SexTok with Tracey and Kelsey

S15 Ep. 4: STI Testing Etiquette, Staying Interested Post Orgasm, and Do I Deserve an Affair?

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve been married a long time and our kids are about to graduate—the pressure is finally off. I’m as happy as you can be with someone you’ve been with for 25-odd years. Meaning, I’m also bored. I’ve paid my dues, and I want some excitement. There’s a man in my life that’s paying me a lot of attention. Am I bad for thinking that if I’m discreet and careful, I kind of deserve to have fun? 2) Do you have a solution for the age-old problem for everyone who has sex: If one of you orgasms first—usually the woman, because ‘she comes first’ is a good motto—how do you maintain interest? Once you’ve climaxed, the horniness disappears and everything is half-hearted. 3) What is the etiquette these days for STI testing with a new partner? I’ve only had one sexual partner my whole life and am out there dating again. I know what’s recommended, but how many people follow these guidelines? I don’t want to look out of touch. To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelU [https://sextokpod.com/anonymous-questions] Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com [https://www.chroniclebooks.com/] for 30% off! ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

S15 Ep. 3: Kids Have Killed Our Sex Life, Sexual Shame, and Are mixed up people better in bed?

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m reading lots of things on social media that suggest people who are emotionally volatile are better in bed. Is there any truth in this? 2) Everyone talks about how having kids ruins your sex life. But no one talks about your wife never wanting sex ever again afterwards. It’s been six years since our last child was born, and we now have sex around three times a year. She has zero interest, and tells me I’m not being supportive for wanting sex with her when she’s so busy. 3) I am a man in his mid-50s and have carried this for years: When I was 12 years old, my mother walked into my bedroom while I was masturbating and humiliated me for it. This has left me with intense shame ever since. How do you get over something like this? I feel uncomfortable even when a sex scene comes on when watching TV with my wife. To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelU [https://sextokpod.com/anonymous-questions] Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com [https://www.chroniclebooks.com/] for 30% off! ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

S15 Ep. 2: Late Bloomers, Sex Toys for Him, and Sex on Camera

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m concerned about my daughter. She’s a virgin at 24. Once upon a time, a parent’s fear was teenage pregnancy. I’m worried because she’s not having sex at all. She’s beautiful, bright, funny, and has everything going for her, but has never had a boyfriend. I couldn’t wait to have sex. What’s going on, and should I talk about it with her? 2) My boyfriend and I love sex toys. We have lots of toys for me, but nothing for him. He’s not into anal play. Other than a penis ring, is there anything else I could treat him to? 3) I have a job that requires me to work in a different country quite frequently, often for three or four months at a time. Can you give some practical tips for intimate video calls? My wife is confused by what we’d do, and I don’t want it to feel awkward. Should we ‘finish’ on camera, or would that be too much? To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelU [https://sextokpod.com/anonymous-questions] Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com [https://www.chroniclebooks.com/] for 30% off! ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

S15 Ep. 1: Role-play, Am I Being Squeamish, and Meddling Friends

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Can you explain what role-playing games are? What would you recommend for guys, so it doesn’t come off as weird when I suggest it? I want something that women would find sexy and attractive. Also, do you really need to buy expensive costumes? 2) After I’ve had intercourse with my girlfriend, she often asks me to give her oral sex if she hasn’t had an orgasm. Am I being squeamish for not doing this? 3) How do you stop friends from meddling in your relationships? My friends dissect everything: how fast a guy texts back and the emojis he uses; they pour over his social media and put a negative spin on everything. I know they’re being protective because I’ve made some bad choices in the past, but they almost bully me into ending relationships they think I shouldn’t be in. I don’t want to lose their friendship, and I’ve asked them to butt out, but they continue to give unasked for opinions. To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelU [https://sextokpod.com/anonymous-questions] Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com [https://www.chroniclebooks.com/] for 30% off! ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

S14 Ep. 10: What Abstinence Does to Our Body and Mind, My Husband Left Me for a Younger Woman, and What Advice Would You Give Your Younger Self?

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My husband left me for a much younger woman. It happened two months ago, so the shock is wearing off, but I have no clue how to recover from this. I’m 51 and my husband is 55. He left me for a woman who is 30. 2) If you could go back in time and give advice to your younger self about sex, knowing what you know now, what would it be?   3) What do you think would happen if you stopped all sexual activity, including masturbation? Would you go insane? Is it different for men and women? I am a man and just curious—I’m not going to try this. To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelU [https://sextokpod.com/anonymous-questions] Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com [https://www.chroniclebooks.com/] for 30% off! ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.