Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Would You Date YOU? (w/ Relationship Therapist Esther Perel)

World famous relationship therapist Esther Perel [https://www.instagram.com/estherperelofficial] has been studying relationships for over 40 years. She joins Nicole to share the most common problems couples seek therapy for, the 3 types of conflicts we fight over, and how to productively resolve them. Esther discusses how to get over "icks" while dating, and challenges us to ask ourselves: what "icks" would people find in you? They also explore exactly why modern dating feels so incredibly tough right now, the fact that therapy speak has gone mainstream thanks to shows like The Sopranos, and whether that's a good or bad thing. Plus, Esther shares a wild story about her first therapy session between a man and his AI girlfriend, and she totally flips the script on Nicole to ask the ultimate question: Would you date you? Celebrate the 20th anniversary of her groundbreaking book, Mating in Captivity [https://www.estherperel.com/mating-in-captivity]. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast] Take our listener survey [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd33e7dZVu87RXYXZpf2BRax8nGwxlwm3eSRp_Ee7JnGvXt8Q/viewform] and shape the future of the podcast! Support this podcast by checking out our sponsor: • Chime [http://Chime.com/DATEME]: Chime is not just smarter banking, it is the most rewarding way to bank. Join the millions who are already banking fee free today. Head to Chime.com/DATEME [http://Chime.com/DATEME]. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme [https://linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme] Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken [http://linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken] YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast] TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod [https://www.tiktok.com/@whywontyoudatemepod]  Instagram: @nicolebyer [https://www.instagram.com/nicolebyer/] X: @nicolebyer [https://twitter.com/nicolebyer?lang=en] This is a Headgum [https://headgum.com/] podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? [https://gumball.fm/shows/why-wont-you-date-me-with-nicole-byer] via Gumball.fm [http://gumball.fm/]. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Writing Heated Rivalry (w/ Rachel Reid)

Author Rachel Reid [https://www.instagram.com/rachelreidwrites/] (Heated Rivalry) joins Nicole to chat about the wild, viral success of her steamy queer romance novels and the hit TV adaptation. She shares how she met her husband while performing a smelly, hockey-themed burlesque act, and the dynamic that keeps their 20-year one sided open marriage working for them. She discusses the creative process behind writing explicit romance between men, and exactly why she absolutely does not want to hear your glowing reviews of her work. Plus, Rachel opens up about navigating her recent Parkinson's diagnosis. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast] Take our listener survey [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd33e7dZVu87RXYXZpf2BRax8nGwxlwm3eSRp_Ee7JnGvXt8Q/viewform] and shape the future of the podcast! Support this podcast by checking out our sponsors: • FirstLeaf [http://tryfirstleaf.com/DATEME]: Get personalized wines, delivered. Head to TryFirstleaf.com/DATEME [https://tryfirstleaf.com/DATEME] to sign up and you'll get 50% off your first box PLUS free shipping for an entire year • Wayfair [http://wayfair.com/]: Get prepped for patio season for way less. Head to Wayfair.com [http://wayfair.com/] right now to shop all things home. Wayfair. Every style. Every home. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme [https://linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme] Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken [http://linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken] YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast] TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod [https://www.tiktok.com/@whywontyoudatemepod]  Instagram: @nicolebyer [https://www.instagram.com/nicolebyer/] X: @nicolebyer [https://twitter.com/nicolebyer?lang=en] This is a Headgum [https://headgum.com/] podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? [https://gumball.fm/shows/why-wont-you-date-me-with-nicole-byer] via Gumball.fm [http://gumball.fm/]. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Farting All Night on a First Date (w/ Beck Bennett)

Comedian and actor Beck Bennett [https://www.instagram.com/beckbennett/] (SNL, What's Our Podcast? [https://www.youtube.com/@whatsourpodcast]) joins Nicole to talk about meeting his wife on a sketch shoot and how his wallet-less first date turned into a romantic, fart-filled sleepover. Beck opens up about surviving long-distance dating while shooting SNL, why he believes "love is trust," and the Joshua Tree engagement trip that ended with them sleeping in separate twin beds. He shares the creative ways he jerked off as a kid (including using a Sock'em Bopper and a vibrating pen), and Nicole admits to stealing her first vibrator from Spencer’s Gifts. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast] Take our listener survey [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd33e7dZVu87RXYXZpf2BRax8nGwxlwm3eSRp_Ee7JnGvXt8Q/viewform] and shape the future of the podcast! Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: • Jones Road Beauty [http://jonesroadbeauty.com/]: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com [http://jonesroadbeauty.com/] to get a Free Gift with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad  • Warby Parker [http://warbyparker.com/DATEME]: My listeners can buy one prescription pair and get 20% off additional pairs at WarbyParker.com/DATEME [http://warbyparker.com/DATEME] — and using our link helps support the show. #WarbyParker #ad • Squarespace [http://squarespace.com/DATEME]: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME [http://squarespace.com/DATEME] to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme [https://linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme] Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken [http://linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken] YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast] TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod [https://www.tiktok.com/@whywontyoudatemepod]  Instagram: @nicolebyer [https://www.instagram.com/nicolebyer/] X: @nicolebyer [https://twitter.com/nicolebyer?lang=en] This is a Headgum [https://headgum.com/] podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? [https://gumball.fm/shows/why-wont-you-date-me-with-nicole-byer] via Gumball.fm [http://gumball.fm/]. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Pikachu, I Choose You! (w/ Sarah Natochenny)

Voice actress Sarah Natochenny [https://www.instagram.com/sarah_natochenny/] (Pokémon) joins Nicole for a chat about how voicing Ash Ketchum inspired her to become the adventurous protagonist of her own life. Sarah shares her method for vetting a first date, why she has absolutely zero tolerance for men who neg her, and why animal companions (like her cat, Pikachu) will always be better than a boyfriend. Plus, the gals discuss Cher's wild 40-year age gap relationship, share tips for traveling solo as a single woman, and Nicole recounts a horrifying road rage incident that still haunts her. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast] Take our listener survey [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd33e7dZVu87RXYXZpf2BRax8nGwxlwm3eSRp_Ee7JnGvXt8Q/viewform] and shape the future of the podcast! Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: • Jones Road Beauty [http://jonesroadbeauty.com/]: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com [http://jonesroadbeauty.com] to get a Free Gift with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad  • Cash App [https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6]: Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6 [https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/3v6r90n6] #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. See terms and conditions at https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement. Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit http://cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. • BetterHelp [http://betterhelp.com/dateme]: This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/dateme [http://betterhelp.com/dateme] today to get 10% off your first month. • Quince [http://quince.com/dateme]: Head to quince.com/dateme [http://quince.com/dateme] for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too.  Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme [https://linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme] Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken [http://linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken] YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast] TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod [https://www.tiktok.com/@whywontyoudatemepod]  Instagram: @nicolebyer [https://www.instagram.com/nicolebyer/] X: @nicolebyer [https://twitter.com/nicolebyer?lang=en] This is a Headgum [https://headgum.com/] podcast. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? [https://gumball.fm/shows/why-wont-you-date-me-with-nicole-byer] via Gumball.fm [http://gumball.fm/]. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Looksmaxxing Is Psychotic (w/ Tan France)

Fashion icon Tan France [https://www.instagram.com/tanfrance/] (Queer Eye, Honorable Gays [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnEFsBLo7_BwIRmN8SZrfbZ9wraohNNoJ]) joins Nicole for a chat about how a planned "slut tour" accidentally resulted in an 18-year marriage, his secret past designing clothes for Mormon women, and why he really, really didn't want to be on Queer Eye. Tan gets real about the intense racism he faced dating in the UK - including the multiple times guys forced him to keep their dates a secret. Plus, he shares a horrifying first date story that had him walking out of dinner early, and they rip apart the bizarre new "looksmaxxing" trend. Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast] Take our listener survey [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd33e7dZVu87RXYXZpf2BRax8nGwxlwm3eSRp_Ee7JnGvXt8Q/viewform] and shape the future of the podcast! Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors: Jones Road [http://jonesroadbeauty.com/]: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com [http://jonesroadbeauty.com/] to get a Free Shimmer Face Oil with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #ad Chime [http://Chime.com/DATEME]: Chime is not just smarter banking, it is the most rewarding way to bank. Join the millions who are already banking fee free today. Head to Chime.com/DATEME [http://Chime.com/DATEME]. Squarespace [http://squarespace.com/DATEME]: Head to squarespace.com/DATEME [http://squarespace.com/DATEME] to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code DATEME. Wayfair [http://Wayfair.com]: Way Day is THE sale to shop the best deals in home – we’re talking up to 80% OFF with fast and FREE shipping on everything! Head to Wayfair.com [http://Wayfair.com] April 25th through the 27th to shop Way Day. Follow: All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme [https://linktr.ee/whywontyoudateme] Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken [http://linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken] YouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast] TikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod [https://www.tiktok.com/@whywontyoudatemepod]  Instagram: @nicolebyer [https://www.instagram.com/nicolebyer/] X: @nicolebyer [https://twitter.com/nicolebyer?lang=en] This is a Headgum [https://headgum.com/] podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter [https://x.com/headgum], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/headgum/], and Tiktok [https://www.tiktok.com/@headgum]. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? [https://gumball.fm/shows/why-wont-you-date-me-with-nicole-byer] via Gumball.fm [http://gumball.fm/]. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].