Male Isolation Is Getting Worse | Here's What's Happening
The Jake Turner Podcast Ep. 28 ft. Ryan HuberIn this episode, Jake sits down with Ryan Huber, affiliate assistant professor of Christian ethics at Fuller Theological Seminary, author of Dietrich Bonhoeffer's Ethics of Formation, and special adviser to the New Canaan Society for a deep, unfiltered conversation about why male friendship is disappearing, what it actually takes to build community, and how real growth happens slowly, through relationships, habits, and the willingness to do the hard inner work.This isn't a feel-good conversation about being nice to people. It's a blueprint for any man who wants to stop being lonely and start building something that lasts.Together, they discuss:• Why Male Friendship Is Dying: The cultural and psychological forces pulling men apart and what to do about it • The Buffered Society: How technology, distance, and self-curation are quietly undermining our closest relationships • The Biggest Mistake People Make in Relationships: Why talking more than you listen is destroying your ability to connect • The Han Solo Effect: Why the people who stop trying so hard are the ones who actually get what they want • Little Ryan: The powerful therapy concept that helped Ryan lower his reactivity and show up better for his family • How to Write a Book: The three-step framework Ryan uses — including the donut hole method — to produce work that lasts If you've ever felt disconnected, reactive, or like the friendships and life you want keep slipping through your fingers, this episode will show you exactly why and what to do about it.👉 Subscribe for weekly conversations on purpose, discipline, clarity, and building a life that holds up.⏱ Chapters 00:00 | Why deep friendships are dying 01:38 | The buffered society and male loneliness 09:04 | How Jake met Jim and Ryan through his dog 16:30 | The biggest mistake people make in relationships 20:13 | Formation: why real growth takes a long time 26:05 | The Han Solo Effect 32:13 | The paradox of neediness and carrying your own weight 34:35 | Little Ryan: therapy, reactivity, and the inner child 47:32 | The productivity paradox and the lion mentality 53:10 | Why men don't stay long enough to build brotherhood 57:03 | The NICU story: Lewis, open heart surgery, and community 1:05:31 | How to build high quality friendships 1:06:38 | Live coaching segment: reacting less, responding more 1:18:36 | How to write a book: the donut hole method 1:29:47 | Advice to 9-year-old Ryan 1:31:10 | The one thing that made the biggest difference👉 Follow Ryan Huber: 📸 Instagram — search Ryan Huber 📚 Substack — formationtime.substack.com 📖 Books — search "Ryan Huber Formation" on Amazon👉 Follow Jake Turner for more grounded conversations on mindset, purpose, and growth: 📸 Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/jakepaulturner 📘 Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/jakepaulturner 💬 Threads — https://www.threads.com/jakepaulturner 🐦 Twitter / X — https://x.com/jakepaulturner ▶️ TikTok — https://www.tiktok.com/jakepaulturner 💼 LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/jakepaulturner 🎧 Spotify — https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/jakepaulturner 🍎 Apple Podcasts — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-jake-turner-podcast/id1845876962 🌐 Website — https://www.jakepaulturner.comDisclaimer: This episode is for educational, inspirational, and conversational purposes only. It does not constitute medical, psychological, or legal advice, and it does not create a clinician-patient relationship. Jake Turner is a Doctor of Nurse Anesthesia; however, views expressed are personal and do not represent any employer or institution. Always seek the guidance of qualified professionals regarding personal or mental health matters.#malefriendship #loneliness #mentalhealth #theology #formation #community #mindset #growth #relationships #faith #coaching #jaketurner #ryanhuber #growthmindset #nobaddays