EmpowerHER

(#118) Strangers by Belle Burden: Lessons in Love, Trust, and Financial Security

In this EmpowerHER Podcast episode, Diana reviews Strangers by Bell Burden, a memoir about the sudden collapse of Burden’s marriage in March 2020 after her husband’s affair and abrupt departure. While the book was widely described as shocking, Diana argues the real story is how Burden became financially and legally vulnerable: limited financial visibility, no independent income, and a prenup clause that left the husband’s earnings protected while his name was on properties she purchased. Using parallels from Real Housewives examples, Diana highlights a pattern of women trusting marriage to protect them. She closes with practical steps: maintain your own income, fully understand household finances, pursue prenups/postnups, keep skills current, and know your state’s divorce laws. 00:50 Why It Didnt Shock Me 01:53 Marriage Changes and Money 06:25 Prenup Trap and Financial Threats 10:06 The Real Question Vulnerability 13:51 Housewives Parallels 19:45 The Pattern Behind It All 21:57 Five Ways to Protect Yourself 22:23 Tip 1 Own Income 24:24 Tip 2 Know Every Detail 25:27 Tip 3 Prenup or Postnup 26:58 Tip 4 Keep Skills Sharp 28:13 Tip 5 Know Your Laws Follow Diana:  Work with me: ⁠https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/1-1-coaching [https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/1-1-coaching]  Email- coachdianadebolt@gmail.com [coachdianadebolt@gmail.com] Website - https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/ [https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/]  Instagram - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbGp6ZkZ1TzFiTHRRV2ZXbjJlMm5PMWVCaDJod3xBQ3Jtc0trZnp4TnBFRFFGdFFEZ1pmaFB1aXd5NHlQRTRaUGxRSnc1UUNsWWxMT09oazdKWnZSQ05MRGdMRDk4RWlPVE9zQUNlSTJLY1FSc1drM1RVT1dobUVLLThwaXFMV0Y2MWFPaHU4VHVEZWt3VF91aTd6NA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbit.ly%2F49rCLt0&v=jroF3PH-PTs @coachdianadebolt [https://instagram.com/coachdianadebolt?igshid=MW9iZmQwOGZmZWJiaA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr&fbclid=IwAR0HEXwR3Mi7efkZTpqwmvvp_o3GlBD60wFUWHprSNZc6whhKFS8dQrEUGY] Tiktok - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbGp6ZkZ1TzFiTHRRV2ZXbjJlMm5PMWVCaDJod3xBQ3Jtc0trZnp4TnBFRFFGdFFEZ1pmaFB1aXd5NHlQRTRaUGxRSnc1UUNsWWxMT09oazdKWnZSQ05MRGdMRDk4RWlPVE9zQUNlSTJLY1FSc1drM1RVT1dobUVLLThwaXFMV0Y2MWFPaHU4VHVEZWt3VF91aTd6NA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbit.ly%2F49rCLt0&v=jroF3PH-PTs@coachdianadebolt [https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdianadebolt?_t=8hBzBbeu6JF&_r=1] If you loved this episode, rate, review and subscribe!

(#117) EmpowerHER Q&A: Raises, Promotions, Burnout, Prenups, Boundaries, & Trusting Yourself

In this Q&A episode of the EmpowerHER Podcast, Diana answers common questions from clients and the community on career, relationships, and self-trust. She explains how to ask for a raise by documenting impact, using evidence, timing conversations early, and practicing a script, and why promotions require visibility and clear advocacy not just hard work. She discusses distinguishing burnout from a misaligned job by considering whether time off would restore you, and emphasizes boundaries and nervous system regulation. She reframes prenups/postnups as financial protection and argues a respectful partner should support them, then shares practical ways to “decenter men” through small choices and communication. She offers strategies for saying no at work, outlines why people-pleasing persists despite therapy, and describes confidence and self-trust as skills built through action, small wins, and letting go of societal timelines and comparison. 00:28 Asking for a Raise 03:07 Getting Promoted Faster 05:00 Leave or Burned Out 06:54 Prenup Without Guilt 08:56 Decenter Men in Love 11:31 Saying No at Work 13:30 Stop People Pleasing 15:09 Building Real Confidence 17:13 Stop Comparing Timelines 20:54 Trusting Yourself More Follow Diana:  Work with me: ⁠https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/1-1-coaching [https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/1-1-coaching]  Email- coachdianadebolt@gmail.com [coachdianadebolt@gmail.com] Website - https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/ [https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/]  Instagram - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbGp6ZkZ1TzFiTHRRV2ZXbjJlMm5PMWVCaDJod3xBQ3Jtc0trZnp4TnBFRFFGdFFEZ1pmaFB1aXd5NHlQRTRaUGxRSnc1UUNsWWxMT09oazdKWnZSQ05MRGdMRDk4RWlPVE9zQUNlSTJLY1FSc1drM1RVT1dobUVLLThwaXFMV0Y2MWFPaHU4VHVEZWt3VF91aTd6NA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbit.ly%2F49rCLt0&v=jroF3PH-PTs @coachdianadebolt [https://instagram.com/coachdianadebolt?igshid=MW9iZmQwOGZmZWJiaA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr&fbclid=IwAR0HEXwR3Mi7efkZTpqwmvvp_o3GlBD60wFUWHprSNZc6whhKFS8dQrEUGY] Tiktok - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbGp6ZkZ1TzFiTHRRV2ZXbjJlMm5PMWVCaDJod3xBQ3Jtc0trZnp4TnBFRFFGdFFEZ1pmaFB1aXd5NHlQRTRaUGxRSnc1UUNsWWxMT09oazdKWnZSQ05MRGdMRDk4RWlPVE9zQUNlSTJLY1FSc1drM1RVT1dobUVLLThwaXFMV0Y2MWFPaHU4VHVEZWt3VF91aTd6NA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbit.ly%2F49rCLt0&v=jroF3PH-PTs@coachdianadebolt [https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdianadebolt?_t=8hBzBbeu6JF&_r=1] If you loved this episode, rate, review and subscribe!

(#116) Why AI Might Be the Tool Women Need: Efficiency, Mental Load, and Closing the Gap

In this episode of the EmpowerHER Podcast, Diana explains why she values using AI and believes the benefits outweigh the drawbacks, particularly for women. She emphasizes that AI doesn’t reduce productivity but instead enhances efficiency by managing operational tasks and acting as a brainstorming partner for solopreneurs. The discussion highlights common applications such as supporting content creation, assisting with interview preparation and professional writing for career coaching clients, and enabling self-advocacy in healthcare and legal situations. It also explores how AI can help reduce women’s mental load through tools for meal planning, recipes, and organization, and suggests that AI may help bridge long-standing gaps in access to time, resources, and support, while acknowledging ethical concerns like privacy and job displacement. 01:47 AI for Content Creation 02:51 Brainstorming as a Solopreneur 03:28 Interview Prep and Writing 04:30 Advocating for Yourself 05:49 Reducing the Mental Load 07:36 Closing the Resource Gap 09:14 Ethics and Job Disruption 11:35 Start Small with AI Follow Diana:  Work with me: ⁠https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/1-1-coaching [https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/1-1-coaching]  Email- coachdianadebolt@gmail.com [coachdianadebolt@gmail.com] Website - https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/ [https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/]  Instagram - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbGp6ZkZ1TzFiTHRRV2ZXbjJlMm5PMWVCaDJod3xBQ3Jtc0trZnp4TnBFRFFGdFFEZ1pmaFB1aXd5NHlQRTRaUGxRSnc1UUNsWWxMT09oazdKWnZSQ05MRGdMRDk4RWlPVE9zQUNlSTJLY1FSc1drM1RVT1dobUVLLThwaXFMV0Y2MWFPaHU4VHVEZWt3VF91aTd6NA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbit.ly%2F49rCLt0&v=jroF3PH-PTs @coachdianadebolt [https://instagram.com/coachdianadebolt?igshid=MW9iZmQwOGZmZWJiaA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr&fbclid=IwAR0HEXwR3Mi7efkZTpqwmvvp_o3GlBD60wFUWHprSNZc6whhKFS8dQrEUGY] Tiktok - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbGp6ZkZ1TzFiTHRRV2ZXbjJlMm5PMWVCaDJod3xBQ3Jtc0trZnp4TnBFRFFGdFFEZ1pmaFB1aXd5NHlQRTRaUGxRSnc1UUNsWWxMT09oazdKWnZSQ05MRGdMRDk4RWlPVE9zQUNlSTJLY1FSc1drM1RVT1dobUVLLThwaXFMV0Y2MWFPaHU4VHVEZWt3VF91aTd6NA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbit.ly%2F49rCLt0&v=jroF3PH-PTs@coachdianadebolt [https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdianadebolt?_t=8hBzBbeu6JF&_r=1] If you loved this episode, rate, review and subscribe!

(#115) Decenter to Empower: Building Healthier, Happier Relationships

In this EmpowerHER Podcast episode, Diana explains what centering men costs women: sleep, confidence, time, nervous-system peace, and identity and describes how therapy can help unlearn beliefs shaped by family dynamics and patriarchy. How essential it is to learn to ask for what you need, and set boundaries. Diana contrasts past relationships with her happy marriage, where she consciously decides her husband by prioritizing friendships, travel, self-care, and career ambitions while still communicating and coordinating. The episode reframes decentering men as choosing yourself, not hating men or leaving relationships. 00:06 Self Abandonment Story 02:15 The Real Cost 04:38 Friends Over Men 06:53 Therapy and Rewiring 09:27 Healthy Marriage Shift 10:14 Decentering in Practice 13:28 Choose Yourself Follow Diana:  Work with me: ⁠https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/1-1-coaching [https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/1-1-coaching]  Email- coachdianadebolt@gmail.com [coachdianadebolt@gmail.com] Website - https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/ [https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/]  Instagram - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbGp6ZkZ1TzFiTHRRV2ZXbjJlMm5PMWVCaDJod3xBQ3Jtc0trZnp4TnBFRFFGdFFEZ1pmaFB1aXd5NHlQRTRaUGxRSnc1UUNsWWxMT09oazdKWnZSQ05MRGdMRDk4RWlPVE9zQUNlSTJLY1FSc1drM1RVT1dobUVLLThwaXFMV0Y2MWFPaHU4VHVEZWt3VF91aTd6NA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbit.ly%2F49rCLt0&v=jroF3PH-PTs @coachdianadebolt [https://instagram.com/coachdianadebolt?igshid=MW9iZmQwOGZmZWJiaA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr&fbclid=IwAR0HEXwR3Mi7efkZTpqwmvvp_o3GlBD60wFUWHprSNZc6whhKFS8dQrEUGY] Tiktok - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbGp6ZkZ1TzFiTHRRV2ZXbjJlMm5PMWVCaDJod3xBQ3Jtc0trZnp4TnBFRFFGdFFEZ1pmaFB1aXd5NHlQRTRaUGxRSnc1UUNsWWxMT09oazdKWnZSQ05MRGdMRDk4RWlPVE9zQUNlSTJLY1FSc1drM1RVT1dobUVLLThwaXFMV0Y2MWFPaHU4VHVEZWt3VF91aTd6NA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbit.ly%2F49rCLt0&v=jroF3PH-PTs@coachdianadebolt [https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdianadebolt?_t=8hBzBbeu6JF&_r=1] If you loved this episode, rate, review and subscribe!

(#114) 10 Brutal Truths I Learned at 33 (That Would’ve Changed My 20s)

In this birthday episode of the EmpowerHER Podcast, Diana reflects on turning 33 and shares 10 lessons from her twenties and early thirties for anyone feeling “behind.” She explains that you don’t need everything figured out in your twenties, confidence can be built as a skill, and therapy is essential for growth and healing. She challenges societal and patriarchal timelines around marriage and kids, encourages listeners to take risks and “do the thing,” and emphasizes loving yourself now rather than after external achievements.  00:00 – Birthday episode  + turning 33 reflections 02:00 – Lesson 1: You don’t need to have everything figured out in your 20s 04:30 – Lesson 2: Confidence is a skill (not a personality trait) 07:00 – Lesson 3: Therapy isn’t optional 08:45 – Lesson 4: The timeline was never yours 11:00 – Lesson 5: Do the thing (even if it scares you) 13:30 – Lesson 6: Love yourself now 16:00 – Lesson 7: The right partner comes when you stop settling 17:30 – Lesson 8: Money is freedom 18:45 – Lesson 9: Working hard isn’t the enemy 20:00 – Lesson 10: Contentment > happiness 21:45 – Final reflections: You are not behind Follow Diana:  Work with me: ⁠https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/1-1-coaching [https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/1-1-coaching]  Email- coachdianadebolt@gmail.com [coachdianadebolt@gmail.com] Website - https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/ [https://www.coachdianadebolt.com/]  Instagram - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbGp6ZkZ1TzFiTHRRV2ZXbjJlMm5PMWVCaDJod3xBQ3Jtc0trZnp4TnBFRFFGdFFEZ1pmaFB1aXd5NHlQRTRaUGxRSnc1UUNsWWxMT09oazdKWnZSQ05MRGdMRDk4RWlPVE9zQUNlSTJLY1FSc1drM1RVT1dobUVLLThwaXFMV0Y2MWFPaHU4VHVEZWt3VF91aTd6NA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbit.ly%2F49rCLt0&v=jroF3PH-PTs @coachdianadebolt [https://instagram.com/coachdianadebolt?igshid=MW9iZmQwOGZmZWJiaA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr&fbclid=IwAR0HEXwR3Mi7efkZTpqwmvvp_o3GlBD60wFUWHprSNZc6whhKFS8dQrEUGY] Tiktok - https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbGp6ZkZ1TzFiTHRRV2ZXbjJlMm5PMWVCaDJod3xBQ3Jtc0trZnp4TnBFRFFGdFFEZ1pmaFB1aXd5NHlQRTRaUGxRSnc1UUNsWWxMT09oazdKWnZSQ05MRGdMRDk4RWlPVE9zQUNlSTJLY1FSc1drM1RVT1dobUVLLThwaXFMV0Y2MWFPaHU4VHVEZWt3VF91aTd6NA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbit.ly%2F49rCLt0&v=jroF3PH-PTs@coachdianadebolt [https://www.tiktok.com/@coachdianadebolt?_t=8hBzBbeu6JF&_r=1] If you loved this episode, rate, review and subscribe!