The Notion of You

Episode 27: Becoming the Woman You Trust

BECOMING THE WOMAN YOU TRUST: SYSTEMS & RITUALS THAT SUPPORT HER Episode Snapshot: If you’ve been trying to “be consistent” but keep falling off, you’re not broken, your nervous system is asking for safety, not more pressure. In this episode, we’ll build a simple set of systems + rituals that help you return to yourself and become the woman you trust, one small comeback at a time. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN * Why self-trust is a felt experience (not just a mindset) * The 3-layer framework: regulation, ritual, and systems * How to build 2–3 “anchors” you can return to on hard days * A simple Notion setup: your Self‑Trust Anchors page * How natural tools (like oils + breath) can support regulation through association Key Moments 0:00 — Opening grounding + honoring who you’re becoming 2:00 — Why we “know what to do” but don’t feel safe enough to do it 4:49 — The 3 layers of self‑trust support (overview) 10:47 — Systems + Notion: build your Self‑Trust Anchors page 13:12 — Integration + closing: choose your anchor this week THE LESSON * Regulation: self-trust starts in your body * Ritual: anchors beat willpower (2–3 returns you can repeat) * Systems: structure protects your energy (reduces friction + decision fatigue) * Audit: notice the pattern → choose a ritual → build a system that supports the right choice * Create your “Self‑Trust Anchors” page in Notion as your home base QUOTE WORTH REMEMBERING "YOU ARE ALREADY BECOMING THE WOMAN YOU TRUST." This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework. A four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → **Read the full framework here [https://tashijones.com/about/].** Listen to These Episodes Next * Ep. 26: When You Fall Off Your Practices (Again) [https://tashijones.com/podcast/episode-26-when-you-fall-off-your-practices-again/] * Ep. 24: Self‑Trust in Transitions: Morning, After Work, and Bedtime [https://tashijones.com/podcast/episode-24-self-trust-in-transitions-morning-after-work-and-bedtime/] Links & Resources * From Burnout to Alignment [https://payhip.com/b/q2wML] — your support system for the journey back to yourself * Scattered to Steady workbook [https://subscribepage.io/RRVy9z] — a free resource for creating calm in the chaos CHOOSE ONE ANCHOR FOR THIS WEEK, ONE BREATH, ONE RITUAL, ONE TINY RETURN, AND PRACTICE IT AS A PROMISE TO YOURSELF.

Episode 26: When You Fall Off Your Practices (Again)

STARTING OVER DOESN’T NEED TO FEEL LIKE SHAME; IT CAN FEEL LIKE COMING HOME. Episode Snapshot: Falling off self-care practices without shame is possible, and it starts with a gentle return rather than self-attack. If you keep “falling off” your practices, breathwork, oils, journaling, Notion, routines, this episode is your reminder: you’re not broken, you’re human. We’ll talk about why your nervous system defaults under pressure, how shame keeps you stuck, and the simple way to return with kindness so self-trust can grow again. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN * Why inconsistency is often a nervous system signal—not a character flaw * The 3-step Reset Protocol: Notice → Normalize → Choose * How to rebuild safety through breath when you feel braced, heavy, or stuck * How to create a “Return to Self” menu in Notion that supports you on hard days Key Moments 0:00 The messy middle: “I just can’t be consistent.” 3:14 When your body stops believing you’re safe (and you’re still doing “all the things”) 8:22 The Reset Protocol: Notice → Normalize → Choose 14:09 Notion support: a “Return to Self” page that’s a menu, not a to-do list 20:56 Integration practice: choose one tiny restart and make it repeatable THE LESSON * Your nervous system will reach for what’s familiar under pressure, return is the real work * Notice without shame: tell the truth (“I fell off”) before you spiral * Normalize the human pattern so you can stop self-attacking and start repairing * Choose one tiny restart your body can say yes to (awareness first, perfection later) * Self-trust grows in the return, not in perfection * Falling off self-care practices without shame: the reset protocol QUOTE WORTH REMEMBERING "SELF-TRUST GROWS IN THE RETURN, NOT IN PERFECTION." This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework. A four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → **Read the full framework here [https://tashijones.com/about/].** Links & Resources * From Burnout to Alignment [https://payhip.com/b/q2wML] — your support system for the journey back to yourself * Scattered to Steady workbook [https://subscribepage.io/RRVy9z] — a free resource for creating calm in the chaos IF YOU’VE BEEN TRYING TO “FIX YOURSELF” WITH DISCIPLINE, THIS IS YOUR INVITATION TO BUILD A SUPPORT SYSTEM INSTEAD. START WITH ONE TINY RESTART TODAY, THEN KEEP COMING BACK. AND IF YOU WANT A DEEPER, GENTLER STRUCTURE FOR RETURNING TO YOURSELF, RETURN TO WHOLENESS IS HERE TO SUPPORT YOU.

Episode 25: Your Identity Beyond Roles

Episode Snapshot: If you’ve ever felt proud of your roles and quietly flattened by them, this episode is for you. You’ll learn how to reconnect with who you are beyond what you do, and how that shift becomes a real, grounded practice of self-trust. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN * The difference between a role (what you do) and identity (who you are) * Why role-perfectionism can feel like pressure, procrastination, or imposter syndrome * 3 prompts to help you remember your identity when you feel boxed in * A simple framework to come back to yourself: Remember → Name → Reclaim Key Moments 0:00 Why “quick bios” can make you feel boxed in 3:39 The pride + flatness of roles, and what your body is telling you 9:09 Role-perfectionism: the pressure to be the “perfect” version of the title 12:40 Remember → Name → Reclaim: a framework to reconnect with your core self 18:50 Integration practice: your identity date + the “Me Library” in Notion THE LESSON * Roles are important, but they’re not your whole self, and your body knows when you’re shrinking to fit a box. * Perfectionism around roles is often protection, but it can become a cage that keeps you from being seen. * Identity is something you remember, not something you manufacture; start with what has always been true in you. * Self-trust grows through momentum without weight: one small honest action that proves “I’m allowed to be me.” * Build a nervous-system-safe container (in Notion and in your body) so you can return to yourself when you feel boxed in. QUOTE WORTH REMEMBERING "YOU CAN BE PROUD OF YOUR ROLES WITHOUT LIVING INSIDE THEM LIKE CAGES." This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework. A four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here [https://tashijones.com/about/]. Links & Resources * From Burnout to Alignment [https://payhip.com/b/q2wML] — your support system for the journey back to yourself * Scattered to Steady workbook [https://subscribepage.io/RRVy9z] — a free resource for creating calm in the chaos IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU’VE LOST YOURSELF INSIDE YOUR ROLES, START WITH ONE SMALL “IDENTITY DATE” THIS WEEK, THEN JOT ONE SENTENCE ABOUT WHAT YOU NOTICED. AND IF YOU’RE READY FOR DEEPER SUPPORT, FROM BURNOUT TO ALIGNMENT IS YOUR DOORWAY BACK TO TRUSTING YOURSELF AGAIN.

Episode 24: Self‑Trust in Transitions: Morning, After Work, and Bedtime

WHEN YOU STOP SKIPPING THE DOORWAYS, EVERYTHING CHANGES. Episode Snapshot: You're not falling apart between your roles — you're just skipping the transitions. In this episode, Tashi walks through three transition rituals for moms that work with your nervous system, not against it, so you can close one chapter before opening the next and actually show up for yourself, your kids, and your work. What You'll Learn * Why your nervous system can't reset automatically when you switch roles * What it means that transitions are "regulation opportunities" — and what happens when you skip them * How to create a micro-ritual for each of the three main doorways: morning, midday, and evening * How Notion can hold your daily rhythm so your brain doesn't have to * How to pair a specific oil with each transition so your body learns to switch modes through scent Key Moments 0:00 — Welcome + who this episode is for 3:30 — The story: this morning, a crib, and a lost buffer 10:00 — Why skipping transitions doesn’t save time — it costs you presence 17:00 — The three doorways: morning, midday, and evening rituals 26:00 — Your oils, your Notion, and your one practice this week The Lesson * You don’t skip transitions to save time — you skip them and spend the rest of the day carrying what you didn’t process * Your nervous system can’t switch modes on command; it needs a deliberate signal that one chapter is closing and another is beginning * The goal isn’t a perfect routine — it’s one repeatable micro-ritual at each doorway that your body learns to trust over time * “Good enough” transitions on the hard days are still transitions; even a fragment of the ritual counts * When your systems hold the structure, your brain is freed to be present — that’s the real payoff of gentle organization QUOTE WORTH REMEMBERING YOU DON'T NEED A NEW LIFE — JUST NEW TRANSITIONS. This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework. A four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here [https://tashijones.com/about/]. Links & Resources * From Burnout to Alignment [https://payhip.com/b/q2wML] — your support system for the journey back to yourself * Scattered to Steady workbook [https://subscribepage.io/RRVy9z] — a free resource for creating calm in the chaos THIS WEEK: HESE TRANSITION RITUALS FOR MOMS ARE NERVOUS SYSTEM TOOLS, NOT TO-DO LIST ADDITIONS. CHOOSE ONE DOORWAY, ADD ONE MICRO-RITUAL, AND DO IT IMPERFECTLY FOR SEVEN DAYS. NOTICE WHAT SHIFTS.

Episdde 23: Self-Compassion in the Messy Middle

WHEN YOU'RE DOING ALL THE WORK, AND IT STILL DOESN'T FEEL LIKE IT'S WORKING. Episode Snapshot: If you've ever whispered you should be further along by now, this episode is for you. Self-compassion in the messy middle is not about giving up — it's the one practice that makes staying in your growth process actually possible. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN * Why healing and personal growth are not linear — and what the "messy middle" actually means * How harsh self-talk keeps you stuck in a cycle of shame and disconnection * A simple three-part compassion script you can use the next time the inner critic gets loud * How to build a Notion Compassion File to track your own resilience over time * One small, practical integration step to rebuild self-trust this week Key Moments: 0:00 Welcome and grounding: this episode is for the part of you that whispers you should be further along Tashi's personal story: two years of infertility, ignoring her body's signals, and the spiral of self-criticism What the messy middle really is, and why you are not behind The three-part Compassion Script: Of course I feel . It makes sense because . What do I need right now? Integration practice: how to build your own Compassion File in Notion and use it once this week THE LESSON: SELF-COMPASSION IN THE MESSY MIDDLE COMES DOWN TO FIVE CORE SHIFTS. * Growth is not linear — and that's not a problem. The messy middle is the space between who you were and who you're becoming. It is not evidence that something has gone wrong. It is the most necessary part of the process. * Self-criticism is not discipline. Harsh self-talk does not push you forward. It keeps you spinning in the same exhausted circle — doing more, trusting yourself less, and getting more disconnected from the signals your body is sending you. * Self-compassion is what makes staying possible. Compassion is not a shortcut or a bypass. It is the practice that allows you to remain in the process long enough for the process to actually work. * The three-part Compassion Script gives you something to reach for. Of course I feel . Acknowledge it without judgment. It makes sense because . Witness your own experience. What do I need right now? Start to rebuild self-trust one honest answer at a time. * Small, consistent anchors regulate your nervous system. Whether it's a Notion Compassion File that holds evidence of your own resilience, or a comfort oil ritual that signals safety to your body — practical tools matter. Your nervous system learns through repetition. QUOTE WORTH REMEMBERING YOU CAN BE A WORK IN PROGRESS AND STILL BE WORTHY OF KINDNESS. This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework — a four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here [https://tashijones.com/about/]. LINKS & RESOURCES Free resource: Scattered to Steady Workbook [https://tashijones.com] — your first step toward getting out of overwhelm and into a calmer, more grounded daily rhythm. This episode supports: From Burnout to Alignment [https://tashijones.com] — not a quick fix, but a companion for the woman who is ready to stop pushing and start listening. If the messy middle feels like where you live right now, this is the support system I built for you. You did the work today — you showed up, you listened, and you chose yourself. If one line from this episode landed for you, share your compassion script with me. I'd love to hear it.