Owning Your Story: Identity, Marriage, and Building a Legacy
What does it mean to truly own your story, the past, the pain, and the power that makes you who you are? In a world where women can often feel defined by their roles as a spouse or parent, how do you hold onto the unique, fabulous person God created you to be?
In this episode of Unleash & Rise, we sit down with Sara Golden, business owner, community leader, and wife of Montgomery County Mayor Wes Golden. And for women married to prominent husbands, like Sara, holding onto your identity can feel even more challenging when people try to define you by who you’re married to instead of who you are. Sara gets real about the journey of owning her identity, from a challenging childhood in California to building a thriving title company and a strong, Christ-centered family in Tennessee.
Through laughter, heartfelt confession, and hard-won wisdom, Sara shares how she and her husband champion each other’s individual callings without losing themselves in the process. She opens up about blending a family, the miracle of motherhood after being told she’d never have children, and why she teaches her kids that their "past is a place of reference, not a place of residence."
If you’ve ever struggled with your identity, fought to overcome your past, or wanted to build a business and a family that leaves a legacy, this conversation is for you.
In This Episode:
* [00:02] Introduction and leadership Clarksville memories
* [01:16] Sara’s background and move to Tennessee
* [02:55] Career journey from banking to title company owner
* [05:01] Identity beyond spouse’s achievements in her own business
* [06:37] Marriage, partnership and personal growth
* [07:25] Overcoming a difficult childhood
* [08:25] Taking the leap into business ownership
* [10:15] Blended family dynamics and parenting philosophy
* [12:04] Navigating blended family challenges
* [13:54] Parenting roles and gender differences
* [14:57] “Stay golden” family motto and political life
* [17:19] Adapting to country life and community involvement
* [19:15] Teaching kids responsibility and work ethic
* [21:09] Lessons from growing up with less
* [25:52] Family history and sibling differences
* [26:29] Turning pain into purpose and resilience
* [28:14] Using the past as reference, not residence
* [29:02] Maintaining humility in public life
* [29:36] The power of relationships and networking
* [30:00] Business growth through relationships
* [32:13] Kindness, reputation and community impact
* [37:34] Celebrating others and healthy competition
* [39:11] Family support and multigenerational living
* [39:57] Military service and transitioning into police work
* [41:12] Birthdays, self-care and humor
* [44:35] Fashion, marriage and personal style
* [49:08] Love, marriage and communication
* [52:26] Campaigning and community involvement
Notable Quotes
* [00:50] “ I love how you own who you are, your heritage, and you're not behind your husband's shadow.”—Laquvia
* [05:18] “I tell people this a lot, and sometimes they think I'm rude, but they'll say, ‘Oh, you're Wes's wife.’ Or, ‘Oh, this is the mayor's wife.’ And a lot of times I'll say, ‘No, I'm Sara. Wes is my husband.’” — Sara
* [04:18] “I think when you do the right things that it comes back. We're very faith-based. I believe that God puts you in the right place at the right time.” — Sara
* [07:45] “ It's important that you find a spouse that loves all of those parts of you and that accepts all of those parts of you and doesn't see any of that as your flaws.”— Sara
* [11:19] “I was told I would never have children, and Wes and I immediately got pregnant. And so she was a surprise, but I think that God can use anything.” — Sara
* [28:21] “My past is a place of reference, not a place of residence.” — Sara
* [27:31] “I think it's important, especially as women like, to be strong. Be strong in who you are and what you've been through, and let that create your story.” — Sara
Resources and Links
Unleash and Rise
* Unleash & Rise Podcast [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unleash-and-rise-turning-obstacles-into-opportunities/id1813207322]
Sara Golden
* LinkedIn [http://linkedin.com/in/sarangolden]
Laquvia Garrett
* Website [https://laquviagarrett.com/]
* Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/laquviatherealtor/]
* LinkedIn [http://www.linkedin.com/in/laquvia-garrett-mba-39b89497]