Journey to Lasting Love

Never Again Will I Be Hurt Like That: The Hidden Cost of Protecting Your Heart

What happens after the heartbreak — when you quietly promise yourself “Never again”? You build the walls. You get strong. You learn to keep people at a safe distance. But what if that vow to protect yourself is also what’s keeping real love from finding you? In this episode, Tina Shayani explores the hidden cost of emotional self-protection — how the walls you build to avoid pain can also keep out the connection and depth you’re longing for. You’ll learn how to open your heart again without losing yourself, how to separate fear from wisdom, and how to turn your pain into power. 🔑 Key Points * The “Never again” vow: how pain quietly shapes your beliefs about love. * Why emotional walls don’t just keep people out — they keep you stuck. * How avoiding vulnerability limits your ability to experience real joy. * The difference between discernment and defensiveness. * Why rejection isn’t rejection — it’s redirection. * How to reopen your heart without repeating old mistakes. * The quiet courage of trying again, even when your heart remembers the pain. * You can’t protect yourself from heartbreak and still expect to feel deep love. * Pain is inevitable — suffering is optional. * Real strength isn’t in avoiding pain; it’s in walking through it with grace. * You are not being rejected by life — you’re being redirected toward what fits. * Vulnerability is not weakness. It’s the doorway to connection. 🌺Listener Takeaways You can’t protect yourself from heartbreak and still expect to feel deep love. Pain is inevitable — suffering is optional. Real strength isn’t in avoiding pain; it’s in walking through it with grace. You are not being rejected by life — you’re being redirected toward what fits. Vulnerability is not weakness. It’s the doorway to connection.

Are You Working on a Fixer-Upper?

You can’t build a healthy relationship by trying to fix someone. In this episode, Tina Shayani breaks down why caring, capable people keep falling for “projects” — and how to finally stop confusing potential with partnership. In This Episode: * Why smart, loving people get trapped in “project relationships.” * How movies and fairy tales taught us to confuse love with saving. * The difference between inspiration and rescue. * What “dating a promise instead of a person” looks like. * Two real stories (Sarah & Eliana) and what finally helped them stop repeating the same pattern. Key Takeaways: 1. You can’t heal someone through love — they have to want to change. 2. If it’s inconsistent now, it won’t magically fix itself later. 3. You’re not in love with them — you’re in love with their potential. 4. A promise can’t love you back. 5. Real love is partnership, not a project. Chapters: 00:00 – Intro: Building Love That Lasts 00:36 – The “Fixer-Upper” Relationship Pattern 02:45 – Why We Fall for Projects 07:10 – The Danger of Falling for Potential 11:15 – Sarah’s Story: Loving from Survival, Not Wholeness 17:10 – Eliana’s Story: Chemistry vs. Anxiety 21:15 – The Wake-Up Moment: Awareness Is Power 23:40 – The Shift from Fantasy to Reality 27:00 – How to Stop Choosing Fixer-Uppers Connect with Tina: Instagram → @JourneyToLastingLove [https://instagram.com/journeytolastinglove] Facebook → TShay Coaching [https://facebook.com/tshaycoaching] DM the word CYCLE to get your free guide: Breaking the Cycle

S2EP25: Am I expecting too much? Or not enough?

In this episode of Journey to Lasting Love, host Tina Shayani explores the complexities of relationship standards, addressing the common dilemma of whether individuals are asking for too much or not enough in their romantic pursuits. She emphasizes the importance of having personal standards while cautioning against using them as a defense mechanism to avoid vulnerability. The conversation delves into the balance between giving potential partners a chance and recognizing deal-breakers, ultimately guiding listeners towards a path of self-awareness and successful relationships. Takeaways Standards are your rights and preferences in relationships. It's crucial to know what you want in a partner. Using standards as a defense mechanism can hinder relationships. Give people a chance to surprise you. Don't linger in relationships that don't meet your standards. Identify which category you fall into regarding relationship standards. Self-knowledge is key to navigating relationships successfully. Let go of those who are not meant for you. The journey to finding the right partner involves sorting through many options. Building a successful relationship requires ongoing effort and commitment. 🌟 Stay Connected & Transform Your Love Life! 🌟 💖 Ready to break free from unhealthy patterns and attract lasting love? Join Tina Shayani on your journey to a fulfilling relationship. 🔗 Visit the Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TShayCoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📸 Follow on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@JourneyToLastingLove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 👍 Like on Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TShay Coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️ Subscribe on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TShayCoaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💼 Connect on LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tina Shayani⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔔 Follow & Subscribe so you never miss an episode—your journey to real love starts today! 💕✨

S2EP24: Why Do I Attract the Wrong People

In this episode of Journey to Lasting Love, host Tina Shayani explores the reasons why individuals often attract the wrong partners in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, the power of beliefs, and the role of hope in overcoming negative experiences. Through understanding attraction patterns and learning from past relationships, listeners are encouraged to shift their mindset and focus on personal growth to create healthier connections. Takeaways Attraction patterns often stem from our beliefs and focus. Self-awareness is crucial in recognizing negative patterns. Negative experiences can teach valuable lessons about what we want. Hope is essential for resilience in relationships. We have the power to change our point of attraction. Beliefs shape our reality and experiences in love. Awareness of subconscious beliefs can lead to personal growth. Every relationship serves a purpose in our journey. Empowerment comes from recognizing our own strength. Learning from past mistakes helps us move forward. 🌟 Stay Connected & Transform Your Love Life! 🌟 💖 Ready to break free from unhealthy patterns and attract lasting love? Join Tina Shayani on your journey to a fulfilling relationship. 🔗 Visit the Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TShayCoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📸 Follow on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@JourneyToLastingLove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 👍 Like on Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TShay Coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️ Subscribe on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TShayCoaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💼 Connect on LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tina Shayani⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔔 Follow & Subscribe so you never miss an episode—your journey to real love starts today! 💕✨

S2EP23: Surviving Heartbreak

In this episode, Tina Shayani discusses the emotional pain associated with breakups and offers guidance on how to navigate the healing process. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging the pain, implementing a no contact rule, letting go of fantasies about the relationship, finding support, and learning from the experience to foster personal growth. Takeaways The pain of a breakup is real and excruciating. You can survive the pain of a breakup. Going no contact is crucial for healing. Letting go of the relationship is difficult but necessary. Understanding the source of pain helps in the healing process. You must sever ties completely to heal effectively. It's normal to grieve the loss of a future you imagined with the person. Love alone is not enough to sustain a relationship. Breakups can lead to personal growth and learning. You have the power to heal and move forward. 🌟 Stay Connected & Transform Your Love Life! 🌟 💖 Ready to break free from unhealthy patterns and attract lasting love? Join Tina Shayani on your journey to a fulfilling relationship. 🔗 Visit the Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TShayCoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📸 Follow on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@JourneyToLastingLove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 👍 Like on Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TShay Coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️ Subscribe on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@TShayCoaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💼 Connect on LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tina Shayani⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🔔 Follow & Subscribe so you never miss an episode—your journey to real love starts today! 💕✨