Uncommon: The DadWork Podcast

71 - Almost Two Men A Minute –Dead – And Nobody's Talking About It

700,000 men a year. 59,000 a month. 15,000 a week. 2,500 a day. 90 men every single hour. Almost two men every single minute. These are men with wives. With children. With families who need them. And it's "Pride" Month. And nobody's talking about this. This episode is my contribution to changing that. We talk about how we got here. The Industrial Revolution that pulled fathers from their homes and reduced their worth to a paycheck. The Victorian era that split men and women into separate kingdoms and lit the fuse. The feminist ideology — not women, the ideology — that set out in 1969 to destroy the American family by destroying the American patriarch. And the pop culture machine that finished the job. We talk about what's happening inside men. Why male depression doesn't look like sadness. Why men mask it with anger, alcohol, workaholism, and withdrawal. Why the mental health model we have wasn't built for men. And why strength training — not cardio — is one of the most effective interventions we have. We talk about the way through. Brotherhood. Purpose. Faith. The transitional character — the man who looks at the cycle and decides it ends with him. And we talk directly to the man who's standing on the rooftop doing the insurance math right now. Your family doesn't need the money. They need you. If you're struggling — call or text 988. Visit HeadsUpGuys.org [http://HeadsUpGuys.org]. Or DM me directly. I mean that. If this episode lands — don't keep it. Send it to a man who needs it. That's the whole point. If you got value from this episode — send $5 on Venmo [https://venmo.com/u/robertbilljr] @robbilljr. Top supporters get official producer credits on the show. // You Are More Than Enough And This World Is A Better Place With You In It

70 - He Was Having Panic Attacks At Work & All He Knew How To Do Was Pray w/ Jonathan Conrad

Jonathan Conrad was having panic attacks at work. Twins on the way. Stress through the roof. Work was his idol and he knew it. The only thing he knew to do was pray. Not because he was holy. Not because he had it figured out. Because it was the one prayer he remembered from childhood — and it was all he had. He started praying the rosary every day on the way to work. Out loud. Fingers on the steering wheel. Not even meditating on the mysteries. Just saying the words. And he didn't pray for himself to change. He prayed for everything around him to change. But he was the one who changed. That's the episode. Jonathan is the founder of Catholic Woodworker — the man behind the rosary that's in my hands every single morning. We talk about what it means to be intentional with your family the same way you're intentional with your business. About the excuse of blaming your kids, your wife, your circumstances. About brotherhood, isolation, and why the lone wolf path is killing men. About Saint Francis. About beauty. About what it means to go to Jesus through Mary. And about what happens when a man stops trying to fix everything wrong with him — and starts discovering the gifts God already put there. This one hit different. Get your hands on Jonathan's work at Catholic Woodworker. [https://catholicwoodworker.com/] If this episode moves you — send $5 on Venmo [https://venmo.com/u/robertbilljr] @robbilljr. Top supporters get official producer credits on the show. // Raise them in the way and when they're grown they will not stray

69 - Why Unfit Dads Are Dead Weight On Their Families (And What It Does To His Kids)

Four months into having my son Theo — I stood up from meditation and found myself on the floor. Hypostatic blood pressure. Dangerously high. Heart rate through the roof. I hadn't been training. I told myself I didn't have time. That was the moment I understood — this isn't about vanity. An unfit dad is a liability to his family. Full stop. Here's the stat that stops me cold every time. Children of active fathers are 3.5x more likely to be physically active themselves. Active moms? 2x. An active dad has nearly double the influence of an active mom on whether his kids move their bodies. Nobody told you that you were that important. 77% of men don't meet the bare minimum federal guidelines for physical activity. 150 minutes of moderate movement per week. A brisk walk. And most men aren't hitting it. Three out of four men you know are functionally useless if they have to do something physical. The dadbod isn't relatable content. It's a message your kids are receiving right now — about what a man's relationship with his body looks like. About complacence. About resignation. And they will repeat it. So here are the three things every dad needs to train. Not nice to haves. Non-negotiables. Strength. Flexibility and prehabilitation. Conditioning. We get into all of it — how to build each one without a gym membership, in the time you actually have, with your kids watching and learning alongside you. Plus the gear system for conditioning that I used to charge people thousands of dollars to measure in a lab. Turns out your breath tells you everything you need to know. Don't waste your money. HomeGrown Fitness [https://homegrownlifting.com/]// American-Made Rediculously Reasonably Priced And we get into what the research says about exercise as a treatment for depression and anxiety — comparable or superior to psychotherapy and pharmacology. You're not just getting fitter. You're getting freer. Last week's programming is live inside The Grit Collective — my free brotherhood. Link here [https://www.skool.com/the-grit-collective-1500]. If this episode hits — send $5 on Venmo [https://venmo.com/u/robertbilljr] @robbilljr. Top supporters get official producer credits on the show.

68 - What October 7th Taught Him About Regulating Under Fire w/ Om Ben Avraham

Om landed in Israel on October 5th, 2023. Two days later, the world changed. He was there. His family was there. His friends were there. And the man who had spent years learning to regulate his nervous system — who had meditated in caves in Europe, lived in India, done the deep work — was about to find out if any of it was real. It was. But it took months to process. Months of shaking. Months of feeling unsafe in the deepest part of his being. And it was only because of the tools he'd spent years building that he came out the other side — regulated, grounded, and more committed to this work than ever. This conversation goes deep. We get into the patterns men run to avoid feeling — over-positivity, avoidance, the dreamer who's always chasing the next thing instead of being here. The difference between talking about the work and actually doing it in your body. Why you can read every book, hire every coach, and still not shift — because you cannot read your experience. You can only experience it. And we get into what it actually means to be witnessed by a group of men. Not talked at. Not coached. Witnessed. And why that changes everything. Om is one of the most grounded men I know. He's also my co-facilitator at The Rite — June 12-15 in Nevada City, California. Only 6 spots left. 66% off Apply at his website 👇 If this conversation moves you — that's probably why. And if you listened, tip me $5 on Venmo [https://venmo.com/u/robertbilljr]. Find Om: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/primal_freedom/] ombenavraham.com [http://ombenavraham.com] // Persist

67 - Why 61% of Dads Feel Like They're Not Cutting It (And What To Do About It)

Frank had the balls to ask the question most men are too afraid to voice. Am I present enough? Am I focusing on the right things? Am I building a career at the expense of the years I'll never get back? This episode is for Frank. And it's for you. Because if you're asking the question — you already know something's off. The world is built to distract you. To show you everyone's highlight reel. To keep you in performance mode — chasing the title, the house, the car — while the years with your kids accelerate and you wonder where the time went. My son is five. I blinked. There are three of them now. You can't put life back in the box. So we get into it. The performance trap. The provider paradox. The 2026 version of the absent dad — physically there, nowhere near present. What your kids actually need from you. And the one practice that makes all of it possible. You don't have to choose between being successful at work OR being the father your kids need. You can have both. But you do have to put in the work. This one's worth your time.