The Agewyz Podcast

Dr. Pauline Boss on The Grief That Has No End

The Coronavirus pandemic has forced many residential care facilities to go on lockdown and implement “no visitor” policies.  As a result, family members with loved ones in care facilities are feeling a heightened sense of “ambiguous loss”—a term coined by pioneering educator and researcher Dr. Pauline Boss to describe a form of never-ending grief.  Common in caregivers of family members with Alzheimer's and other forms of dementia, this feeling of grief arises because the person with dementia is “there but not there.”  Another form of ambiguous loss was noted by Dr. Boss in the early 1970s, when she interviewed family members of pilots who were missing in action during the Vietnam War.  These family members were unable to “let go” of their loved ones because they did not know whether the pilot was dead or alive.  Dr. Boss elaborates on both forms of ambiguous loss and tells us how she has experienced it in her own life.  She offers suggestions for how to lower stress levels and increase our tolerance for ambiguity, for caregivers and non-caregivers alike who are now confronting new and confusing relationships, ruptured by dementia and social distancing. Note: this episode originally aired on May 30, 2019. To purchase a transcript of this episode please click here: Episode #171 [https://agewyz.com/shop/] Explore the work of Dr. Pauline Boss: Ambiguous Loss [https://www.ambiguousloss.com/] New from Agewyz Media! Life Stories for the Ages [https://ifundwomen.com/projects/life-stories-ages-gift-lifetime] Subscribe to The Agewyz Podcast:iTunes [https://apple.co/2IVrwhS] Got a story to share? Email us any time at jana@agewyz.com [jana@agewyz.com] Music: "Arashi" by Kakurenbo | CC BY NC | Free Music Archive

Nancy Picard: Caregiving in a Crisis

Like many adult children, psychologist Nancy Picard is determined to prevent her aging parents from contracting Covid-19.  But Nancy and her parents live in separate states.  So she's in daily communication with them, and has wired up their house with cameras placed at strategic locations - at foot level, to give her parents some privacy.  A returned Peace Corps volunteer who has supported people from age four to 94 as a clinician and researcher, Nancy also focuses on supporting people's needs for reminders through her health care startup, MemoryBeach.  As a psychologist and as a daughter who has cared for her elderly parents, Nancy understand the stresses of the moment and how everyday can feel incredibly long.  She's here to offer comfort and advice to caregivers, for surviving as individuals with their own needs, and as sons and daughters  tasked with filling the needs of family members and friends. To purchase a transcript of this episode please visit this page: Transcripts [https://agewyz.com/shop/]. Explore Nancy's startup:MemoryBeach [https://memorybeach.com/] Learn more about Life Stories for the Ages:Capture a Story. Connect the Generations. [https://ifundwomen.com/projects/life-stories-ages-gift-lifetime]

Eugenia Zukerman: Like Falling Through a Cloud

Renowned flutist Eugenia Zukerman has performed in concerts and recitals all over the world.  She was the artistic director of Colorado's Bravo! Vail Valley Music Festival for 13 years, and the arts correspondent for CBS Sunday Morning for over 25 years.  And then in her early 70s, Eugenia was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease.  Instead of crawling into a corner, she picked up paper and pencil and started writing - in poetry.  She has no idea why she wrote in verse, but the words flowed and resulted in her vivid new memoir, “Like Falling Through a Cloud: A Lyrical Memoir of Coping with Forgetfulness, Confusion and a Dreaded Diagnosis.”  Eugenia tells us how she stays positive despite her "gnarly" disease and about how she and her husband Dick are making every moment in life count, whether on tour with "Like Falling Through a Cloud" or among the bears and deers in their upstate New York house.  Dick tells us about his experience of Eugenia's diagnosis, and she reads from "Like Falling Through a Cloud. "  Tune in for a tale of love and the incredible power of music. To purchase a transcript of this episode please visit this page: Transcripts [https://agewyz.com/shop/]. Eugenia's website:Like Falling Through a Cloud [https://www.eugeniazukerman.com/] Facebook page:Eugenia on FB [https://www.facebook.com/carolyn.nash.14661]

Jason Resendez: LatinosAgainstAlzheimer's

Growing up in Alice, Texas, Jason Resendez didn't have any experience with Alzheimer's disease and other forms of dementia.   But more recently dementia has started to become an issue in his family.  Now the issue has come full circle: as Executive Director of the LatinosAgainstAlzheimer's Network, all Jason thinks about are the changing demographics in the Alzheimer's community, and in our nation.  That's because the number of Latinos in the US over age 65 is set to triple by the year 2050, when the care and treatment of Latinos with Alzheimer's disease will be a critical health equity issue.  Jason tells us how LatinosAgainstAlzheimer's is coordinating Alzheimer's awareness and brain health promotion efforts in the Latino community, where individuals have unique barriers to the health care system, or issues around stigma and language access that other communities don't necessarily have. To purchase a transcript of this episode please visit this page: Transcripts [https://agewyz.com/shop/]. Connect:LatinosAgainstAlzheimer's [https://www.usagainstalzheimers.org/networks/latinos] Report: Latinos & Alzheimer's Disease: New Numbers Behind the Crisis [https://agewyz.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/Latinos-and-AD_USC_UsA2-Impact-Report.pdf] "Celebrating the Power of Memory with Disney's Pixar's Coco" [https://medium.com/@jhoya86/celebrating-the-power-of-memory-with-disneys-pixar-s-coco-98496cf86b8b] (Jason Resendez, 10/30/19, Medium) NEW from Agewyz Media!Life Stories for the Ages [https://www.lifestoriesfortheages.com/] Subscribe to The Agewyz Podcast: iTunes [https://apple.co/2IVrwhS] Got a story to share? Email us any time atjana@agewyz.com [jana@agewyz.com] Music: "Feels Like Fuzz in My Head" by Dlay | | CC BY NC ND | Free Music Archive "Tomoshibi" by Kakurenbo | | CC BY NC | Free Music Archive

Leslie Gray Streeter: Black Widow

Veteran writer Leslie Gray Streeter established a loyal readership through herPalm Beach Postcolumn, "That Girl." Now a general entertainment columnist at thePost,her writing for the newspaper began in the early 2000s and eventually included mentions of Scott Zervitz, referred to in Leslie's column as The Gentleman Friend when she and Scott were dating, and The Mister after they married.  Baltimore natives who went to the same high school but didn't know each other well at the time, Leslie and Scott had re-met after 20 years and become soul mates for life. But tragedy struck in 2015, when 44-year-old Scott died of a heart attack and Leslie became a widow.  By her own admission, she was not cut out for the role.  Five years after Scott's death, Leslie shares her moving love story and twisty path through grief and loss toward healing in her new memoir,Black Widow: A Sad-Funny Journey Through Grief for People Who Normally Avoid Books with Words Like "Journey" in the Title [https://www.amazon.com/Black-Widow-Sad-Funny-Journey-Normally/dp/0316490717/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=leslie+gray+streeter&qid=1580929021&sr=8-1].  On the show and in print, Leslie has a few things to say about grief.  Aging, too. To purchase a transcript of this episode please visit this page: Transcripts [https://agewyz.com/shop/] BuyBlack Widow:Amazon [https://www.amazon.com/Black-Widow-Sad-Funny-Normally-%C2%BFJourney%C2%BF-ebook/dp/B07V36GSY8/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=black+widow+leslie+gray+streeter&qid=1563914169&s=gateway&sr=8-1]|Barnes and Noble [https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/black-widow-leslie-gray-streeter/1132404619#/] Leslie's website:Leslie Gray Streeter [https://lesliegraystreeter.com/] Columns in the Palm Beach Post:PB Post [https://www.palmbeachpost.com/topics/leslie-gray-streeter] NEW from Agewyz Media!Life Stories for the Ages [https://www.lifestoriesfortheages.com/] Subscribe to The Agewyz Podcast:iTunes [https://apple.co/2IVrwhS] Got a story to share? Email us any time atjana@agewyz.com [jana@agewyz.com]