The Salty Hoes Podcast. The Real Lives of Ex-Mormon Ex-Wives

Actually, Let Us Finish. A History of Mansplaining.

Claire and Mel reunite virtually from opposite sides of the world, comparing dating-app scenes in Ireland, Australia, America, and Italy (beards help, fish pics persist, and follow-through is rare), and swapping travel/food notes, including long Sydney dinners and barramundi. They pivot to a deep dive on mansplaining, sparked by Mel’s 11-hour Australian bus tour where a confident male guide delivered extensive, factually incorrect lectures on evolution, climate, indigenous health, cancer, and even urged people to lick a lemony ant “butthole.” They discuss how mansplaining relies on confidence, unsolicited advice, presumed inferiority, and condescension, sharing examples from dates, gyms, yoga, and a Swedish man explaining the North of Ireland to Claire. They explore causes from social conditioning and implicit bias to power moves, and suggest asking questions, using flowcharts, or calling it out.00:00 Long Distance Catch Up03:26 Dating Apps Abroad06:27 Italy Retreat Dreams07:10 Food Tours and Mussels08:53 Today’s Topic Mansplaining09:34 Eleven Hour Tour Guide18:25 Confidence and Gender24:36 Mansplaining on Dates31:38 Explaining Your Own Home34:36 Bread Tour Mansplain35:17 Unsolicited Advice Stories38:07 Gym and Yoga Boundaries41:04 Presumed Inferiority Responses43:47 Condescending Tone on Dates47:46 Why Mansplaining Happens48:56 Benign Praise Conditioning52:26 Bias and Confidence Myths58:09 Power and Dominance Plays01:00:20 Flowcharts and Calling It Out01:03:21 Final Stop Mansplaining exmormon midlife dating divorced

The ultimate Love Island, which has nothing to do with the TV show

The Ultimate Love Island: Survival Skills (Patriarchy Edition)Claire hosts solo while Mel is away, recording late due to travel and jet lag after trips to Kraków, Belfast, Galway, and the Aran Islands (Inishmaan). Reflecting on a decade of solo travel, she connects the isolation and “coupling” premise of Love Island to patriarchal relationship dynamics through the 1890s eco-feminist novel Gránia: The Story of an Island, which critiques marriage as a transaction, women’s exploited labor, and women being labeled “too much.” She links the book’s themes to her experiences as a young Mormon wife juggling motherhood, a PhD, paid work, and unequal domestic/emotional labor, and to a later relationship where a man leveraged her resources. She cites an Oprah interview with Rachel Louise Snyder (No Visible Bruises) noting domestic violence is rising and argues blame is wrongly placed on women; change comes from saying no to intolerable partnerships, demanding men step up, and addressing systemic harm.00:00 Welcome and Setup01:47 Travel Recap and Solo Trips05:09 Grania and Inishmaan06:45 Love Island 08:30 Ecofeminism and Marriage Critique15:02 Dark Domestic Scene Excerpt & being a Mormon Wife20:18 Honor and Being Consumed25:05 Screaming at the Cliff27:18 Benevolent Sexism and Mormon Life32:16 Not Enough and Too Much37:38 Domestic Violence and Blame44:24 What Do We Do Now & Ex-Mormon & Ex-Wife Life49:45 Closing Thoughts and Hope Mormon Exmormon Divorce Emotional Labor

Tales from Tinder

Join Mel as she dives into her Tinder likes queue and looks through the many exciting local profiles! From ethical non-monogamy to weird kinks, there is something here for everyone!

Things Not to Say to a Divorcée

The Salty Hoes connected from across the sea to bring you this episode! Claire and Mel talk about Claire's European adventure and reminisce about divorce, child support, and how to interact with your recently divorced friends. Enjoy?

Downward Facing Dogma

https://ritualhotyoga.com/saltlakecity/ https://www.fullcircleut.com/ https://mosaicyoga.squarespace.com/ Feral Friday Hot Yoga Mel and Claire (The Salty Hoes) recap a busy, social week, including a Pride party, Claire's lack of dates since “Short Stick,” and Mel has a promising man... but he lives in Denver. The Salty hoes became the sweaty hoes when they took a Feral Friday class at Ritual Hot Yoga with the amazing owner, Emily. The episode uses yoga to discuss Mormonism’s historical suspicion of “Eastern” practices, shifting church attitudes (including a missionary-focused four-week yoga guide), and broader themes of bodily intuition versus authoritarian spirituality, plus cultural appropriation, commercialization, and “Mormon Channel” reframing of yoga concepts (sun salutations, pranayama) into Christian doctrine. Claire shares yoga’s benefits and plugs Mosaic Yoga and Full Circle Yoga in Salt Lake City.00:00 Morning Banter Intro01:05 Weekly Catch Up02:25 Dating Updates03:37 Ritual Hot Yoga Visit04:28 Hot Yoga Details07:15 Consent Candle Vibes08:01 Archer Pose Confusion10:07 Why Talk Yoga10:45 Claire Yoga Origins14:47 Mormon Suspicion of Yoga18:34 Spirits and Handshakes21:33 Mormon Heaven Rules25:04 Church 180 on Yoga26:59 Crosses and Pew Data29:21 Missionary Yoga Speculation30:01 Yoga Clothes and Body Comfort31:22 Mormon Channel Deep Dive32:24 San Francisco Escape33:13 Mormon Yoga Feature34:38 Body Mind Dualism36:13 Oxen Yokes Imagery38:19 Coffee and Pioneer Snark40:54 Appropriation vs Exchange47:54 Wellness Industry Ick52:33 Mormonizing Yoga Concepts58:29 Handbook and Pew Quote01:05:05 Yoga Benefits and Tips01:10:45 Local Studios and Access01:15:29 Wrap Up