their strengths and start to transfer that to every other part of their life." Resources: * Dr. Jay-Lee Nair's book: Good Sport [https://www.booktopia.com.au/good-sport-dr-jay-lee-nair/book/9781761280429.html?srsltid=AfmBOooeTBsYy17YpksU32PKC-clijgg_x7ZZpI7s2W517LEyTKb0il1] * Follow Dr. Jay-Lee on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jaylee_nair]    Click here [info@raisingteenagers.com.au] to contact Collett or ask her a question or Click here [https://hope1032.com.au/show/raising-teens/] to contact the Raising Teens team. ---------------------------------------- Collett is a psychologist, qualified teacher, speaker, and internationally published author, with 25 years' experience working in private and public schools, as well as in private practice. Visit Raising Teens [http://raisingteens.au/] for more resources, click here [https://collettsmart.com/resources/] for Collett's books, or join the discussion on Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/collettsmart/]. Listen to more from our Hope Podcasts collection at hopepodcasts.com.au [http://www.hopepodcasts.com.au/]. And send the team a message via Hope 103.2’s app [https://hope1032.com.au/listen/#apps], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/Hope103.2] or Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sydneyshope1032/]. Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donate [https://hope1032.com.au/donate] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

For more episodes of "Undistracted with Laura Bennett" subscribe here on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/undistracted-with-laura-bennett/id1563350723] and Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/1YPWTGEVnpdBmKj8eQoeYP?si=fbb18acd29fc44ea] Join host Laura Bennett as she delves into parenting with psychologist, teacher, and author Colett Smart. Explore strategies for managing school-related stress, fostering children's identity beyond academics and activities, and maintaining healthy family dynamics. Colette shares insights into balancing extracurricular commitments, approaching other parents' expectations, and the impact of adult stress on children. Discover how to raise teens with intention and purpose, emphasizing the importance of staying present and engaged.  Key Takeaways: * Navigating Change: Colette discusses how any form of change, even positive, induces stress and suggests approaching a new school year with a mindset that embraces both excitement and challenges. * Emotional Load: She highlights the emotional burden parents and children carry during transitions, advocating for early intervention and support if stress becomes overwhelming. * Balancing Activities: Encourages parents to support their children's passions but maintain a healthy balance to ensure time for social interactions and relaxation. * Parental Influence: Stresses the importance of modeling positive responses to stress and maintaining open communication to alleviate children's anxieties. * Social Engagements: Advocates for clear communication among parents to manage expectations regarding children's social activities, making these experiences enjoyable without overwhelming commitments. Notable Quotes: * "All change can cause some form of stress, but it also brings exciting opportunities for growth." – Colett Smart * "You need to be the voice for your children and get them support early on." – Colett Smart * "Try to expand and make sure that they have other avenues where they reach out to others." – Colett Smart * "Someone needs to be brave enough to start the discussion... most parents are relieved." – Colett Smart * "We need to give our children hope and talk about what they can bring to the world." – Colett Smart Resources: * Colett Smart’s book: "They’ll Be Okay: 15 Conversations to Help Your Child Through Troubled Times [https://collettsmart.com/resources/]" * Listen to Undistracted with Laura Bennett here on Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/undistracted-with-laura-bennett/id1563350723] Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donate [https://hope1032.com.au/donate] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.