The Self-ish Me Podcast

When Your Body Changes but Nothing Is Wrong

Lately, I've found myself thinking about my body more than I used to. Not because anything is wrong, but because my body is changing, and I seem to have a lot more thoughts about those changes than I did a decade ago. In this episode, I explore why body changes can feel so emotionally loaded, especially as we move through our thirties, forties and beyond. Through stories about smart scales, yoga mirrors, Instagram videos, tight trousers and old travel photos, we unpack body image, ageing, body neutrality, self-worth and the difference between experiencing our bodies and evaluating them. This isn't an episode about weight loss or learning to love your body every day. It's a conversation about building a more honest relationship with your body, one rooted in curiosity, compassion, and the question: how do I want to feel in my body, rather than how do I want it to look? Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam [https://www.instagram.com/_self_ish_me/] LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamila-turek-019738a7/]

Imposter Syndrome in Women: Why Self-Doubt at Work Is Not the Problem You Think It Is

Imposter syndrome in women is everywhere as a conversation, and yet most of what we're told still puts the problem back on us. Fix your mindset. Build your confidence. Work on your self-belief. But what if the doubt you feel isn't a flaw in you? What if it's a reasonable response to environments that were never designed with you in mind? In this episode, I'm sharing something I've been sitting with for a long time. Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, unpacks imposter syndrome through attribution theory, social conditioning, the double bind, and the invisible weight of the third shift. This isn't about reframing your thinking. It's about understanding the systems, expectations, and workplace cultures that teach women to question themselves in the first place. You'll leave this episode with tools to navigate those environments more clearly. Ways to separate feelings from facts, interrupt patterns that were handed to you long before your first job, and stop treating every doubt as evidence that you don't belong. This is about women's careers not as a confidence problem to solve, but as a structural reality to understand. Because the goal was never to fix yourself. It was to stop being gaslit into thinking you needed fixing. Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam [https://www.instagram.com/_self_ish_me/] LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamila-turek-019738a7/]

No One Told You Your Cycle Affects Your Career: Women, Stress and Work

We have been taught to push through, show up the same way every single day, and treat our biology as an inconvenience. But what if ignoring our bodies is exactly what is holding us back? In this episode I sit down with Dr. Hanne, clinical psychologist and founder of Thea Psychology, a practice built entirely for women, and we get into something that most advice around women's careers completely skips over. Where are you in your cycle? What is happening in your nervous system? What do your hormonal changes actually mean for how you lead, decide, and show up under stress? These are the questions that changed everything for me. We also get honest about the double bind so many women are navigating at work. Be warm and you are not taken seriously. Be direct and you are difficult. Be emotional and you lose the project. Women's careers are still being judged on personality rather than performance, and that bias lives in all of us, not just in the people above us. Dr. Hanne and I talk about why that happens, what organisations can actually do about it, and how understanding your menstrual cycle and nervous system might be the most underrated tool for your wellbeing and career growth. Your body was never the obstacle. It has always been the map. Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam [https://www.instagram.com/_self_ish_me/] LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamila-turek-019738a7/] Connect with Dr Hanne Insta @theapsychology [https://www.instagram.com/theapsychology/] LinkedIn Dr Hanne Warren | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-hanne-warren-9b12a2205/] Website www.theapsychology.co.uk [http://www.theapsychology.co.uk] Lead True - women's leadership programme: https://theapsychology.co.uk/lead-true/ [https://theapsychology.co.uk/lead-true/]

Being Single in Your Thirties: The Truth About Singlehood, Self-Worth and Choosing Yourself

Single women are still being pitied, questioned, and quietly judged for a choice that has nothing wrong with it. If you've ever been asked "but why are you single?" or felt the pressure of timelines you never agreed to, this episode will feel like a conversation you've needed for a long time. Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, explores what it really means to choose singlehood as a woman, drawing on research into singlism, voluntary singleness, and the societal conditioning that teaches women their worth is tied to partnership. This is not a self-help pep talk. It is an honest, research-grounded look at the stereotypes single women navigate every day and why so many women are pushing back. If you are single and at peace with it but still feel the weight of other people's opinions, this episode will validate what you already know. And if you are a woman in your thirties who has chosen to be single for the last few years and is tired of explaining that choice to everyone around her, this one is especially for you. We also explore female sexuality outside relationships, the myth that being single means being lonely, and why choosing a comfortable, peaceful life is not selfishness. It is self-respect. Because you were never meant to shrink your life to fit a timeline someone else created for you. Connect with Kam Insta (@self_is_me) • Instagram photos and videos [https://www.instagram.com/_self_ish_me/] LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamila-turek-019738a7/]

Burnout Recovery for Women: The Five Stages, the Red Flags and What Actually Helped Me Rebuild

Burnout recovery is not just about taking a few days off and getting back to it. If you have ever pushed through exhaustion and called it ambition, told yourself you just needed to be stronger, or wondered whether what you are feeling is burnout or weakness, this episode will feel like the conversation you have been waiting for. Kamila, a Business Psychologist and coach, goes back to the moment seven years ago when her body made the decision for her on a packed commuter train to Waterloo. Drawing on research including the PERMA model, the five stage burnout model, and the latest data showing one in four working women in the UK feel unable to manage stress at work, she unpacks why burnout happens, why women are disproportionately affected, and why it is never simply a personal failing. If you are currently running on empty, quietly recognising yourself in the symptoms, or rebuilding after burnout and wondering why it is taking so long, this episode gives you tools to understand where you actually are. We explore the invisible third shift women carry, the shame that makes burnout so hard to admit, and the practical things that genuinely helped with recovery, from self-compassion and grounding techniques to values alignment and boundaries that actually hold. Because you are not broken. You are just carrying more than most people can see. Connect with Kam Insta @coachingwithkam [https://www.instagram.com/_self_ish_me/] LinkedIn Kamila Turek | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kamila-turek-019738a7/]