Getting used to it, Midlife

Getting Used To IT: Growing Up Korean American And Learning What Love Looked Like

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2271281/fan_mail/new] Suzee didn't know what Beth was going to ask her. That's what made it real. In this episode, Beth turns the mic on Suzee and goes deep — on what it actually felt like to grow up Korean American, caught between a traditional immigrant household and an American world that didn't quite fit either. The exhaustion of straddling two cultures, the love that looked like pressure, and what you can only see clearly from the other side of 51. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Getting Used To It! If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please consider subscribing, rating, and leaving us a review—it helps others discover the show! We’d also love to hear your thoughts, so drop us a comment or connect with us on Bluesky @gettingusedtoit.bksy.social. Stay connected, stay curious, and we’ll see you next time!

Getting Used To IT: Nobody Warned Him About Menopause. Not Even Me.

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2271281/fan_mail/new] Your partner watched you change — the heat, the fog, the mood, the dryness — and had no idea what was happening. But here's the uncomfortable part: neither did you, really. Not fully. Not at first. Suzee and Beth get into the strange reality that menopause is still something women are expected to announce — like it's news, like you scheduled it — to partners who grew up watching their own fathers say nothing, in a world that barely studied it at all. Nobody warned him. But nobody really warned you either. And now somehow it's on you to hand him the map you're still reading yourself. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Getting Used To It! If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please consider subscribing, rating, and leaving us a review—it helps others discover the show! We’d also love to hear your thoughts, so drop us a comment or connect with us on Bluesky @gettingusedtoit.bksy.social. Stay connected, stay curious, and we’ll see you next time!

Getting Used To It: Grieving The Loss Of Your Unwritten History

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2271281/fan_mail/new] The hardest part of losing family isn’t always the obvious grief. Sometimes it’s the identity shock: waking up to the fact that there’s no one left above you, no living witness who can say, “Here’s who you were,” or “That’s not how it happened.” Beth joins us for a candid, often darkly funny, deeply human talk about what it means to become the oldest woman in your family and how that realization can make you feel strangely alone, even when your life is full. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Getting Used To It! If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please consider subscribing, rating, and leaving us a review—it helps others discover the show! We’d also love to hear your thoughts, so drop us a comment or connect with us on Bluesky @gettingusedtoit.bksy.social. Stay connected, stay curious, and we’ll see you next time!

Getting Used To It: Good Girls Don't...

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2271281/fan_mail/new] Female pleasure, women's anger, divorce — three things that were basically unspeakable when we were growing up. Nobody said don't talk about it. We just knew. This episode is about what it costs to swallow things that were always yours to feel. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Getting Used To It! If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please consider subscribing, rating, and leaving us a review—it helps others discover the show! We’d also love to hear your thoughts, so drop us a comment or connect with us on Bluesky @gettingusedtoit.bksy.social. Stay connected, stay curious, and we’ll see you next time!

Getting used To It: The Thought You Felt Guilty For Having

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2271281/fan_mail/new] "Not fair. I want that too." That's the first honest reaction we had reading Molly Roden Winter's writing about her open marriage — and it sent us somewhere way deeper than gossip. Because the real spark isn't who dates whom. It's the shock of watching someone actually pause, ask herself what she wanted, and make a conscious choice about her relationship instead of just... following the default script. In this episode, we get into mononormativity — the cultural gravity that makes monogamy feel like the only civilized option — and why so many of us were conditioned to believe that even wondering makes us the bad guy. We dig into the research on relationship and sexual satisfaction across monogamy, ethical nonmonogamy, and open relationships (including why the findings are genuinely mixed, and why "what matches your values" will always matter more than picking the supposedly correct structure). Then we go to the messy, human middle: jealousy, the fear of not being enough, and the identity earthquake that hits a long-term marriage when one person starts asking who they are beyond wife and mom. We also wrestle with rules like "don't fall in love" — and what it actually takes for any partnership to hold up under real honesty, real communication, and real emotional elasticity. If you've ever felt guilty for a thought you didn't even choose — you're not alone. Listen, send this to the friend who will actually talk about it with you, and leave us a review. Then tell us: what's your gut reaction to open marriage or polyamory, and where do you think it comes from? Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Getting Used To It! If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please consider subscribing, rating, and leaving us a review—it helps others discover the show! We’d also love to hear your thoughts, so drop us a comment or connect with us on Bluesky @gettingusedtoit.bksy.social. Stay connected, stay curious, and we’ll see you next time!