This Wasn't the Plan

To the Woman Nobody Sends Flowers To: A Mother's Day Episode for Childfree, Childless, and Every Woman in Between

Mother's Day is complicated. And this episode is for every woman who feels like Sunday wasn't made for her. Whether you're navigating infertility, pregnancy loss, a failed IVF journey, or living childfree by circumstance - or you're grieving your mom, estranged from your mother, or simply struggling in ways the world doesn't talk about enough - this one is for you. In this episode we talk about: * Why Mother's Day is hard for so many women in so many different ways * How to actually get through the weekend without losing yourself * Why your worth has never been tied to being a mother * What it really means to be whole exactly as you are * Why every single thing you have built and survived deserves to be celebrated You are not what didn't happen to you. You are everything you chose to become anyway. This episode was released early - on Saturday instead of Monday - because some of you needed it before Sunday. Not after. New creator from this community alert! My brave and powerful friend and former podcast guest is sharing her journey on TikTok. Go follow @victoria.in.progress for everything from her IVF Journey to childfree by circumstance to decluttering! Connect with Tara Resnick: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick www.tararesnick.com

When the Strong Woman Breaks: The Hidden Cost of Overfunctioning

What happens when the woman who holds everything together finally falls apart? In this raw and honest episode, I open up about a breaking point that changed everything — and why it had nothing to do with the parking machine that set it off. After 13 hours alone managing a family health crisis, I hit my limit and cried for three hours. But this episode isn't about that day. It's about the lifetime of overfunctioning, carrying, and absorbing that led to it. I break down why some of us become "the strong one," what happens when you finally stop, the guilt cycle that follows, and how to sit in the discomfort of disrupting patterns that were never sustainable. I also talk about how overfunctioning can often be self-abandonment and how choosing yourself is not selfish. Plus: life updates on dating, making new friends in your 30's and 40's, and falling deep into a drugstore beauty rabbit hole. Connect with Tara Resnick: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick

To Every Woman in Her 30s: I'm 43 and Here are the Life Lessons you Actually Need Hear

What do women over 40 wish they had known in their 30s? I’m 43, and here’s the truth I learned the hard way. In this episode of This Wasn't the Plan, I share the life lessons I wish someone had told me in my 30s about relationships, boundaries, people pleasing, fertility and starting over. These are the lessons that cost me alot - staying too long in the wrong relationships, losing myself trying to keep the peace, and hard truths women need to hear. I open up about navigating IVF as a single woman in my 40s, rebuilding my identity after heartbreak, and what it really takes to start over when life doesn’t go according to plan. If you’re in your 30s and feel behind, stuck in a relationship that isn’t changing, or questioning your next chapter, this episode will speak directly to you. This is the conversation I wish someone had the courage to have with me sooner. In this episode, I share: * What waiting for the wrong partner to change really costs you * Why people pleasing is self-abandonment and how to stop losing yourself * The truth about setting boundaries and why it feels uncomfortable at first * How to start over in your 30s or 40s when life doesn’t go as planned * The one person who was always responsible for saving me Connect with Tara Resnick: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick https://tararesnick.com/

Ask Us Anything: Divorce, Infertility, Friendship Breakups, Healing & Starting Over (With Jess & Victoria)

This week I’m joined by two women who know what it means to rewrite the plan - and do the deep personal growth work that comes with it. Jess (@thegreatdetour) married her high school sweetheart and at 35 made the brave decision to leave a toxic relationship and start completely over. Victoria (@victoriamahoney29) spent years navigating infertility and IVF before choosing to stop treatments and build a life that looks different than she imagined - and is beautiful because of it. Together we’re answering YOUR questions in a full Ask Us Anything episode covering divorce, friendship breakups, healing from toxic relationships, being childfree by circumstance, what emotional maturity actually looks like and life when the plan falls apart and you have to find yourself again. This one felt less like a podcast and more like three women having an honest conversation over drinks — and we think you’re going to feel every bit of it. In this episode we cover: • Navigating divorce and the identity shift that comes with it • Healing from toxic relationships and what recovery really looks like • Friendship breakups — why they happen and how to heal • Choosing to stop IVF and what life looks like on the other side • Personal growth and emotional maturity through life’s hardest chapters • What “starting over” actually means at 35, 40 and beyond • How to build a life that wasn’t the plan — but is yours This Wasn’t the Plan is the podcast for women navigating infertility, life after IVF, being childfree by circumstance, divorce, breakups, reinvention, healing, personal growth, and the beautiful, hard work of starting over.

How Long Does Healing Actually Take? The Honest Truth About Your Body, Identity, and Starting Over

Six months ago, something ended. For me it was IVF, and the dream of a life I'd spent years trying to build. But this episode isn't just about infertility - it's about what happens after any hard chapter closes and you're left figuring out who you are now. This is my honest six-month update. Not the performed version. Not the "look how far I've come" highlight reel. The real one - including the parts I've been embarrassed to say out loud. I talk about what genuine healing actually looks like when you're still in it. I talk about your body after it's been through something - hormonal shifts, grief weight, the strange experience of looking in the mirror and not quite recognizing yourself. And I talk about why six months is nothing. Why your body, your identity, and your sense of self take so much longer to recalibrate than anyone tells you - especially in your late thirties, forties, and fifties. If you've come out of a divorce, a loss, a fertility journey, a career ending, or any chapter that took more from you than you expected - this one is for you. In this episode: * What healing looks like when you're surprised by your own progress but not yet done * Why your body isn't failing you — it's just on its own timeline * The truth about recovering physically after something hormonally or emotionally significant * Why comparison to who you were before is an unfair data set * What's actually helped: the unsexy, repetitive, boring things that move the needle * Why consistency and grace will always outperform pressure and perfection Code PODCAST40 gets you 40% off the Reclamation Guide at www.tararesnick.com Connect with Tara Resnick: Instagram: @tararesnick TikTok: @tara_resnick https://tararesnick.com/