The Real Connect

How Women Lose Themselves in Marriage, Motherhood, and Life (And How to Get Yourself Back) With Patrice Cameau (S2, Ep18)

If you keep giving to everyone else without staying connected to yourself, eventually something will start to feel off. In this episode of The Real Connect Podcast, Tamika Carlton sits down with Patrice Cameau for a real conversation about self-connection, boundaries, motherhood, marriage, solo time, and what it actually looks like to come back to yourself when life keeps pulling you in every direction. Patrice is a wellness advocate for busy working mothers, a communications expert with over 20 years of experience, and a trailblazing entrepreneur. She is the founder of CAMPspace, one of the first content creation studios designed to help creators and entrepreneurs tell their stories authentically. Today, Patrice focuses on empowering women, especially mothers, to prioritize themselves unapologetically and build lives that support both their ambitions and their well-being. Patrice opens up about being a wife, a mother of three, and a woman who has learned that staying connected to herself is not selfish; it’s necessary. From navigating marriage and motherhood to losing herself in the demands of life, closing a business, going to therapy, prioritizing movement, and taking solo trips, this conversation is a reminder that knowing who you are is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. What You Will Hear About In This Episode: 1. Why staying connected to yourself matters in marriage, motherhood, and everyday life 2. What “losing yourself” can actually look like and how to recognize it before it goes too far 3. Why boundaries, solitude, and self-care are not selfish 4. How stress, anxiety, and emotional overload can begin to show up in the body 5. The role movement, therapy, and routine can play in healing and recentering yourself 6. Why solo time and solo travel can be powerful tools for self-connection 7. How knowing yourself better helps you show up more fully in every other relationship If you’ve been feeling stretched thin, disconnected from yourself, or like life has been asking more from you than you’ve had space to give, this episode is for you. 🔗 Watch, subscribe, and share this episode. Connect with Patrice Cameau: https://www.patricecameau.com/ Connect with Patrice on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/patricecameau/ Connect with Tamika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamika_carltonjbp Join The Connect (free weekly newsletter): https://www.tamikacarlton.com/newsletter Visit Tamika’s website: https://www.tamikacarlton.com 00:00 Podcast Welcome and Patience 02:07 DMV Roots and Beach Dreams 04:38 Marriage Growth and Two Worlds 07:23 Motherhood and Losing Yourself 11:10 Turning 40 and Doing the Work 13:38 Therapy and Letting Go 14:33 Closing CAMPspace 19:39 Options Boundaries and Routines 26:43 Solo Trips and Recharging 31:25 Is It Selfish 43:56 Family Lessons And Parenting 50:50 Speed Round And Farewell #TheRealConnect #SelfCare #Boundaries #Motherhood #HealingJourney #WomenAndWellness #SoloTravel #SelfConnection

Judging People by First Impressions (and Why It’s Costing You Opportunities) With Tamika Carlton, Vincent Tobias Bell and Logan (S2, Ep17)

Quick reality check: your next opportunity might be inside the person you negatively judged in just 3 seconds. In this episode of The Real Connect Podcast, Tamika Carlton sits down with the infamous crew, Logan and Vincent Tobias Bell, for a real conversation about the “judgy judge” world: how people assess you off your clothes, your voice, your background, your job title… before they ever learn your heart. The crew reflects on childhood, what it feels like to be the “different” one in the room, and how judgment can quietly silence people before they ever get the chance to fully show up. They also talk about how that silence can block growth, connection, and opportunity. From being labeled a nerd, to navigating identity, to feeling the side-eye in unfamiliar spaces, this conversation is a reminder that many of the most impactful people you’ll ever meet may not look like who you expected them to be. Here’s the truth we keep coming back to: Judgment is expensive. It costs you relationships, experiences, and access. From cultural travel experiences and counter-culture lifestyles to navigating appearance-driven industries and using your voice even when you know people will judge you, this episode dives into what it really means to see people beyond the surface. If you keep judging the shell, you’ll miss the soul. What You Will Hear About: 1. Why judgment often starts in childhood and follows us into adulthood. 2. What it feels like to know you’re being judged, even when nobody says it out loud. 3. Why “everybody judges” and how to stop letting that reality control you. 4. How fear of being judged can quietly block friendships and experiences. 5. Navigating appearance-driven industries while staying authentic. 6. Why money, intelligence, and opportunity rarely look the way people assume. 7. How to train yourself to see beyond first impressions: play the long game, dive deeper, ask better questions. If you’ve ever felt overlooked, misunderstood, or judged before you even spoke, or if you’re ready to stop doing that to other people, this episode is for you. 🔗 Watch, subscribe, and share this episode. Connect with Vincent Tobias Bell on Instagram: https://instagram.com/vincenttobiasbell [https://instagram.com/vincenttobiasbell] Connect with Tamika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamika_carltonjbp [https://www.instagram.com/tamika_carltonjbp] Join The Connect (free weekly newsletter): https://www.tamikacarlton.com/newsletter [https://www.instagram.com/tamika_carltonjbp] Visit Tamika’s website: https://www.tamikacarlton.com [https://www.instagram.com/tamika_carltonjbp] 00:00 Why We Judge 00:35 Meet The Crew 02:15 Logan’s Childhood Lessons 04:16 Vincent Coming Out 05:28 Everyone’s Judging 06:18 Travel And Culture Clash 09:13 Beauty Without Judgment 11:06 Finding Your Voice 14:28 Logan Speaks Up Anyway 17:27 Vincent Truth Mode 19:17 Handling Judgment 20:25 Judgment Is Projection 21:18 Roots And Perspective 21:54 Stop Judging by Appearances 22:36 Everyone Brings Value 23:25 Status Culture in DC 24:23 Atlanta Dating and Transactional Vibes 25:33 Finding the Counterculture 26:55 Different Experiences and Travel 29:50 Why People Judge and Conform 30:34 Letting Go of Others' Opinions 33:29 Train Past First Impressions 36:50 Speed Round Judgments 39:10 Final Takeaway: Do Better #RealConnection #TheRealConnect #HumanConnection #StopJudging #EmotionalIntelligence #AuthenticConversations #DeepConversations #PodcastConversations

Elopement vs. Traditional Wedding and What's Right For You With Kate Okenatez-Mahoney (S2, Ep16)

Have you ever wondered if the wedding is getting more attention than the marriage? Eloping used to sound like “run to the courthouse in secret”… but in this episode of The Real Connect Podcast, Tamika Carlton sits down with Kate Okenatez-Mahoney, founder of Soul and Sky Weddings, to flip that whole narrative. Kate specializes in adventure elopements—think Alaska glaciers, mountaintops, national parks, and even cliffside ceremonies that require rock climbing to reach. This conversation is about intention, boundaries, and choosing a love story that feels like yours (not your aunt’s, not your mom’s, not Instagram’s). Kate breaks down what modern elopements actually look like, how couples navigate family pressure, why private vows can be a game-changer, and the mindset shift that turns “we can’t” into “we just have to turn a little bit.” What You Will Hear About: 1. What a “modern elopement” really is. 2. Why Kate believes eloping is often a more intentional way to marry. 3. The real difference between planning a wedding for others vs. designing an experience for your relationship. 4. How couples handle family opinions, guilt, and boundaries. 5. Multi-day elopements: family day vs. private vow day. 6. Kate’s “villain origin story.” 7. Why Alaska is the ultimate elopement backdrop. 8. The “True North” planning exercise 9. Why “extraordinary” matters, and why you don’t have time to settle on your day. If you’re anticipating the strife of wedding planning or thinking about eloping, or feeling pulled between what you want and what everyone expects, this episode is for you. 🔗 Watch, subscribe, and share this episode if you’re trying to love better, set real boundaries, and stay connected. Connect with Kate/Soul and Sky Weddings: https://soulandskyweddings.com/ Connect with Kate on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kate-okenatez-mahoney/ Connect with Kate/Soul and Sky Weddings on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/soulandskyweddings Connect with Tamika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamika_carltonjbp Join The Connect (free weekly newsletter): https://www.tamikacarlton.com/newsletter Visit Tamika’s website: https://www.tamikacarlton.com 00:00 The Essence of Eloping 00:36 Introduction to the Podcast 01:02 Meet Kate: The Adventurous Elopement Photographer 02:55 The True Meaning of Elopement 05:41 Why Alaska? 06:50 The Origin Story: From Traditional to Adventurous 08:23 The Unique Challenges and Joys of Elopements 11:50 Finding the Right Clients 13:52 Creating Memorable Experiences 16:51 Balancing Family Expectations and Personal Desires 20:05 The Importance of Boundaries and Personal Vision 25:15 Elopement and Reception Ideas 26:11 Choosing Between Elopement and Traditional Weddings 27:59 The Importance of Extraordinary Weddings 29:00 Transition from Corporate HR to Photography 31:10 Embracing Change and Adventure 43:39 Speed Round and Final Thoughts #TheRealConnectPodcast #TamikaCarlton #Elopement #DestinationWedding #MicroWedding #WeddingPlanning #Marriage #RelationshipAdvice

Why Conflict Doesn’t Ruin Relationships, Losing the “Same Team” Mindset Does With Honeyfund Founder Sara Margulis (S2, Ep 15)

Real Connection Doesn’t Mean “No Conflict”… It Means You Stay on the Same Team In this episode of The Real Connect Podcast, host Tamika Carlton sits down with Sara Margulis, founder and CEO of Honeyfund (yes, the Shark Tank success story), for a real conversation about what keeps relationships alive when life gets loud. From honeymoon travel and why “shared experiences” are a love language, to boundaries, communication, divorce, and building a company with your spouse. Sara shares how she and her then-fiancé created Honeyfund from their own wedding dream (hello, Fiji), how Shark Tank changed everything, and the relationship science that helped her reframe conflict: it’s not about being right...btw. What You Will Hear About: 1. What “heart-centered connection” means and why it’s the difference between conflict and collapse 2. Why couples who travel together often communicate better (and feel like a team again) 3. The #1 thing you can do to stop arguments from going too far 4. Why you can’t be business partners + romantic partners 24/7 (and the boundaries that matter most) 5. How Honeyfund started with one honeymoon dream (Fiji) and turned into a platform for over 100,000 weddings a year 6. Behind the scenes of Shark Tank 7. Divorce, grief, and rebuilding 8. Why “I’m proud of you” isn’t enough 9. Sara's take on love and ambition 🔗 Watch, subscribe, and share this episode if you’re trying to love better, argue cleaner, set real boundaries, and stay connected. Connect with Sarah Margulis and Honeyfund: https://www.honeyfund.com Connect with Tamika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamika_carltonjbp Join The Connect (free weekly newsletter): https://www.tamikacarlton.com/newsletter Visit Tamika’s website: https://www.tamikacarlton.com 00:00 Introduction to Heart-Centered Relationships 01:26 Welcome to the Real Connect Podcast 01:52 Getting to Know Sara Margulis 02:52 Sarah's Background and Career Path 06:10 The Birth of Honey Fund 09:21 Honey Fund's Growth and Success 17:23 Shark Tank Experience 26:20 Challenges and Personal Struggles 29:54 Navigating Business and Personal Life Post-Divorce 30:41 The Impact of the Pandemic on Business 32:10 Raising Funds and Moving Forward 32:52 The Importance of Boundaries 35:40 Balancing Work and Personal Life 38:59 Insights on Relationships and Communication 50:06 Defining Success and Personal Growth 54:32 Speed Round and Final Thoughts #TheRealConnectPodcast #TamikaCarlton #Relationships #Marriage #Divorce #LoveLanguages #SharkTank #Honeyfund #SaraMargulis

How Nayana Ferguson Built Anteel Tequila as the First Black Woman in the Tequila Industry (S2, Ep 14)

This is for anyone who’s been knocked down by life and decided not just to survive, but to build something meaningful on the other side. In this episode of The Real Connect Podcast, Tamika Carlton sits down with Nayana (Nay) Ferguson, entrepreneur, national speaker, and the first Black woman co-owner/operator of a tequila brand, Anteel Tequila, for a conversation that’s inspiring, and deeply human. Nay shares why she moved from Detroit to Atlanta, how Atlanta embraced her vision (including receiving a City of Atlanta proclamation just two weeks after arriving), and how one “couch conversation” turned into a tequila brand that disrupted the industry. The heartbeat of this episode is Nay’s faith in herself—something she traces all the way back to a childhood house fire. That moment became a lifelong anchor. What You Will Hear About: 1. The childhood fire story that shaped Nay’s identity and faith in herself. 2. Surviving pancreatic cancer and breast cancer, and the mindset that carried her through. 3. The “couch conversation” that sparked Anteel Tequila. 4. Building a business with your spouse. 5. What it means to be a pioneer in the industry and why legacy matters. 🔗 Watch, subscribe, and share this episode if you care about resilience, entrepreneurship, and the kind of connection that reminds you: you’re still here for a reason. Connect with Nayana Ferguson: https://www.instagram.com/nayanaferguson [https://www.instagram.com/nayanaferguson ] Follow Anteel Tequila on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anteeltequilas/ [https://www.instagram.com/anteeltequilas/ ] Visit Anteel Tequila's website: https://anteeltequila.com/ [ https://anteeltequila.com/ ] Connect with Tamika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamika_carltonjbp [https://www.instagram.com/tamika_carltonjbp ] Join The Connect (free weekly newsletter): https://www.tamikacarlton.com/newsletter [https://www.tamikacarlton.com/newsletter ] Visit Tamika’s website: https://www.tamikacarlton.com [https://www.tamikacarlton.com ] #TheRealConnectPodcast #TamikaCarlton #Entrepreneurship #Resilience #FaithInYourself #Atlanta #TequilaBrand #BlackWomenInBusiness #MarriageAndBusiness #Connection