The UnTamed Woman

How to Ask for What You Want in Bed (When You've Been Faking It)

In Episode 4 of The Untamed Woman, Alice Hong goes straight into one of the most common (and most quietly damaging) patterns in long-term relationships: faking pleasure. Not every time. But enough that you don’t remember what it feels like to be fully in your body during sex — to feel, instead of perform. In this episode, Alice breaks down why so many women fake orgasms (and why it’s not because you’re “broken”), how your Love Masks are often running the show in the bedroom, and what it actually takes to start telling the truth without blowing up your relationship. She walks you through the mindset shifts you need before you have the conversation — and then gives you practical, word-for-word scripts for the most common scenarios: admitting you’ve been faking, asking for more foreplay, giving specific feedback, trying something new, and naming that you’re in a rut. This is a practical episode. It’s honest. It may feel edgy. And it’s designed to get you out of silent resentment and back into real intimacy, real pleasure, and real presence. Content note This episode includes candid conversations about sex/sexuality, orgasm and faking orgasms, intimacy and long-term relationship dynamics, communication during sex, and emotional reactions/defensiveness. In this episode, we dive into: * Why women fake orgasms — and the hidden cost (disconnection + resentment) * The Love Masks behind “performing pleasure” (Good Girl, Ice Queen, Leader, Independent) * The 6 mindset shifts you need before you tell the truth about what you want * How to start the conversation outside the bedroom (timing + framing) * Word-for-word scripts for common scenarios * How to handle his reactions (defensive, hurt, shut down, receptive) * What to expect after the conversation (awkwardness, rewiring, building new patterns) Resources Free 30-minute training: The 5 Love Masks That Keep Passionate Love at Bay [https://alicehong.com/5-masks-blocking-love-free-training?utm_medium=podcast] Connect with Alice Follow Alice on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alicehongofficial/ [https://www.instagram.com/alicehongofficial/] Visit Alice’s website: https://alicehong.com/ [https://alicehong.com/] Share the Untamed Movement If this episode hit you in the gut (or lit a fire in you), subscribe, leave a review, and send it to a woman who’s done performing “fine” in the bedroom — and ready for real intimacy instead.

Why Successful Women Are Starving for Pleasure (And How to Fix It)

In Episode 3 of The Untamed Woman, Alice Hong goes straight into the thing so many high-achieving women have quietly lost: their ability to feel real pleasure. Not the “treat yourself” version. Not the performative, look-hot, make-the-right-sounds version. Real pleasure — the kind that lives in your body… and changes your entire life. Alice breaks down the hidden pattern she sees over and over again: women who can run companies, families, and full lives… but in the bedroom? They’re managing, analyzing, performing, faking, rushing, or checking out completely. And the truth is: your shutdown in sex is never just about sex. If you can’t receive pleasure in your body, you’re probably not receiving it in your life — either. She walks you through four of the most common “love masks” that block pleasure and intimacy — the Good Girl, the Ice Queen, the Leader, and the Independent — and how each one quietly shapes what happens in your bedroom (and everywhere else). Then she gives you five practical practices to start rewiring your nervous system, soften back into sensation, and reclaim pleasure as something sacred, nourishing, and non-negotiable. Because you weren’t meant to live half-alive.  You weren’t meant to perform pleasure while feeling numb inside.  And you definitely weren’t meant to settle for a life where your body is just something you drag through the day. Content note This episode includes candid conversations about sex/sexuality, orgasm, self-pleasure (masturbation), intimacy dynamics, nervous system regulation, and feminine/masculine energy. In this episode, we dive into: * Why high-achieving women often shut down pleasure (and how it becomes your default) * The bedroom “performance loop” — and why it creates numbness, resentment, and disconnection * The 4 love masks that block pleasure and intimacy (Good Girl, Ice Queen, Leader, Independent) * Why your relationship with pleasure in sex mirrors your relationship with pleasure in life * Five practices to start rewiring your nervous system and restoring sensation * How pleasure affects your relationships, energy, creativity, magnetism, and capacity to receive Resources Free 30-minute training: The 5 Love Masks That Keep Passionate Love at Bay [https://alicehong.com/5-masks-blocking-love-free-training?utm_medium=podcast] Connect with Alice Follow Alice on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alicehongofficial/ [https://www.instagram.com/alicehongofficial/] Visit Alice’s website: https://alicehong.com/ [https://alicehong.com/] Share the Untamed Movement If this episode hit home, subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a woman who’s been performing “fine” while secretly craving more. Your support helps this message reach the women who are ready to come fully alive.

What is The Untamed Life?

In Episode 2 of The Untamed Woman, Alice Hong names the quiet place so many women live from: the “fine” life. The job is stable. The kids are healthy. The relationship is… okay. Love is there, but intimacy is meh. And even though everything looks good on paper, there’s a slow leak underneath it all — the feeling that you should be satisfied… but you’re not. In this episode, Alice breaks down what Life Untamed actually is (and what it’s not), why you don’t need to burn your life down to feel more alive, and what starts to shift when you stop pretending you’re fine and start telling the truth about what you want. She introduces the pillars that define the Untamed path — Pleasure First, Epic Love, and Wild Wealth — and shares the practical roadmap of the Untamed Method: Unmasking → Awakening → Creating. Content note This episode includes conversations about sex/sexuality, pleasure and self-pleasure, relationship dynamics and intimacy, masculine/feminine energy, emotional patterns, and embodied wealth. In this episode, we dive into: * Why “fine” is the slow leak (and how it quietly drains you) * What Life Untamed is — and what it’s not * Pleasure First, Epic Love, and Wild Wealth as the pillars of the Untamed path * The Untamed Method roadmap: Unmasking → Awakening → Creating Resources Free 30-minute training: The 5 Love Masks That Block Epic Love [https://alicehong.com/5-masks-blocking-love-free-training?utm_medium=podcast] Connect with Alice Follow Alice on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alicehongofficial/ [https://www.instagram.com/alicehongofficial/] Visit Alice’s website: https://alicehong.com/ [https://alicehong.com/] Share the Untamed Movement If this episode landed in your body, subscribe, leave a review, and send it to a woman who’s done pretending she’s fine. Your support helps this message reach the women who are ready to come fully alive.

My Untamed Journey: How I Went from Burnt Out to Fully Alive

In the very first episode of The Untamed Woman, Alice Hong shares the real story behind the life that looked “so good” on paper… and still felt painfully empty inside. A six-figure business. A beautiful home. A loving husband. And yet—burnout, adrenal fatigue, a sexless marriage, and the gnawing truth: there has to be more than this. Alice takes you through the turning points that cracked her open, the masks she learned to wear to be lovable and safe, and the path that brought her back to her body, her truth, her pleasure, and her power. She also introduces the three core pillars of the Untamed Method—Unmasking, Awakening, and Creating—and how these pillars are designed to help you stop living from “should” and start living from what’s real. Content note This episode includes candid conversations about sex/sexuality (including masturbation), libido loss, chronic illness, burnout/adrenal fatigue, depression, shame, and divorce. In this episode, we dive into: * Alice’s origin story: burnout, numbness, and choosing the leap * The three pillars of the Untamed Method: Unmasking → Awakening → Creating * Why “masks” cost us so much energy—and how truth frees you * Pleasure first as a daily practice (not a reward you earn) Resources Free 30-minute training: The 5 Love Masks That Block Epic Love [https://alicehong.com/5-masks-blocking-love-free-training?utm_medium=podcast] Connect with Alice Follow Alice on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alicehongofficial/ [https://www.instagram.com/alicehongofficial/] Visit Alice’s website: https://alicehong.com/ [https://alicehong.com/] Share the Untamed Movement If this episode landed in your body, subscribe, leave a review, and send it to a woman who’s done pretending she’s fine. Your support helps this message reach the women who are ready to come fully alive.

The UnTamed Woman Podcast Trailer

You look successful on the outside, but inside? You're starving for pleasure, passion, and real intimacy. Welcome to The Untamed Woman, where ambitious women stop settling and start magnetizing epic love. Host Alice Hong guides you to reconnect with your feminine energy, ask for what you want in bed, and create a love life that makes you feel fully alive - whether you're reigniting the fire in your marriage or attracting your dream partner. This is raw, embodied transformation for women done playing small. Subscribe for new episodes weekly. Your untamed life starts now.