Saucy and Unfiltered

The Intelligence of Jealous with Daniel Laggner

Bez sits down with Daniel Laggner ahead of his workshop "The Intelligence of Jealousy" at The Sauce on March 7th. Daniel opens with a disarming confession: he's teaching this topic because he's a deeply jealous person himself. And that honesty sets the tone for one of the most grounded, real conversations we've had on this podcast. Daniel shares his origin story — 13 years married, eight of them monogamous, and a slow reckoning with the realization that polyamory wasn't just something he wanted, it was part of who he is. What followed was less a smooth transition and more an emotional crash course in self-discovery, one that led him deep into attachment theory, rejection wounds, and the humbling truth that nobody else is responsible for what comes up inside you. What Daniel brings to this workshop is something hard to teach: he's been in the mud, he knows what it smells like, and he has a genuine gift for helping others map their own inner terrain. Expect a breakdown of what jealousy actually is, real tools for navigating it in relationship, and a visual map to take home with you. If you've ever watched your partner walk out the door and had to sit alone with what came up next — this one's for you.

Hug Healing with SunRay Bates

In this episode of Saucy and Unfiltered, Bez sits down with SunRay Bates — community member, hug enthusiast, and co-facilitator of Hug Healing — ahead of her workshop at The Sauce on March 7th. What starts as a conversation about hugging quickly opens into something much deeper: the hunger so many of us carry for safe, platonic touch, and how rarely our culture actually makes space for it. SunRay shares her journey from experiencing the first Hug Healing event as a total revelation, to becoming one of its most devoted co-facilitators. She talks honestly about her own history with unsafe touch, and how this practice — founded over a decade ago by her best friend Billy Bob — has been genuinely medicinal for her nervous system, her relationships, and her heart. We talk cacao ceremonies, sound baths, the "Bliss Ball" (yes, it's exactly what it sounds like and also somehow more), and why SunRay is bringing this work to Yosemite Falls this spring. If you've ever felt awkward asking for a hug, or realized you might be starving for connection you didn't know how to name — this one's for you. Hug Healing is happening Saturday, March 7th at The 418 Project. Come ready to be held.

Our First Play Party with Bez and Matt

In this episode, Bez and Matt get raw and real about the next bold evolution of our community: Our First Play Party. We talk about how this event differs from the Sauce (yep, it’s all-bases), why we believe we’re ready for it, and what our deepest desires are for building a braver, more connected erotic culture together. We share the ethics at the heart of this container—like staying open to surprise, taking responsibility for your own experience, and remembering that you're always at choice. We also explain the application process, why it matters, and how to move forward whether you’re invited to this one or asked to join us for the next. If you’ve ever been curious about what it takes to build an intentional sex-positive community from the inside out, this one’s for you.

Erotic Energy in Dance with Daniel Mollner

Bez Stone and Daniel Mollner dive into dance, sexuality, and aging in the Santa Cruz scene. They chat about embracing getting older, normalizing sensuality in dance spaces, and creating supportive, all-ages environments. Plus, a sneak peek at Daniel’s upcoming workshop, The Prom You Wish You Had—where prom night meets grown-up wisdom.

Erotic Storytelling with Sirena Andrea

In this fun and heartfelt convo, Bez chats with the radiant Sirena Andrea about the magic of storytelling—especially the erotic kind. They dive into how sharing our personal stories helps us connect, feel seen, and even heal some of our deepest shame. Sirena talks about her journey from teaching kids to empowering women through the YoniVerse Monologues, and why getting specific and vulnerable makes stories really land. If you’ve ever wanted to feel more confident sharing your turn-ons or just be more real in your relationships, this episode’s for you.