Steve and Whyla's Non-monogamous Disaster Love Story

Fantasy Pushing (in the Bushing)

The episode also cites (pushes?) "Luke's Fantasy", from The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin, Ph.D., as first discussed in Episode 10. It is reproduced with permission here:  I’m at home in my apartment watching TV in my gym shorts when the doorbell rings. I can’t believe my eyes when a gorgeous fox is standing there. She’s my new neighbor and just stopped by to say hello. I eagerly invite her in. She’s drop-dead gorgeous in a silky nightgown that reveals every curve. Her waist is narrow, her hips wide and shapely. I watch her ass sway as she walks to my sofa. Long, auburn hair swoops down, partially covering the milky skin of her cleavage. I can’t help staring at nipples which show clearly through her gown. I’m fumbling for words when she slides closer to me and plays with my chest and stomach with her long fingernails. I pull her closer still as she grabs my dick. I feel a shiver go through her body. I invite her to the bedroom and lift the gown over her head, revealing an even more incredible body than I expected. She rips off my shorts and we fall into bed, fucking with uncontrollable abandon. She loves it when I plunge into her juicy pussy. Before I know it she’s coming wildly, screaming. Her reaction turns me on so much that I thrust faster and faster, coming, coming until I collapse on top of her, spent. After I calm down, I watch her slip into her gown, shake out her hair, and walk toward the door. “See ya later, neighbor, I AM OFF TO HAVE MORE SEX WITH ANY OTHER MAN WHO IS HOME,” she whispers as the door closes behind her. [all caps text, and emphasis, Steve's] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stevexwhyla.substack.com [https://stevexwhyla.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Go See Alice

Here are the articles we reference in this episode: In An Oversexed Age, More Guys Take a Pill By Warren St. John The New York Times December 14, 2003 https://www.nytimes.com/2003/12/14/style/in-an-oversexed-age-more-guys-take-a-pill.html [https://www.nytimes.com/2003/12/14/style/in-an-oversexed-age-more-guys-take-a-pill.html] ‘I was really struggling to get it up’: Why younger men are turning to Viagra By Ben Bryant The Independent August 4, 2022 https://www.the-independent.com/life-style/health-and-families/viagra-sildenafil-erectile-dysfunction-young-men-b2137943.html [https://www.the-independent.com/life-style/health-and-families/viagra-sildenafil-erectile-dysfunction-young-men-b2137943.html] 'They Take It Before Going To A Club': Why Viagra Is Being Used By A New Generation No longer just a drug for older men, Viagra is being used recreationally by boys in their prime. By Sophie Gallagher [https://www.huffingtonpost.in/author/sophie-gallagher] Huffington Post (UK) Apr 3, 2019 https://www.huffpost.com/archive/in/entry/they-take-it-before-going-to-a-club-why-viagra-is-being-used-by-a-new-generation_in_5ca4aae7e4b0ed0d780f3c83 [https://www.huffpost.com/archive/in/entry/they-take-it-before-going-to-a-club-why-viagra-is-being-used-by-a-new-generation_in_5ca4aae7e4b0ed0d780f3c83] How Erectile Dysfunction Pills Hooked Younger Guys The little blue pill isn’t a silver bullet for what ails young people’s sex live By Hayley MacMillen Elemental/Medium.com [http://Medium.com] Sept. 26, 2018 https://elemental.medium.com/how-erectile-dysfunction-pills-hooked-younger-guys-e8875a1c6067 [https://elemental.medium.com/how-erectile-dysfunction-pills-hooked-younger-guys-e8875a1c6067] Can ED Drugs Really Help Your Sex Life? Harvard Medical School January 9, 2025 https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/can-ed-drugs-really-help-your-sex-life [https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/can-ed-drugs-really-help-your-sex-life] The Little-Blue-Pill Problem By Hannah Pittard The Cut/New York Magazine June 27, 2025 https://www.thecut.com/article/how-viagra-changed-sex-for-older-women.html [https://www.thecut.com/article/how-viagra-changed-sex-for-older-women.html] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stevexwhyla.substack.com [https://stevexwhyla.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

A visit to the internet sex store

We took to this special little corner of the internet seeking…what, exactly? Arousal? Stimulation? To be admired? What we found instead was, rather limited. Thanks are due to all our interlocutors on the site. Many of you were cool and friendly. I hope you don’t miss us too much. Thanks for reading Steve and Whyla's Non-monogamous Disaster Love Story! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stevexwhyla.substack.com [https://stevexwhyla.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Give her the D (chord)

On the purported kinship between gay men, and straight women—the supposedly unifying experience of clucking and head-shaking at the antics of our men. Can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without ‘em, amirite? But what if there is no genuine solidarity there, because the pertinent fact is not whether you get with men, but whether you get to be a man? Whether, in fact, when you fall under the male gaze, he deems you fully human, or… not. Things referenced in the episode: Our continued parasocial relationship with Dan Savage [https://savage.love/], who makes a lot of claims that women act as they do around men because “They fear male violence” and why this misses this mark, and why it’s actually worse than that, and why even a gay man can’t understand that, because the gay bit is always subordinate to the man bit. Kaitlin Prest’s brutal and excellent podcast series “No [https://www.theheartradio.org/no-episodes],” from 2017. Christoph Hein’s 1982 novel The Distant Lover [https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/2624735]. Marie Howe’s poem “Sixth Grade [https://anotherhand.livejournal.com/56734.html]” from her book What the Living Do. Jacqueline Novak’s comedy special Get On Your Knees [https://www.netflix.com/title/81240800] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stevexwhyla.substack.com [https://stevexwhyla.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Book Club: More is Less

It’s been a rough year, and Steve noted that we managed to put out only one episode in all of 2024 (though I, peronally, put out substantially more often than that, as Steve will tell you). We are striving to make episodes more regularly in 2025, but for now, please enjoy our book club mashup of Erica Jong’s Fear of Flying, and Molly Roden Winter’s More: A Memoir of Open Marriage. Thanks for reading Steve and Whyla's Non-monogamous Disaster Love Story! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support our work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stevexwhyla.substack.com [https://stevexwhyla.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]