Surviving to Thriving

Jamy Bechler is a professional speaker and team consultant for teams ranging from the NBA to the Big Ten. As an independent John Maxwell certified motivational speaker, leadership trainer, and executive coach, he works with teams and businesses across the country helping them maximize their potential for success. He is the author of 6 eBooks and 3 published books, including “The Leadership Playbook: Become Your Team's Most Valuable Leader." Jamy is also the host of the Success is a Choice Podcast, interviewing thought-leaders from various industries. He is passionate about leadership and helping people develop, grow and maximize their potential for significant growth in their life. You can read more about some of these things at www.JamyBechler.com. This is the last part of our interview series with Jamy. Check out the previous 2 episodes to listen to the entire interview! [00:01 – 04:26] Jamy’s Humble Beginnings * This episode is sponsored by https://www.knightprotectionllc.com * Continue listening to Jamy Bechler * How circumstance affects one’s choices [04:27 – 14:01] Control the Controllables * The right way to push yourself to control the things you can * Why you should find people with a good work ethic * Jamy dispels this misguided notion about leadership * The wave analogy about leaders you need to hear [14:02 – 19:58] Win-Win Situation for All * What’s next for Jamy and his team? * The fictional book you should watch out for * Don’t miss Jamy’s message for his younger self * Wisdom over knowledge * Going through tough times? * Here’s Jamy’s advice for you [19:59 – 24:14] Closing Segment * Read this book highly suggested by Jamy * Connect with Jamy * Links below * Final announcements Tweetable Quotes: “Control the controllables because there’s enough in life that we can’t control.” - Jamy Bechler “Leadership is taking someone from where they are to where they need to be.” - Jamy Bechler “No matter what your status is…you can be a leader because you can help move people forward.” - Jamy Bechler Connect with Jamy: jamy@coachbechler.com [jamy@coachbechler.com] https://jamybechler.com/ [https://jamybechler.com/] https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamybechler/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamybechler/] https://www.facebook.com/JamyBechlerLeadership [https://www.facebook.com/JamyBechlerLeadership] twitter.com/coachbechler Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting https://knightprotectionllc.com/ [https://knightprotectionllc.com/]. For More Information About Surviving To Thriving: http://tothriving.org/ [http://tothriving.org/]

Jamy Bechler is a professional speaker and team consultant for teams ranging from the NBA to the Big Ten. As an independent John Maxwell certified motivational speaker, leadership trainer and executive coach, he works with teams and businesses across the country helping them maximize their potential for success. He is the author of 6 eBooks and 3 published books, including “The Leadership Playbook: Become Your Team's Most Valuable Leader." Jamy is also the host of the Success is a Choice Podcast, interviewing thought-leaders from various industries. He is passionate about leadership and helping people develop, grow and maximize their potential for significant growth in their life. You can read more about some of these things at www.JamyBechler.com. This is Part 2 of a 3-part interview series with Jamy. Tune in for the next episode! [00:01 – 03:25] Jamy’s Humble Beginnings * This episode is sponsored by https://www.knightprotectionllc.com * Let’s continue our interview with Jamy Bechler * Different perspectives among people [03:26 – 08:31] A Major Mistake Leaders Usually Commit * A major mistake that leaders commit according to Jamy * How to correct this mistake * How to build another person’s confidence as a coach * The power of telling people you believe in them [08:32 – 13:52] The Right Questions to Ask as a Coach * The questions to ask a student to help them improve * Jamy talks about his transition from sports to entrepreneurship * His experience on learning the business aspect of his work [13:53 – 18:55] Why Success is a Choice * Why Jamy aims to reach as many people as possible * The different services that Jamy offers to his clients * Here’s the reason Jamy believes that success is a choice [18:56 – 23:10] Closing Segment * Accumulating small wins throughout the day * Connect with Jamy * Links below * Final announcements Tweetable Quotes: “We just don’t stop to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes.” - Jamy Bechler “You gotta be prepared as a leader or a coach or whatever position you have to help out people. You have to be ready with a couple of different suggestions...” - Jamy Bechler “We are, a lot of times, the sum of our choices or decisions. We become our habits.” - Jamy Bechler Connect with Jamy: jamy@coachbechler.com [jamy@coachbechler.com] https://jamybechler.com/ [https://jamybechler.com/] https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamybechler/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamybechler/] https://www.facebook.com/JamyBechlerLeadership [https://www.facebook.com/JamyBechlerLeadership] Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting https://knightprotectionllc.com/ [https://knightprotectionllc.com/]. For More Information About Surviving To Thriving: http://tothriving.org/ [http://tothriving.org/]

Jamy Bechler is a professional speaker and team consultant for teams ranging from the NBA to the Big Ten. As an independent John Maxwell certified motivational speaker, leadership trainer and executive coach, he works with teams and businesses across the country helping them maximize their potential for success. He is the author of 6 eBooks and 3 published books, including “The Leadership Playbook: Become Your Team's Most Valuable Leader." Jamy is also the host of the Success is a Choice Podcast, interviewing thought-leaders from various industries. He is passionate about leadership and helping people develop, grow and maximize their potential for significant growth in their life. You can read more about some of these things at www.JamyBechler.com. This is the first episode of a 3-part interview series with Jamy. Tune in for the next episode! [00:01 – 05:46] Jamy’s Humble Beginnings * This episode is sponsored by https://www.knightprotectionllc.com * Let’s get to know Jamy Bechler * Why he is passionate about leadership * Why he coaches people to reach their full potential * The English teacher who changed Jamy’s life [05:47 – 10:42] Teaching Life, Coaching Basketball * How Jamy decided that he wanted to coach people * The role of coaches in Jamy’s life when he was in school * Teaching life lessons through coaching basketball * The epiphany that Jamy realized in his life [10:43 – 15:20] Understanding People, Making Them Feel Special * Jamy shares his thoughts about exploring the world out there * A lesson from the movie, “The Croods” * He reveals his secret on how he learns new things in life * The reality about committing mistakes according to Jamy * How to treat people the right way * Making them feel special [15:21 – 20:40] Knowing People, Building Relationships * How opportunities opened up for Jamy * Jamy shares his thoughts when he coached for the first time * The difference between coaching men and women * Jamy talks about one of his biggest mistakes as a coach [20:41 – 21:04] Closing Segment * Connect with Jamy * Final announcements Tweetable Quotes: “Most of the time, we want to be a part of something bigger than ourselves.” - Jamy Bechler “I’ve always been one that’s tried to learn from others.” - Jamy Bechler “It really doesn’t matter what profession we’re in, what job we’re in, we’re going to be dealing with people.” - Jamy Bechler Connect with Jamy: jamy@coachbechler.com [jamy@coachbechler.com] https://jamybechler.com/ [https://jamybechler.com/] https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamybechler/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamybechler/] https://www.facebook.com/JamyBechlerLeadership [https://www.facebook.com/JamyBechlerLeadership] Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting https://knightprotectionllc.com/ [https://knightprotectionllc.com/]. For More Information About Surviving To Thriving: http://tothriving.org/ [http://tothriving.org/]

Dr. Debi Silber, President of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and founder of https://thepbtinstitute.com and helps people heal from Post Betrayal Syndrome which impacts their work, health and relationships. She is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, personal development expert. She's an award-winning and 2 time TEDx speaker, coach and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis, The Unshakable Woman-The Workbook (the companion guide to the book) as well as 2 books recommended by Brian Tracy, Marshall Goldsmith, Jack Canfield and many more. Debi has contributed to FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz show, The Huffington Post, Shape, Self, Health, Working Mother, Forbes, Psychology Today, WebMD, Yahoo Shine, Ladies Home Journal, MSN, Woman's World and Glamour to name a few. Her study on betrayal led to 3 groundbreaking discoveries-teaching people how to prevent repeat betrayals while changing how long it takes to heal (physically/mentally/emotionally)...once and for all. This is part 2 of our interview with Dr. Debi Silber. Check out the previous episode for Part 1. [00:01 – 02:25] Certifying Coaches and Therapists * This episode is sponsored by https://www.knightprotectionllc.com * We continue our interview with Dr. Debi [02:26 – 06:17] Why Tell Ourselves the Truth * Dr. Debi tells us the benefits of being honest with ourselves * Here’s what will happen if we do nothing * This is what will happen if tell ourselves the truth * The reason Dr. Debi wrote her book, “Trust Again” [06:18 – 16:40] How to Trust Again * The first step is to trust the most basic thing you can trust * Here’s how * The role of trusting your gut according to Dr. Debi * “What does trust feel like?” * Dr. Debi explains why rebuilding something is always a choice * How to deal with narcissism according to Dr. Debi * Know more about Dr. Debi’s work by availing her books! * Links below * What’s next for Dr. Debi? * Don’t miss her message for her younger self! [16:41 – 18:40] Closing Segment * Connect with Dr. Debi * Final announcements Tweetable Quotes: “Transformation begins when you tell yourself the truth.” - Dr. Debi Silber “What we teach is rebuilding is always a choice.” - Dr. Debi Silber “Even though it happened to you, it’s not about you.” - Dr. Debi Silber Connect with Dr. Debi Reach Dr. Debi on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/] Visit her website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/about-debi-6/ [https://thepbtinstitute.com/about-debi-6/] Books * The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis by Dr. Debi Silber [https://www.amazon.com/Unshakable-Woman-Steps-Rebuilding-Crisis-ebook/dp/B01N5SHR28/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1485902403&sr=8-1&keywords=the+unshakable+woman] * Trust Again [https://thepbtinstitute.com/trustagain/] Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting https://knightprotectionllc.com/ [https://knightprotectionllc.com/]. For More Information About Surviving To Thriving: http://tothriving.org/ [http://tothriving.org/]

Dr. Debi Silber, President of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and founder of https://thepbtinstitute.com and helps people heal from Post Betrayal Syndrome which impacts their work, health and relationships. She is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, personal development expert. She's an award-winning and 2 time TEDx speaker, coach and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis, The Unshakable Woman-The Workbook (the companion guide to the book) as well as 2 books recommended by Brian Tracy, Marshall Goldsmith, Jack Canfield and many more. Debi has contributed to FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz show, The Huffington Post, Shape, Self, Health, Working Mother, Forbes, Psychology Today, WebMD, Yahoo Shine, Ladies Home Journal, MSN, Woman's World and Glamour to name a few. Her study on betrayal led to 3 groundbreaking discoveries-teaching people how to prevent repeat betrayals while changing how long it takes to heal (physically/mentally/emotionally)...once and for all. This is part 1 of a 2 part interview with Dr. Debi Silber. Stay tuned for our next episode [00:01 – 06:49] The Real Key For Deep Mind Integration * This episode is sponsored by https://www.knightprotectionllc.com * Getting to know Dr. Debi * Dr. Debi’s major career pivot; From TV to transpersonal psychology [06:50 – 11:56] 3 Groundbreaking Discoveries * Post Betrayal Transformation: post-traumatic growth plus rebuilding self * What is betrayal? * Many people are prevented from leaving toxic situations because they don’t want to face themselves * Post-Betrayal Syndrome * Time does NOT heal all things * There are 5 proven predictable stages from betrayal to healing [11:57 – 19:39] The 5 stages of Post Betrayal Transformation * Stage 1: The imbalance of the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual * Stage 2: Shock * Stage 3: Survival * Stage 4: Finding and adjusting to a new normal * Stage 5: Healing, Rebirth and a New Worldview [19:40 – 22:33] Closing Segment * The difference between PTSD and PBT * Connect with Dr. Debi * Stay tuned to Part 2! Tweetable Quotes: “Betrayal is the breaking of a spoken or unspoken rule.” - Dr. Debi Silber “The more we trust and the more we depend on someone, the bigger the betrayal.” - Dr. Debi Silber “You don't have to stay stuck, but it certainly wasn't your fault. It happened to you, but it's not about you.” -  Dr. Debi Silber Connect with Dr. Debi Reach Dr. Debi on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/] Visit her website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/about-debi-6/ [https://thepbtinstitute.com/about-debi-6/] Books: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis by Dr. Debi Silber [https://www.amazon.com/Unshakable-Woman-Steps-Rebuilding-Crisis-ebook/dp/B01N5SHR28/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1485902403&sr=8-1&keywords=the+unshakable+woman] Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting https://knightprotectionllc.com/ [https://knightprotectionllc.com/]. For More Information About Surviving To Thriving: http://tothriving.org/ [http://tothriving.org/]