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In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily sits down with Mistress Justine Cross, a professional dominatrix, educator, and owner of Dungeon East in Los Angeles, to demystify BDSM and power play. From breaking down what BDSM actually means to exploring how anyone can safely incorporate kink into their sex lives, Justine shares over a decade of experience helping people discover their desires without judgment. We dive deep into the realities of professional domination, debunking myths perpetuated by "50 Shades of Gray" and explaining why BDSM is far more psychological than physical. Justine walks us through the importance of consent, negotiation, and boundaries, revealing how these skills enhance not just kinky encounters but all intimate relationships. We explore everything from beginner-friendly activities to advanced practices like chastity training and post-orgasm torture. This episode addresses common concerns about introducing kink to partners, finding compatible people who share your interests, and the difference between healthy exploration and unhealthy dynamics. Whether you're completely new to BDSM or looking to deepen your understanding, Justine provides practical advice for safe, consensual exploration while emphasizing that great kink—like great sex—is built on communication, trust, and mutual respect. Show Notes:  00:00 - Introduction to BDSM and Power Play  02:13 - Defining BDSM: Bondage, Discipline, Dominance & Submission  04:09 - Professional Domination: What Really Happens  07:10 - Debunking 50 Shades Myths  12:37 - The Omakase Approach: Exploring What You Like  16:01 - Orgasm Control and Chastity Training 18:16 - Communication: Talking to Partners About Kink  22:07 - BDSM 101: Starting Your Journey  25:32 - Creating Beautiful, Accessible Kink Spaces  30:06 - Ball Busting and Physical Play Safety  32:48 - Finding Your Dominant or Submissive Side This episode emphasizes that BDSM isn't about expensive equipment or extreme scenarios—it's about power exchange, communication, and exploring desires in a safe, consensual environment with partners who respect your boundaries. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx [https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx] Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/] Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ [https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ] (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ [https://sexwithemily.com/] Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/] X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily] Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily] TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily] Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily [https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text [https://sexwithemily.com/text]

In this bonus episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily breaks down the top 10 red flags in bed that go beyond bad technique—these are the behaviors that can seriously impact your safety, intimacy, and sexual satisfaction. From partners who never ask what you like to those who skip foreplay entirely, we explore the warning signs that indicate deeper issues around sexual awareness, communication, and respect. We dive into why these red flags matter, including partners who don't take feedback, make orgasm the only goal, ignore consent, lead with ego, and vanish emotionally after sex. Dr. Emily also addresses those who shame your fantasies, avoid sexual health conversations, and expect mind-reading instead of open communication. This isn't about shaming anyone—it's about recognizing patterns early so you can advocate for your needs and build healthier, more connected sexual experiences. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or just want to know what to watch out for, this episode gives you the tools to identify red flags and prioritize partners who truly care about mutual pleasure and respect. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx [https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx]  Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/]  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ [https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ] (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ [https://sexwithemily.com/] Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/]  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily]  Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily]  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily]  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily [https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text [https://sexwithemily.com/text]

In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily teams up with Dr. Scott Lyons, a licensed holistic psychologist and trauma expert, to tackle one of the most common relationship challenges: when sex starts feeling like just another item on your to-do list. From exploring why intimacy can lose its spark to practical strategies for reigniting desire, this conversation gets to the heart of what happens when pleasure becomes obligation. We dive deep into the psychology behind sexual disconnection, examining how stress, routine, and unspoken resentments can transform what should be joyful into something that feels burdensome. Dr. Scott shares insights on nervous system regulation and how our bodies respond when we're overwhelmed, while Dr. Emily offers practical advice on communication, scheduling intimacy, and the importance of prioritizing pleasure throughout the week—not just in the bedroom. This episode addresses the reality that many couples face: mismatched libidos, the pressure to perform, and the challenge of maintaining sexual connection amid life's demands. We explore how to shift from duty-based sex to desire-driven intimacy, the role of variety and spontaneity in long-term relationships, and why "priming for pleasure" throughout the week is essential for a fulfilling sex life. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - When Sex Becomes a Chore 03:00:00 - The Psychology of Sexual Obligation 06:41:00 - Mismatched Libidos and Relationship Dynamics 08:26:00 - Breaking the Routine: Adding Variety and Play 11:07:00 - Communication vs. Avoidance in Sexual Relationships 15:38:00 - Priming for Pleasure Throughout the Week 18:06:00 - Scheduling Sex: Intentional vs. Spontaneous Intimacy 23:10:00 - From Duty to Desire: Practical Strategies 28:14:00 - Building Anticipation and Connection 30:04:00 - Redefining Sexual Success and Satisfaction Whether you're feeling disconnected from your partner or just want to prevent sex from becoming routine, this episode offers compassionate guidance and actionable strategies for reclaiming the joy and connection that intimate relationships can provide. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx [https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx]  Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/]  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ [https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ] (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ [https://sexwithemily.com/] Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/]  X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily]  Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily]  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily]  Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily [https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily] Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text [https://sexwithemily.com/text]

In this captivating episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily welcomes back adult film legend and author Joanna Angel to discuss her brilliant new choose-your-own-adventure erotic novel "Club 42." From her transformative days as a stripper to building a porn empire, Joanna shares how embracing her sexuality became the foundation of her confidence and success We dive into Joanna's fascinating journey of sexual self-discovery, exploring how stripping taught her to embrace her femininity, develop unshakeable confidence, and connect authentically with others. Her new book takes readers on multiple erotic adventures through a strip club setting, allowing you to choose your own path through various sexual scenarios—from hooking up with fellow dancers to exploring BDSM and everything in between. This episode is packed with practical advice on dirty talk, sexting, and vocal expression during intimacy. Joanna breaks down why authentic communication is crucial for great sex, how to move beyond performative sounds influenced by porn, and why being genuinely expressive enhances pleasure for everyone involved. We also explore her weakness for "band guys" and how sexual attraction doesn't always align with our feminist ideals. Key Topics Covered: * How stripping transformed Joanna's confidence and sexuality * The art of choose-your-own-adventure erotica * Dirty talk vs. sexting: different skills for different situations * Moving beyond porn-influenced sexual performance * Why authentic vocalization enhances pleasure * Sexual confidence and embracing your desires * The psychology behind attraction to "bad boys" * Creating inclusive, diverse sexual narratives Joanna's refreshing honesty about sexuality, combined with her literary talents, offers listeners both inspiration and practical tools for expanding their own sexual adventures. Whether you're looking to spice up your relationship or explore new fantasies, this episode celebrates the power of choice, authenticity, and unapologetic pleasure. Show Notes:  00:00:00 - Joanna's journey from stripper to porn entrepreneur 08:00:00 - How stripping built unshakeable sexual confidence 15:00:00 - "Club 42": Choose-your-own-adventure erotica 23:00:00 - The art of authentic dirty talk and sexting 31:00:00 - Moving beyond performative sexuality 38:00:00 - Listener questions and practical advice This episode reminds us that great sex starts with knowing yourself, embracing your desires, and having the confidence to ask for what you want—whether in the bedroom or on the page. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠ [https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx]https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx [https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx]  ⁠Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠ [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/]https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/] ⁠ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free [https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ%C2%A0(free] shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠ [https://sexwithemily.com/]https://sexwithemily.com/ [https://sexwithemily.com/] ⁠ Let's get social:  Instagram ⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/]https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/]⁠  X ⁠ [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily]https://twitter.com/sexwithemily [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily]⁠ Facebook ⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily]https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily]⁠ TikTok ⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily]https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily] ⁠ Threads https:⁠// [http://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily]www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   [http://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily%C2%A0%C2%A0]⁠ Let's text: Sign up here ⁠ [https://sexwithemily.com/text]https://sexwithemily.com/text [https://sexwithemily.com/text]

In this essential bonus episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily tackles one of the most common and complicated questions in modern relationships: Does watching porn count as cheating? If you've ever felt that stomach-dropping moment when you discovered your partner's browser history, or wondered if your own porn consumption crosses a line, this episode is for you. Dr. Emily cuts straight through the confusion to reveal that there's no universal answer to this question—but if it's coming up in your relationship, there's something deeper worth exploring. The real issue isn't necessarily the porn itself, but whether this behavior is breaking trust and violating the agreements you've made with your partner. We explore why so many couples never discuss porn until someone gets hurt, how childhood conditioning around secrecy affects our adult relationships, and why the shame and silence surrounding porn often cause more damage than the porn itself. Dr. Emily also addresses when porn consumption can become genuinely problematic and offers practical guidance for having these crucial conversations. Key Topics Covered: * Why there's no universal definition of cheating * The difference between porn use and porn problems * How secrecy and shame damage relationships more than porn * Why many people never discuss boundaries until it's too late * When porn consumption becomes genuinely concerning * How to have honest conversations about digital boundaries * Moving from assumptions to actual agreements This episode emphasizes that porn doesn't ruin relationships—it's the lack of communication, transparency, and mutual understanding that creates problems. Whether you're completely comfortable with porn or feel threatened by it, this episode provides the framework for having honest, productive conversations about digital intimacy boundaries. Remember: Communication is always sexier than making assumptions and making your partner wrong. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠ [https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx]https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx [https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx]  ⁠Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: ⁠ [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/]https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ [https://sexwithemily.com/guides/] ⁠  Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free [https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ%C2%A0(free] shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠ [https://sexwithemily.com/]https://sexwithemily.com/ [https://sexwithemily.com/] ⁠Let's get social:  Instagram ⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/]https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ [https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/]⁠  X ⁠ [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily]https://twitter.com/sexwithemily [https://twitter.com/sexwithemily]⁠ Facebook ⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily]https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily [https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily]⁠ TikTok ⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily]https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily] ⁠ Threads https:⁠// [http://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily]www.threads.net/@sexwithemily   [http://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily%C2%A0%C2%A0] ⁠ Let's text: Sign up here ⁠ [https://sexwithemily.com/text]https://sexwithemily.com/text [https://sexwithemily.com/text]