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In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, we dive into the complexities of commitment by exploring our contrasting perspectives—one of us grappling with a fear of merging in relationships, the other reflecting on a tendency to overcommit. We unpack how childhood experiences, parental relationship models, and societal pressures shape our views on intimacy, boundaries, and compatibility. From the gamification of dating culture to generational differences in approaching relationships, we examine the challenges Gen X and Gen Z face in defining commitment. We also discuss the emotional weight of erectile dysfunction and the unrealistic expectations placed on male sexuality. Through honest conversation, we question traditional norms and explore the idea that commitment doesn’t have to be one-size-fits-all—sometimes, a redefined or intermittent approach may lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Commitment Phobia 00:02:21 - Commitment & Relationship Anxiety 04:40 - Commitment & Childhood Trauma 07:39 - Commitment Phobia & Dynamics 10:25 - Commitment, Casual Sex & Polyamory 13:10 - Commitment Issues & Attachment 15:14 - Avoidant Attachment & Dynamics 17:41 - Commitment vs. Incompatibility 20:00 - Commitment & "Perfect" Partners 22:20 - Dating Exhaustion & Sex Drought Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx [https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx]Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/] Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ [https://sexwithemily.com/] Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/]  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily] Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily] TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily] Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   [http://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text [https://sexwithemily.com/text]

This podcast episode tackles five common sex questions: communicating about sex and trying new things; improving oral sex; spicing up the sex life; increasing sex drive; and lasting longer. The episode emphasizes open communication as key to better sex, offering practical advice on navigating awkward conversations, addressing defensive responses, and prioritizing individual needs. Specific techniques for improving oral sex, addressing low libido (including medical and psychological factors), and dealing with differing sex drives are discussed. Several listener emails are addressed, providing personalized advice on various sexual challenges, including premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and overcoming discomfort with oral sex. The episode also recommends resources like Ian Kerner's work and suggests strategies for increasing sexual satisfaction and communication within relationships. Timestamps: 00:00:16 - Top 5 Sex Questions 00:03:30 - Improving Sex Communication 06:57 - Overcoming Barriers to Sex Talks 09:33 - Communicating Sexual Needs 15:43 - Boosting Sex Drive 18:49 - Libido & Relationship Issues 21:29 - Spice Up Your Sex Life 24:19 - Relationship Sex Issues 29:40 - Mastering Oral Sex 44:04 - Listener Questions & Intimacy 55:49 - Premature Ejaculation Issues This episode is sponsored by Aria - a nightstand-worthy lubricant that turns intimacy into a luxury experience. Get 20% off at http://arialuxelife.com/emily [http://arialuxelife.com/emily] with code SWE20. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx [https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx]Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/] Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ [https://sexwithemily.com/] Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/]  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily] Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily] TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily] Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   [http://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text  [https://sexwithemily.com/text] https://sexwithemily.com/the-ultimate-gui…aving-better-sex/ [https://sexwithemily.com/?p=39690&preview=true]

In this episode, we explore the science of lasting relationships with insights grounded in the Gottman Method. Discover the four behaviors that predict divorce with 94% accuracy, why emotional connection is key to great sex, and how couples can deepen intimacy with better communication—not perfect compatibility. From sleep-deprived parents to long-term partners, this conversation is packed with research-backed tips to transform your love life. #love #relationship #divorce Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Relationship Success & Gottman Institute 03:14 - Couple's Coffee Shop Love Story 06:33 - Predicting Relationship Success/Failure 10:03 - Four Horsemen of Apocalypse 17:03 - Relationship Workshops & Education 20:22 - Post-Baby Relationships 23:50 - Relationship Challenges & Communication 27:25 - Deepening Relationships Through Dates 30:23 - Rediscovering Shared Dreams & Values 46:33 - Factors in a Great Sex Life 1:00:00 - Prioritizing Relationships & Intimacy Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Full show notes here: https://sexwithemily.com/the-science-of-l…-prevent-divorce/ [https://sexwithemily.com/the-science-of-love-how-to-predict-and-prevent-divorce/]

In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily and Shroter, we’re joined by Dolly, a renowned sexological bodyworker featured in Cosmopolitan and Hustler, for a deep dive into somatic sex therapy and the true path to embodied pleasure. Dolly opens up about her healing journey after a sexless marriage—how breathwork, mirror work, and intentional self-touch led her to reclaim her body and reawaken her desire. Together, we unpack what it means to stop performing and start feeling, breaking down the difference between orgasm and climax, and how to explore your body with curiosity, not pressure. Timestamps: 00:01:08 - Healing Journey: Sex & Pleasure 00:07:17 - Post-Divorce Healing & Femininity 10:57 - Embodied Sexuality & Vulva Mapping 14:10 - Vulva Mapping & Frustration 20:06 - Embodiment, Self-Touch & Vulva Hug 23:50 - Vulva Hug Meditation Practice 32:03 - Vulva Anatomy & Trauma Release 43:41 - Reclaiming Your Vulva: Love & Healing 46:16 - Expanding Orgasmic Potential 01:00:51 - Q&A & Vulva Hug Meditation Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx [https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx]Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/] Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ  (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ [https://sexwithemily.com/] Let’s get social:  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/]  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily] Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily] TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily] Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   [http://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text  [https://sexwithemily.com/text]

This week on Sex With Emily, we're tackling one of the most harmful and outdated questions in modern dating: "What's your body count?" In conversation with holistic psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Scott Lyons, we explore the troubling origins of this term, once used to count military casualties, and how it’s been repurposed to judge sexual history, often unfairly targeting women. We unpack the double standards rooted in purity culture, the insecurities this question provokes, and the shame it can breed in both high and low numbers. More importantly, we discuss why the number of sexual partners has nothing to do with sexual skill, emotional readiness, or compatibility. #intimacy #love #relationships Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Body Count: A Sex-Positive Discussion 00:03:00 - Judging Past Relationships 05:51 - Body Count & Insecurities 08:24 - Why Judging is Wrong 10:46:38 - Historical Shame Roots 13:22 - Societal Shame & Body Count 15:47 - Regrets & Sexual Experiences 18:13 - Reframing the Conversation 22:44:04 - Ditching the Question 25:38 - Addressing Relationship Insecurities 37:53 - Pleasure, Goodbyes & Outro If you’re 21+, try VIIA! For 15% off AND a free gift with your first order go to ⁠https://viia.co/EMILY⁠ [https://viia.co/EMILY] and use code EMILY! #viiapartner Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx ⁠⁠ [https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx%20] ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [%20https://sexwithemily.com/guides/%20%20]Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides:⁠⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠⁠ [%20https://sexwithemily.com/guides/%20%20] SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ ⁠⁠ [https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ%20] (free shipping on orders over $99)Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠⁠ [https://sexwithemily.com/] Let’s get social: Instagram ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/] X ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠ [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily] Facebook ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily] TikTok ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily%20] Threads ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily ⁠⁠ [https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily%20%20] Let’s text: Sign up here ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text ⁠ [https://sexwithemily.com/text%20] Full show notes: ⁠ [https://sexwithemily.com/why-great-sex-starts-outside-the-bedroom/]